Newly diagnosed daughter who is 10 | ADHD Information
She had been to drs and no one could figure it out so I took her to someone else and they have figured it out .I have been doing whats right for my daughter .I have not waited 10 yrs to do this .I cannot believe anyone would say this to me .I joined this board to get answers now I feel like this was a mistakeno one has said you are not doing the right thing by your daughter. Why are you thinking that? We both just asked more details for clarification assuming you posted looking for support and advice. We were trying to help you weed through the complicated path of getting help from the school system.
hi and welcome
my daughter is older, but has ADHD with coexisting learning disabilites. She does have some anxiety, although it seems to be ok for right now, probably due to her meds.
I have the same questions as edbson, who has diagnosed her and what is the plan? I'm not sure what accomodations you can get for this testing as it next week, but you should request the evaluation for next year. As edbson says in writing to the SPED director send a letter requestign your daughter be evaluated by the school. List your concerns and reasons for requesting the evaluation.
Thanks for all your advice I am just stressed on what has been going on with my daughter .I knew it but no one else could figure it out and now I know what it is and I will talk to school .I am hoping that everything will go as they have said it will we will see ..thanks
we're all stressed which is why we come here, to help "deal" with others who are also "dealing". It helps to get it out.mommy1 - I know what you are going through - My son always had problems in school and we had started looking for help since the 4th grade - it took a long time for someone to figure it out too and that was last year! My son is now in 8th grade.
This is what I would do. First, take a deep breath - you have been doing everything you could and it just takes a long time to figure things out. All of us on this board of have gone through what you have been going through, in one form or another. No one is judging you - we have all experienced the same frustration, anxiety and concerns as you.
I would make an apt. with the school guidance councelor or who ever, and talk about your concerns. Let them know about the diagnosis and how you feel if she fails this test and she will have to stay back.
Ask them what the next step is since she is newly diagnosed - she's not the first child with ADHD and she won't be the last.
Ask them if she can be promoted but be allowed classroom accomodations. If she must pass that test, ask if she can take the test with an aide or be given extra time or something.
If they won't promote her, ask them how they think this will affect her emotionally.
I would also speak with the Dr. who made the diagnosis and ask him/her what you should do. Ask lots of questions.
Ask about a treatment plan - every child is different so no one on this board can tell you what to do.
On a positive note, now that you finally have a diagnosis you can go foward and start a treatment plan. Don't dwell on the past - you can't change it.
If the school offers to do a core evalution - do it - the more information you have the better.
Good luck.
with add and anxiety depression .I am very worried for my daughter next week she has to take the crct I am scared she will not pass .I have been told for almost 10 yrs that she had an attention problem no one ever helped me try to figure out why .She will have to stay in the 5th grade if she does not pass the crct .I am very worried that she cant but I know she will try as hard as she can .
Hi, and welcome. My DD has ADHD and is 10 also. Girls are often harder to daignose than boys , as they often only have ADHD/Innattentive, and don't exhibit the same symptoms as boys. It sounds to me like your DD has ADHD/Innattentive, because of the mention of ADD>
For help with the school, you need to contact the Special Ed director, and ask for an educational evaluation, it has to be done in writing.not justa phone call the the principle.
Who diagnosed? If she is seeing a Psychiatrist, meds could help with attention issues.
Who was tearing you down? I'll take care of that right now for you. We are here for supporting people if you have an issue, please pm me and I'll take care of it!!!! We are here for you.
Hi, my son has adhd and is 8 he had to take the taks test last month. I requested an ard meeting. This is a meeting where a parent and the school officials get together to determine what needs a child has. That is what diane and edbson meant when they asked you what was the plan. It is called an 504. There are laws to help children in situations like ours. Sorry if I am telling u something u already know we just want to be helpful to each other and lift each other up. Nobody understands your situation better than a parent or child going through the same situation. Ok so during our meeting I requested that my son be given a modified taks test instead of a regular taks. That means that he only had to answer the questions that affected his grade. These test have a lot of filler questions that are asked again in different terms to make sure a child can grasp the question. A modified test has a questioned asked only once. This is very helpful it cuts the test in half but doesn't affect his grade or confuse him with double talk. Please ask if your daughter can be given a modified test. If not ask them what are her other options. You are a good mom and keep up the good work and GOD BLESS your family.mommy1: I would suggest you take your daughter to a neuropsychologist. There are specific tests that can be done to get an accurate dx for your daughter. They can do an MRI, EEG and/or a TOVA. All of these will give the DRs and more importantly YOU and your daughter the right dx so you will know for sure what she has and how to treat it, meaning if you choose to medicate or not. I would suggest that first. I would also call her school, speak to the councilor and ask to call an ARD meeting. That will get the school started in testing her for an IEP (Individual education plan) for next year. They will do testing for all different issues that she might have when it comes to her learning. When they have the meeting, make sure you bring some one with you. Always bring some one with you that will be objective. They will be discussing all the strengths and most importantly her weaknesses and I promise you it will be over whelming for you, but they have to do this to make sure that she gets the help she needs to over come the issues she has.
You have made the fist and my opinion the most important step, that is coming here asking for advise, after all, we all have been there and it's not fun and it's probably the hardest part of the ADHD parenting job. And I should know, I'm raising an ADHD son with OCD, and I have ADHD too. 
So, I can relate to your daughter and to you, my new friend. Ask any questions you want, we are here to help.
Hi Mommy1,
Welcome. Trust me, everyone on the boards here only want to help and support you and your child. We certainly don't want to tear ANYONE down. I can only imagine how stressful and frustrating it is to watch your child struggle. My child is only five; diagnosed with ADHD, OCD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I know that we will have the many worries, that you are going through, later on. Just know that here you have friends who will listen and offer advice. We all hope that your daughter does well with her testing and keep us updated.
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