my 9 yr old | ADHD Information
Ok so my son apparently stayed up until midnight last night. I didnt know this because when all my kids went to bed,i went to bed. My husband apparently was still up and knew he was up that late. Which infuriates me. But so now this morning my son is very angry, and hateful and having a major tantrum that he doesn't want to go to school today. Which we told him it doesn't matter he has to go. It has taken us almost 45 min just to get him to get dressed. Now it's a battle getting his socks and shoes on. I don't know what i'm going to do with him if he continues this.
Any suggestions other then grounding my husband for allowing him to stay up late?
He normally doesn't stay up this late, but this is the 2nd time this week alone that he's been really upset and angry in the morning, crying he didn't want to go to school cause he was sick at his stomach. Which I think its an anxiety thing. They are having spirit week at school this week and he doesn't have any hawaiian stuff to wear and then he reacted the same way earlier in the week when he didn't have a tourist stuff to wear. so i don't know if it has anything to do with it or not, but its a coincidence.
any ideas, please before i lose my mind.
brtsqd3
It seems to me that what schools plan for fun is extremely stressful for children with adhd. Our children tend to let the smallest things stress them out because they are having to make so many adjustments in every little area of their everyday lives.
Now that my 8 1/2 year old son is hospitalized for stabilization, I have had time to think what it is that he can't tolerate and produces the tantrums and screaming. I know that this is his way of not being able to deal with the emotions that are running through him. If it is hard on us, rest assured that it is just as hard or harder on them.
I had let Jon sleep in my room with a sleeping bag when he was having trouble sleeping. When he was really having a bad night I would hold him in bed. He used to hold on so tight. Then his neurologist told me I was spoiling him and he had to learn to sleep in his own room. This led to many sleepless nights and increased anxiety for him. I think this is when the meds he was on stopped helping and started rebounding so badly. When Jon comes home, if he needs me to sleep he will be welcomed. I know in Japan, children sleep with their parents until they are at least five. A hundred years ago, siblings all slept together for years and years. I bet that it made them feel more secure- safety in numbers
But back to your son: he is probably overtired and overstressed. TGIF. You can both get some sleep this weekend. Perhaps you can lay his clothing out for him the night before. If you can, maybe you can drive him to school for a few days if he takes the bus. If all fails- get him a sleeping bag and let him camp out in your room or the tv room. Or get him a cd player and put in some classical music and let him listen to it at night. You can also get these night lights at the supermarket that change color constantly, or a lava light. Anything to take his mind off whatever he is thinking of.
One thing that ALWAYS made Jon fall to sleep FAST was that I would read him his school books. History, science, health, or I would sit there with his spelling list and spell words, or do the times tables. 
I am sorry to hear that he's experienced such a terrible loss...
Some people give their kids melatonin to help them fall asleep. Maybe you could ask his dr and see if that helps any. I know when I don't sleep well, I can have a bad day afterwards.
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Any suggestions other then grounding my husband for allowing him to stay up late?
[/QUOTE]I have the same problem! There are many times when my husband has put the kids to bed and doesn't check on them and they are up until very late reading. The next time it happens, I am going to leave him in charge of the morning routine, so he can deal with the tired and cranky kids.
My youngest daughter still sleeps in our room. We have tried to make her sleep in her own room. It just causes more stress than it is worth. I figure eventually she'll get there. My oldest used to sleep in our room and have been in her own room for a couple of years now. I say do what works for your family.
This is the same thing Will has been doing. He was a BEAR in the mornings. His dr asked if he slept well, and I said, he sleeps fine once he actually falls asleep but he has trouble getting there. Will is now taking Risperdal. It helps him fall asleep and either the med itself is helping his overall mood OR the med is helping him sleep which is helping his overall mood.. I'm not sure which but things are noteably better.
My confusion here is normally the school psychologist does the rating testing. As for the husband letting him stay up if your son was in his room doing the right thing but could not fall asleep then the hubby is innocent if otherwise then talk to him and let him know what happens in the mornings. well i guess she is the psychologist, she's the one students go to to talk about things etc. my son struggles every night to get to sleep, but usually finally gets bored and falls asleep, but apparently that wasn't the case last night. but i still think my husband should be grounded for it. lol
so i finally spoke with the social worker this morning at his school and she is sending home a conner rating scale for me to rate him, she's sending one to his teacher for him to do, and then she is going to sit in on the class and observe him on task etc and then she is going to rate the conner tomorrow and then prepare a report next week and i have a meeting with her next thursday at 3pm.
she gave me a teachers name who to request for him for next year. her classroom is VERY STRUCTURED and quiet. which is the same teacher i had heard from other parents about. so thats who i will request. but for now i'm waiting for our meeting to discuss him. she also is very concerned by the fact that his grades are dropping drastically every quarter in math & reading. so we'll go from there after the meeting thursday.