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Hi I have a 6 year son who means the world to me. He has ADHD. He is on medication Medated CD 30 MG. in the morning & Metadate ER in the afternoon. He has been on this for a while now. Lately he has been getting in trouble at school everyday. He is lying, being disruptive, being impulsive, more then usual. He does not act this way at home when my boyfriend is there he knows that this behavior is not tolerated. He doesn't listen to me at all. We have been to behavioral therapy & that has not helped. I don't know what to do anymore. I love him so much & hate to see him punished all the time. I know that some of this is my fault because I babied him when his father left. Now that I have a new man in my life for the past 2 years my son is not happy at all. Because he has to listen now. My boyfriend is the best thing that has happened to us. He is a great guy & has helped alot with my son. I am just so confused about how to help him.

Thanks for listening

Hi...I will tell you what has worked for me with my son. He is 10 years old and was Dx at age 5/6. He is on vyvanse 30 mg and does really well in school and not a behavour problem at all, at home or school. he is a kid and has his issues but he is good about the rules.

RULES. he knows the house rules for bedtime, dinnertime,homework time, playtime, Gameboy time, etc and he follows them. He knows the consequences if he doesnt follow them. And I always follow thru. That was the hardest thing CONSISTENCY. ADHD kids need that and routine..IMO. He fought me on alot of the house rules but i stood firm and things are fine now. He doesnt like change, what kid does...lol..He just functions better when he knows what is expected of him. Also I praise the good behaviours as much as possible and reward him for them.

Make sure you and your BF are on the same page with discipline and rules. If he hears one thing from you and one thing from him, he will be confused and act out.

Also if his behaviours have gotten worse in school after being better with the meds, maybe a dosage change is in order. Call the md and discuss it.

I dont believe that you babying him made any difference. I babied Ryan also but I have found that the more independent I encourage him to be , the better he behaves althought he sometimes fights me on being more independent! Once he masters a skill, he is so proud and happy.

Good luck and feel free to vent. We are all here for each other!

Thank you so much for your response.

I totally agree with you about the discipline I have never been one to enforce the rules. I have to make myself enforce the rules so my son can learn that there are consequences when he doesn't behave.

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Thank you so much for your response.

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Your welcome.. ADHD kids just seem to need or thrive on the consitencey more than other kids. Ryan gets all out of sorts when he goes to my exs house because there are no real rules there. He stays up all hours, play the gameboy all the time, eats what and when he wants to and then comes home tired, miserable, cranky and out of sorts. ..Then I have to deprogram him! but thats another story!

We do allow a later bedtime on Friday and Saturday and we have one night a week, Sunday where you are allowed to choose where you *eat* dinner. At the table, snack tray in your room or snack tray in the living room. Getting ryan to eat dinner at the table took a few months . I always let him eat at his snack table as it was *easier* for me. At the regular table, he just got up, complained, etc etc. Well this year I decided he HAD to start eating dinner with us. We moved to a new house and I figured..new start..Well he balked in the beginning but now its a routine and he likes it..but he still likes one day a week to have a choice, and funny..sometimes he actually choses to come to the table! SO you can be consistent and still have a little flexibity...