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Hello Ladies,

Sometimes I just can not help from feeling hopeless. When I think about the future with my ADHD ds I want to run away to Mexico and never come back. I know with out a glimmer of hope things will get worst before thay get better when he hits puberty he is 9 now. The meds. have helped alot, but I still have to be so aware of his moods and situation to make sure he stays on track and does not melt down.

It is even stressful when he has friends over because I try to monitor him enough so that he does not wind up friend less. He does pretty good, but still has moments of getting very annoying. It is hard for him to stop when it starts and ignores his friends social cues like he could careless what they think. I never feel comfortable when he is at someone else's house and that sucks. I would love a break and send him down the street and say come back at 5:00 like his friends mother does all the time to me!!  I feel trapped since I can't just call her and say it is your turn to watch the boys. Well, she sure is lucky because her daughter comes and plays here with my daughter too, not to mention the double sleep overs. I also have a 18month old and needless to say 5 kids are harder than 3   .

I think I am going to start having my 6 year old dd go down there more now that she is getting a little bit older . I think I need a local support group because my husband does not like to talk about the adhd and the medications my son takes. I feel very alone sometimes in all this. Oh and of course finacially things are terrible and  I still need to lose 25lbs from having the baby a year and half ago and I am also turing 40 this year  .   

Ok, deep breath, deep breath. Well with that said I think I feel a little bit better. I get things could be alot worse but sometimes you just have to whine. 

Thanks for listening ladies it does help to get these things of my chest!!

Gail  

you know Gail, my daughter was 10 when I turned 40 and that was a sucky year! BOY I hated it all. So...... did that make you feel better . No, my point is, I dont feel as bad about it now. My age bothers me less, even though I'm obviously older, she still has ADHD and has probably more school issues than before. She's now a teenager, but still VERY immature, but I've done some different kinds of things that have helped. One is letting go just a little bit. There is only SO much of their lives we can live for them. I used to wear myself out with the social arrangements (and I believe it helped tremendously) so keep it up, but it will shift over the next few years and especially in middle school. It becomes their thing, not yours anymore. With meds I've come to the conclusion nothing is perfect and I need her ok. So I've given up a bit on symptom relief to have no side effects, but now know this is the right choice for us. My overall point is to hang in, it will get better.

LOTS of whining to whoever would listen helped me too! So keep on whinin' thats what this place is for!