Bad mornings | ADHD Information
Laughing with you not at you. My 14 year old son is difficult. It's a fact that teens need more sleep, yet they start school for them so early.
I can't convince him to go to bed any earlier.
We knock on his door and have to remind him a couple of times. Forget about an alarm clock - he had one but the "black hole in his room" sucked it up.
Now the dog whines and scratches at his door.
I am not a morning person either so I give him a bit of leeway but I do not allow nastiness and rudeness. When he comes to the table with that "I hate the world face" and he is rude and nasty, I tell him to leave the table, get dressed and come back when he is nicer. Sometimes he just doesn't come back to the table.
I find that his mood picks up after he eats - assuming he feels like eating.
If he is running late and starts blaming it on me, I do not put up with that and remind him that it is his responsibility to get out on time and that we do wake him in plenty of time. He knows if he misses the bus he can get a ride so there is no need for the anxiety attacks - he just chooses to panick.
Why is my 15 year old daughter so hateful and difficult to get up and going in the morning? She takes "not a morning person" to a whole new level! It typically takes me 30 to 45 minutes to get her awake and out of bed then she looks at the clock and yells at me for not getting her up earlier. It's so frustrating. Certainly not the way I enjoy starting my day. Does anyone else have this problem?My oldest ( no adhd) is tough to get up in the mornings, I think it is just teens. We have a rule though, I am leaving at X time, and the kids are leaving also, if they are still in their pajamas, then they are going to school that way!Oh, how I understand this. I am not a morning person and have a great deal of trouble in the mornings. My 12 year old is the same way.
My thought is life should begin after 9:00 am. I start getting my second wind at 9:00 pm and work sometimes until the wee hours of the morning. I do all my laundry, dishes and housework at night. I do not vacuum after 9:00 pm, unless hubby is out of town. My husband is up and out the door before 6:30 each morning. He also goes to bed at 9:00 pm everynight.
I remember the doctor's office scheduling me an appointment at 8:30 and I started laughing and ask them if that was in the a.m.? They didn't appreciate the joke.
We tend to have quiet time in the mornings. We do not talk to each other till we have been up for a while. I make him make his own breakfast. I give him 1-2 hours in the mornings to get ready and going.
We homeschool, so we can be more flexible on our schedule. We start school at 10:00 am and end somewhere between 2-4 pm depending on the workload for the day.
reruho,I envy you for being able to homeschool. I am also fighting battles to get
my ds (12) to get up in the morning; my method is to prep him at night.
When I'm saying "good night" i'm reminding him that I'll be waking him up
early in the morning, and that I expect him to get up when I call him. I also
remind him of less successful mornings when he ended up late at school
(which he hates, thankfully), and tell him that I will get him there on time if
he gets up when I call him. We sort of make a "pact" at night, and the
routine seems to go easier in the morning when we do. There's a lot to be
said for getting on the same page ("US AGAINST THE WORLD!!!") and
planning things together. For me, it's always worked wonders. Good
luck! :)
Jillette,
Has a good point. At 15, she is wanting to be treated like an adult. Tell her it now her responsibility to get herself to bed and up in the mornings. Tell her if she wants to be treated like an adult then she must start acting like an adult. This is step 1.
We told my son that he has control over his bedtime until I start having problems in the mornings (grumpiness, I'm sick comments or a refusal to get up). Once the problems start, then I get to dictate his bedtime. What a difference it has made for him and he is only 12.
[QUOTE=mamark]Learning to get up in the morning even when your body tells you otherwise is part of growing up. Better to learn it now rather than later on the first job or in college. [/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=edbson]My oldest ( no adhd) is tough to get up in the mornings, I think it is just teens. We have a rule though, I am leaving at X time, and the kids are leaving also, if they are still in their pajamas, then they are going to school that way![/QUOTE] AMEN to that!!!!!
I can't tell you how many times my sister and I have told our kids that. She even had to take he daughter to school one day in her jammies. She made sure she was up and ready for school EVERY day after that. It DOES work.
HisMom30139537.3242939815Learning to get up in the morning even when your body tells you otherwise is part of growing up. Better to learn it now rather than later on the first job or in college. Some people are just not morning people! I was and am still one of them. I am in my mid-30's now, but I gave my Mom the same trouble that you are experiencing. My Mother would pull my sheets off me and literally yank me out of bed and onto the floor. I once thought she caused me to not be a morning person, but I got over the blame game fast after years of trying to alter my sleeping patterns. Even if I go to sleep early, it doesn't work. My only two cents would be to be patient through those teen age years. 
He/She just may not be a "morning" person.Dd has two alarm clocks ACROSS the room from her that go off within 2 minutes of each other. I steal her covers so that she can't get warm in bed again. No yelling or screaming. All is calm and calculated. If she's late for bus I have to make something that will go down quickly...OATMEAL! She can only take oatmeal so many days in a row. We also give her a sticker if her morning routine goes well. She earns stickers for a number of things. At 100 stickers she goes into the treasure box. Does she have her own alarm clock? Tell her it is her responsibility not yours for getting up in time. I have heard of the difficulties in the mornimg.
Do you know what I've done? Hehehe. I sneak into my dd's room and blast the radio. Then as she is fumbling around trying to figure out what is going on I dance around and sing along at the top of my lungs. 
The mere fact that her mother is acting like a fool and a lunatic, and completely messing up the lyrics -- usually gets her laughing at me and I can haul her out of bed to dance with me.
This isn't every morning of course But it's one of the tricks I use to get her up without a fight.
And I am not above bribery either 