A must-read book: ADHD: A Path | ADHD Information
Dear iyardie,If people want to attack, fine, let them come with
rational explanations of their point of view. Don't take
my word on what Dr. Weathers says; do your own
research and use your own mind to see if it makes
sense and correlates with your own experience and
also what you know. Also take into account the
experience of parents whose children are older and
who have already lived a little longer, searched a
little harder, and have seen what works for them and
what doesn't. My son is 17; I have been through a lot
with him.
I can only speak from my own experience. How can
you argue with success?
Remember, truth bows before no other gods; not the
medical establishment or anyone else. Think for
yourself and don't rest until you are satified that you
have the solution to the problem you are faced with:
how to help your child attain his potential.
I don't think this website needs to be a place where people attack each other for using or not using medication. I think it is wonderful that Mami has had this positive experience.
For my daughter, and for my husband, medication has been our miracle. That is our own personal experience and I would not expect to be attacked for my views which pertain to our own unique situation. Nor would I attack someone who makes another choice. Some people do not respond to meds, can not tolerate them or are uncomfortable with the concept and may need alternative therapies. However, alternative therapies may work for some but not others. Thus none of us should judge each other's choices, but we can testify to what works for us, understanding it may not be the right path for someone else. Isn't the point of this board to share information and to be supportive of each other?
I think it is fantastic that Alex has had this breakthrough and I thank Mami for sharing her experience!
iyardie, We do not attack people who speak out against medication if they don't attack us first. I think Mamis' post was most informative and she did not start it out by telling us we are wrong as the other posts you are referring to did. The lesson here is don't attack us and we will not respond in the defensive.
Mami, Thanks for sharing your story. -Gettingagrip-
In all reality I think people get way to worked up about others comments concerning whether to medicate or not.
I mean come on we are all adults if you are taking meds and they have been a life saver why would you stop taking them or care if someone doesn't approve of your decision. The opposite is also true even if you think need or want meds why complain about people who do. No one is forcing you to take them. Everyone just needs to relax and do what is best for them.
People today seem to be either the way to sensitive type or way the too preachy type. Both types drives me crazy. The boards are for support (you know being there for your fellow sufferers ) and advice (based on your experiences, not your wild theorys 
)
Let's all play nice. 
Words of caution: Oh boy!!!.. they are going to attack you for your views re: medication.. brace yourself!!iyardie38328.5782060185I posted yesterday and realized that I gave you wrong
website for Dr. Weathers and his book, so I thought I
would post again with the correct information. Here
is the correct website: www.caer.com
Wow, I really feel for you guys when I read your
posts, because I have been where you are and know
the angony and uncertainty you are experiencing with
your children.
I discovered a wonderful book called "ADHD: A Path
to Success: A Revolutionary Theory and New
Innovation in Drug-Free Therapy",
by Lawrence Weathers (Ph.D.) If your child is
affected with ADD or ADHD, you must read this book
immediately. It may save you years of anguish and
thousands of dollars, but most importantly, it may
help you to reestablish the loving relationship with
your child that has been heretofore lost because of
the stress of dealing with ADHD.
My now 17-year-old son, Alex, was a difficult baby
and child and had terrible problems in school with
distractibility, homework, and organization, among
other things. Because he was not hyperactive, his
ADD was not apparent until he reached 5th grade,
when he began having a different teacher for each
subject; all hell broke loose. Evenings often found
the entire family in tears. In fifth grade he was
diagnosed with ADD; medication was
recommended but refused. That was the worst year
of our lives.
Alex struggled along until the beginning of 11th
grade; we tried a few of the ADHD medications. After
a few weeks Alex refused to take them because of
the side effects. I was secretly relieved that he didn't
want to take these drugs.
In the middle of his 11th grade year I discovered Dr.
Weathers' book. Its on-line excerpts instantly clicked
with me. I ordered the book and read it; it made more
sense to me than everything I had read before. In his
book, Dr. Weathers systematically and easily
destroys the prevailing idea: "ADHD is a chemical
imbalance". This idea is chanted as a mantra in
mainstream psychology and is used as the rationale
to give kids stimulants. It was gratifying to see this
stupid idea finally debunked by someone using a
rational explanation and backed up with plenty of
clinical experience.
We went to Dr. Weathers' clinic in Spokane,
Washington, in May 2004. Not only is Dr. Weathers
brilliant, he is also a very nice guy and easy to work
with. We did the treatment with him as a family for
three days.
Alex finished off his 11th grade year well and earned
himself a car over the summer. He is now a senior
in high school. His GPA for the first quarter was 3.6.
He has pretty much lost the ability to explode in
anger that used to characterize his frustrated
moments before Spokane. He gets up in the
morning by himself now, whereas mornings used to
be a pitched battle between parent and child. He is a
pleasure to be around. A few weekends ago, he
removed and replaced the kitchen faucet for me
almost completely by himself; he stuck to this difficult
job until it was finished. I would never have imagined
he could do something like this before. I am now
hopeful about Alex's future; we are busy planning his
college career.
Just today I got an email update from Alex's U.S.
Government teacher. This is what she wrote me:
"Alex just received another A on the last test. If he
turns in all of his chapter assessments & two
homework assignments due at the end of this
week, he will have a high A for the quarter (the
highest grade in his class!!). I want to take this
opportunity to say that Alex has shown one
of the most impressive turn-arounds I have ever
seen in my career. He isn't just doing it academically
either - his personal attitude & confidence have
soared this year as well. I have always known that
Alex is brilliant, but to see this realized & manifested
before my eyes is the greatest reward a teacher
could ever hope for."
Can you imagine how wonderful I felt when I read
this?
I cannot recommend Dr. Weathers' book highly
enough. It will get you thinking about the erroneous
mindset the mainstream has convinced everyone is
true and it will help you to see the real reasons your
child acts the way s/he acts. Here is his website:
www.caer.com
Don't give up hope that you will find answers to the
your questions on how best to help your child.
Remember to be patient with your child, even when
you are completely frustrated, and remember to tell
your child how much you love him (her).
All I am saying is that when one speaks out against medication they tend to attack. I will certainly look into it. Thank you.