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It sounds like a change of meds is needed, or a dosage change.

As far as your dh, when mine suggested the same thing I told him " I would be happy to have DD homeschooled, but I was not doing it, he could!!"

Thanks for your support.  We're going to have to go with a med change----  Joe's teacher and I talked more yesterday and she pointed out he is stuttering MUCH worse now, since being on the Concerta.  And she is right.  I didn't even make the connection.... Joe has had speech issues all his life and has speech therapy still, so I didn't think of it being a side effect of the meds.  I just thought he was having trouble finding his words- but his teacher is right, it has been much worse being on the concerta.  (and upon looking it up, stuttering can be a side effect of Concerta... I didn't know that before.  I need a "moron" sticker on my forehead for this... I can't believe I didn't make the connection.)

You're all right, DH is NOT educated about ADHD.  I have a bunch of books on the subject, and a favorites folder on my internet with ADHD resources (I've done lots of research since Joe was diagnosed).  DH doesn't have a lot of free time, and when he does he doesn't spend it reading up on ADHD.  I wish he would.  It's hard enough having strangers not understand :)

Educate your husband on ADHD - it took a while for my husband to accept it.

Hang in there and do something for yourself so you don't go nuts!  Get some support for yourself.  You can't go through this alone.

Home schooling - oh boy - I know my son would do well with it because he works well one on one but I'd end up losing my mind.

My son Joe has been on his medications for a month (Concerta).  We started with a low dosage and moveed to a higher one after a week.  He did well for about 2 and a half weeks but now he is back to his pre=med self and he is stuttering a lot now too.  I'm waiting for his doctor to call me when he gets back into the office tomorrow.

I'm just SO discouraged.  We've only just begun the med journey (after trying everything else... behavior mod, supplements, dietary changes, etc.)  Ihate this whole thing.  I just want my boy to be happy and succeed. 

On top of it all my husband is against all meds.  He's talking about pulling Joe out of school and having me homeschool him, thinking Joe will just grow out of it.  (Joe is ADHD combined type.)  I feel like I'm all alone in this. 

I just don't know how to help my son.  Usually I can stay positive, and feel that I'm doing all I can to help him, but right now all I feel like is a complete failure. 

My daughter did all the ritalin meds first. Concerta lasted with her for about 3 weeks...then I think it actually made her worse than being off the meds. Her body basically got used to it. So the doctor put her on Adderall...which is different that the Ritalin product. See what the doctor says...it's all trial and error.   Keep your head head up! You can get through this![QUOTE=lexismom] My daughter did all the ritalin meds first. Concerta lasted with her for about 3 weeks...then I think it actually made her worse than being off the meds. Her body basically got used to it. So the doctor put her on Adderall...which is different that the Ritalin product. See what the doctor says...it's all trial and error.   Keep your head head up! You can get through this!

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ADHD meds is all trial and error. What works for one child might not work for another. Alot of times, you have to go through a bunch of different meds at different doses to see which one works best. Sometimes, their body get adjusted to that dose that they need a higher dose.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!! My husband too was against meds...but now that he sees what a great help that meds are with school and daily interactions that he is all for it. Please do not pull your son out of school to be homeschooled. It seems that your husband may not be as educated on ADHD as much as you are. He doesnt understand that the child cannot really help it. I told my husband flat out that i love him very much, i respects his opinion but he is my son too and I have to do what i feel in my heart and gut is right. I told him i am sorry if it offends him, but i have to do what i have to do. He didnt have anything to say after that. He knew that I wasnt trying to be disrespectful or mean or anything. But that i was simply looking out for our son.

 

Long story short, dont give up. Keep your head up, and stick to your guns. Please do not get discouraged. You will find that right treatment for your son...just be patient because sometimes it takes a lot and long effort.

my dd tried 3 concerta doses before finding the right one, and she is on 36mg now, and is doing amaising, i would try another dose, 36mg if he's not already on that, don't give up, and your dh is not well instructed on adhd, i would go out and buy books for him to read, you do not outgrow adhd. Your son could benefit from being homeschooled, but it would also be very frustrating on everybody if he can not focus, i know it's impossible to do homework with dd when off meds, she gets discouraged on the first word she sees, and ends up in tears and me yelling, and just....sigh...

You need to do what ever you can for your son to succeed in life, if it's one big battle it lowers there self esteem, and thats when you run into issues as teens.