Hi Pippy,
First of all may I say I think the head has acted highly unproffessional by contacting other schools in your area. Do they have SENCO in place at the school? If so, it is them you need to consult.
It sometimes feels like it is you and your child against the rest of the world, but you must never give up, you will get there in the end.
I used to stand alone in the playground, while other parents would talk loudly about my son, saying what a horrible child he was! Daily I would be dragged into the school 'for a word.' I would forever be apologising to some mum or other for something he had done to their child. At one point my son had to come out of school half an hour before everyone else, so I could a avoid a mum who had threatened to beat me up because my son had bitten her son!! The embarrassment!!
The problem in this country is ADHD is still unrecognised by a lot of people.
Tell me about it Pippy about senco. They are fantastic once in place but thats only once the school have asked for it. I know the feeling about standing in the playground alone and getting the comments and looks. Its horrible. Changing my sons school was a last resort but I think its going to be a good one for him. Anyway one day ADHD will be reconised and people will understand it wasnt us. Good luck and keep your chin up.can anyone help me my daughter has adhd and i have just been told by the school that she might not be intitled to support in school in this right i really think she needs it. I really don,t understand the school tell you that your child has problems in school but are unable to get the support that she needs what more as a parent can i do apart from keeping her home which doesn't help no solve any thing i really feel upset iam trying my best can any one help My sons pedi. told me that I would have to be my sons advicate. That the school probably would not take his needs seriously until I became very involved in my sons education. My sons school knows that nobody on Gods green earth loves my kids more than me and I will do any and everything for them. Even if it means getting in their face in a correct manner. My child will not suffer at the hands of his school because they choose to do nothing for him. This has made his life easier. The school also knows that they can call me at anytime and I will be there. If they need a volunteer hey I there. What I am trying to say is that you have to build a relationship with your childs school. She spends 1/2 of her awake time there. If the school is totally unwilling to help after you do your part. Then inform yourself of your legal rights. If this is a public school then by law they have to help. If it is a private school then choose another. No school or person working in a school should come between your child and her education. Here is a website to start you search. I hope you find it helpful, it talks about your childs rights by law. Keep me updated.thanks for the reply the school has not help me at all but made matters worse i have had 2 parents screaming in my face because the teachers keep telling them that my daughter as hit them never mind that they have pulled peices out of her hair but there we are she's the one who is to blame it must be nice to have perfect children if only life was that simple so i feel that they have made matters worse not better i have tried speaking to teacher time after time they are great face to face but nothing is done i a phone special needs educational board but they can't do anything unless the school asks for it can i beleive that this school that had made matters worse actually admit this and help i think not i was also told by her teacher that is is not me as aparent she thinks iam a wounderful mother but she knows a wounderful mother whose son is now in prison is this supposed to help i have tried moving schools but the head mistress phoned the other school before i did and had the nerve to say i wasn't dealing with my problems and need to work with the school more so the head mistress from the new school said it wasn't a good idea to move school but to work more closley with her school and if after doing this i feel i want her moved would only then will they consider her what a joke at the moment i feel like iam not coping very well and am considering going to the doctors for me to go on some sort of anti depression this is how bad this has made me feel never mind how my 6 year old child feels what a mess
So I take it then that she is in private school. Have you considered placing your child in a public school or maybe having her homeschooled. My middle child is homeschooled.thanks lisaglover iam just glad that the senco is coming to see her and hopfully thing will start to move in the right direction i hope any way iam still considering changing school after all the referals are complete the next problem is finding a school that will take and will support her better than the school she is in now the only thing that worry is that she is only 6 now and i have many years to over come i hope this will be alot easer than it has been so far i hope evry thing is ok with your son and yourselfHi. As a special education teacher, I can tell you your child is required to be serviced. However, they have to place her in a category for which they will service her. I am in Europe on a military installation, so our schools work a bit differently. I see you are in Britain and I don' know the laws there. I am sorry. But there should be some kind of similar law in Britain that a child with needs must be serviced. Goo luck to you.I also wanted to add that YOU DO need to be the advocate for your child. Some schools, as sad as it is to say, will do the minimum they are required to do because they think the parent doesn't know any better. You need to find out what your rights are. Compile a binder with the laws, regulations, and anything that will help you plead your case. Study those laws, know them inside and out. When someone says something to you like, we can't do that, you turn to the page that says THEY HAVE to do that, and show it to them. Let them know that you are not a force to be reckoned with and you mean business. I'm sure in Britian also that schools have someone to answer to and can be taken to court for wrong doing. Schools hate that,so they want to make sure to keep you happy so you don't take their bonuses away!
hi crazymom i tried the hard approch and acheived more in that morning than i had in 3 months the headmistress didn't know what hit her as she walked all over me christmas week as i was so upset i could question anything i just had to sit and listen to them tell me how awful my 6 year daughter was and that i needed to refer her for behavioural assesment which i thought must be right i went away not knowing waht to do so i phoned her old school teacher who was very upset what they said about my little girl she said yes she is buisy but she is not agressive nor as bad as what they say but she gave me some good advice and that was go for any referal you need to do and then they have to do there part which i did and just prived that she is not agressive but fingding work hard and finding it hard to sit still which is not a big issue considering they made out that this child is a monster so i went into her office angry and frustrated that she was telling me to do the wrong thing to make it easer for her so i asked for a complaints form which she gave me she then changed what was said about my daughter she said may be she doesn't need to be refered and things might have been blown out of proption but i said yes i want the referal for her and me as i need to know what is wrong with her so she had to ask for some one to come and see her so now to ball is staring to roll
thank god