12 yr got arrested for half mooning kids | ADHD Information

Yep, the principle that I fight so much w/ called the police and is pressing charges on my son for 'lewd' behavior. My son was walking to homeroom, 7:48 am when his pants fell down also pulling down his boxers. Not the whole way mind you, but enough to reveal the top portion of his buttocks. Of course it started as an accident but since everyone thought it was sooo funny my son took the ball and ran w/ it...making sure it happened again once he got into the classroom. The incident was 'caught on film' and the principle called the police and requested to press charges, then sent him home w/ 10 days out of school suspension . The police are referring it to juvenile probation bound over for COURT! This is the same principle who demanded i call my family doctor to increase his medicine, when i refused he threw the papers in the iep meeting in from of 12 other people and said the meeting is over. My son has not had ONE, not ONE, bad incident since that IEP meeting, thanks to the plan I designed and presented. But in the meantime, the school district called regarding a referral from this principle for him to be placed in diagnostic school, which i refused, and i get silly calls about him wearing an empty tic tac container as a necklace charm etc, and requesting he serve three day ISS for incidents that occurred months ago before the eip plan which consisted of him talking, or laughing or running thru the halls....My son's psychiatrist supports my decision to not increase med, and the school's psychologist supports my decision to have my son remain in regular ed and follow the IEP plan. But this principle seems to be on an ego trip to be right, and has told me that it is easier for him to send my son away then to have to deal w/ his behavior because he has too many other students to deal with. He also told my mother my son is the worst kid in the school but yet his counselors have sat in his classroom and said that is not true, and in his daily journal book, i have not had any negative remarks from his teachers. Initially he did go through a period of about two months where he was a holy terror, but the school didnt inform me until it had spun well out of control. Now that I got it under control w/ his daily journal which i requested be noted by all teachers, he hasnt gotten any credit for doing a total 180! Instead, I know he would be waiting for the first chance he could to pounce, and my son gave it to him today....Do you think I am just being defensive (which I was also called) by not thinking this was serious enough to be a legal issue which he is now going to be on juvenile probation??? Luvmykids0239543.936724537it is easier for them to send him away ... i think the iep team just needs to refer him to a secondary school ... do you have an education advocate? you are not in the drivers seat right now. what is the iep category -- ED or OHI?

You know, what happened to the attitude of "GOOD GRIEF" and leaving it at that?  Why is everything a court matter? I am actually a very high-strung parent. Meaning I have high expectations for my children...I would punish my boys for doing what your son has done. I have punished my boys for their rowdy behavior in school. But what is the deal with them taking the control? We are a nation spinning out of control.

There are children with leukemia fighting battles for their lives. There are children who are plotting a school shooting, and are usually the very quiet ones. "We" (strongly generalizing) over-react and under-react all the time...Where is the light-hearted humor and gratitude for the 'small' stuff?  Where is thankfulness for a boy just being rowdy instead of leaving the school feeling threatened? Everything is POUNCED on like it's a ticking time bomb...I understand caution and strongly encourage tightening security and strengthening awareness and am an advocate for consequences for bad behavior.  But to make such a fuss over a boy showing what my 6 year old's peers do in the bathrooms is ridiculous.

Are you defensive, probably.  But you are also aware and active in his 'issues'.  I am sorry you are going to have this battle.  Best of luck and sorry I had no advice, just understanding for your feelings. 

ilovemyboys39539.5276157407 If this Gestapo-minded society we live in now had been around when I was in school, I would have been in juvenile hall instead of graduating cum laude. People have gotten so darned touchy about everything!!! It's no damned wonder that so many kids get screwed up on the way to adult. BPQW39539.9858912037

>>This is the same principle who demanded i call my family doctor to increase his medicine, when i refused he threw the papers in the iep meeting in from of 12 other people and said the meeting is over.>>

 

Do you have this recorded? Witnesses? He is practicing medicine without a license and he could get into a LOT of trouble for that. Pull out all your Big guns and threaten the hell out of the principle. I bet the charges get dropped! Better yet, Do you have a friend who is an attorney? Have them drop a phone call to get his "info".

It is not the principles job to decide when the meeting is over, it is when the Team comes to a resolution!What an idiot.

 

I have BTDT with the school district, with teachers picking on DD constantly etc. Go for the throat, it's the only way they will stop sometimes.

If you haven't already, document everything that has happened.  Then find out what the chain of command is- it's different in every state, here in MD we have an area superintendant who is directly over the principal- and work your way up to the school board making sure they all get detailed accounts of what has happened.  It sounds like your son is being harrassed for petty things that other children don't get in trouble for, and the principal should not be making any recommendations regarding meds. 

The mooning thing obviously must be addressed, but pressing charges is over the top (what ever happened to detentions- do they not give those out anymore?)- you'd think they would at least be able to show a little understanding in that kind of situation.  He avoided being the butt of a bunch of jokes and teasing by being goofy and doing it again. 

Probably because he showed his A$$, it is sexual harrassment.

I would go to the school committee and complain about this principal - don't put up with this. It will be a fight but it sounds like you are being bullied.

If you have a psychiatrist and the school psychologist telling you not to increase meds., then you are right.

BPQW - I couldn't have said it better.  Some where along the line, we have lost the wisdom to tell the difference between normal rowdy boys and dangerous behaviour.  

We are law suit happy - kids can't be kids anymore.  Bullies get away with bullying - a kid gets arrested because he bought a candy bar from another kid in a "candy free zone" school - an honor student too.

School systems defend there own even if they are wrong - I have first hand experience in this.