Does your ds take any meds for ADHD?
My dd had a few problems with that back when she was 5 years old. It was only a couple of times , but boy did it REALLY stress me out esp. because other kids started to figure it out. Her pediatricain suggested giving mineral oil at the same time every night (it is supposed to work in 7-8 hours) and then making her sit on the potty in the morning for 15-20 minutes to get her into a routine of going at the same time every day and before school. I never had to actually do that because from the day she started adderall at 5 1/2 years old, she never had another "accident" even on med breaks. She is 10 now. Good Luck!!!!!
Yes he's on metadate cd. He takes it twice a day. We've tried everything. Even taking him to the bathroom what seems like 50 times a day. he'll sit on the toilet, but he'll hold it in then as well. His teacher at school even moved him by the door so that if he needed to go, he could just get up and go.
Please don't get offending when I say this because I say it trying to be helpful. My 5 yr old cj where's big boy pants (goodnights size small) to bed because about 4 out of 7 nights he will wet the bed. I do this so he isn't embarrased and also so I don't have to change his sheets at 2 am. Maybe this might help your boy so that his bm won't come out of his pants. And the other kids won't make fun of him. It can be expensive but worth the self esteem that comes with it. They goodnights are thin and not visible through pants. Hope this helps.
I am not at all offended by it. I have seriously considered it, I just don't want it to bother him more. I'll offer it to him and see what he says. Thank you.
could this be related to sensory integration? Not sure but very concerned. This is something that needs attention. Your poor son. I also don't want the kids in school ever being mean to him. Keep an eye on that!!
best wishes, and keep us updated!!
Thank you so much. I will never tolerate someone making fun of him. That's why I just let him come home from school on friday. I could tell he was already so emberassed about it. I hate knowing there is nothing I can do to make this better for him. Moms are suppose to be able to fix things. Hi, My son had (has) the same thing. He would not go to the bathroom, and then.. go in his pants or various other odd places around the house.. I was about to loose it myself. My pediatrician said that mostly encopresis is caused by a backed up bowel, and that they've lost the ability to feel when they have to poop. It's not that they hold it in on purpose (most of the time) it could be that once, it hurt and they associate a BM with pain, or they are consitpated, which in itself is common in children, and can't feel it when it's coming. So, we had my son admitted to the hospital for 3 days, and they 'evacuated' him with a hefty dose of laxative, did some x-rays to make sure that he was empty, and then monitored him afterwards to make sure that he didn't get backed up again (because his problem was severe constipation).. it's been 6 months, and we haven't had a problem with encopresis again (yet).. perhaps something worth looking into.Thanks. I know I can't fix everything, I just feel so bad that I can't "help" him with this I guess is what I mean.
We have had him completely cleaned out several times, and then its right back to the same thing.
I still have this really strong feeling that it has to do with when he got the concussion. It's so hard to say, but he started holding it after that, he started covering his ears to loud noisy situations, forgot alphabet and things like that. But the neurologist says the encopresis did NOT come from the concussion. Without doing any type of test. So I guess I need to accept it. But a part of me deep down doesn't believe it.
You poor thing it sounds so stressful for you. I would make a phone call to your pediatrician and bend the ear of his nurse if necessary. Also I would phone the psychiatrists office that you want to go to and really lay it on them what all is going on. I had to do that with my son before he was diognosed with ADHD. I told them all the scarry stuff about him trying to jump out of my car while driving, finding that he crawled out onto our roof. He's 8 and it was a terrible time. He is very stable now on meds unfortunately but I'm so thankful that I bent the nurses ear and really told her how frightened I was with what he was doing. They got me in fast suddenly they had a cancellation. I would never lie to get an earlier appointment but I needed help fast and I got it. Good luck the squeeky wheel gets the grease and we have to push and shove to get help if our kids need it. No embarassment just do it.It's worth a shot. Also, ask to be put on the cancellation list. That way, if they have someone to cancel their appt. they can get you in earlier. I would recommend you also see a GI dr. to rule out any nerve problems or see if the constipation has caused enlargement of the intestines that may be causing the problem.
I can only imagine the frustration that you are feeling. This rules your life. Hopefully, you will get some answers some. We are her for you.
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Thank you so much. Yes it does rule your life. And I can't even begin to imagine how it makes him feel. It infuriates me so much, then I stop and look at his adorable little face and then put myself in his shoes. So I just walk away and take a minute. Then I go back and try to work with him. He just absolutely will not use the toilet and I have no clue why at this point.
I'm sure it has something to do with the loss of his cousin. The only bad thing about the waiting list for the psych is thats only a waiting list to get an evaluation for him. But then once they do that, it'll just be a matter of an opening. If I have to I'll have his teacher call them and tell them its becoming an issue for him at school as well. I'll do whatever I have to to get my baby help.
Yes I'm in the process of talking to his doctor tomorrow to get him a referral for a gastroenterologist. The closest children's is 2 hours away in St. Louis, but thats ok, at least I know he will get the best care there. That's where we have been going for his neurologist, his urologist, and his orthopedic dr. So whats one more. :)
Thank you again so much. Sometimes I just wanna scream, but I can't so I figured I'd come here and plead for help instead of letting him see my frustration.
We are still waiting for Trent to get into a psychicatrist/psychologist and i'm about to lose my mind. He suffers from encopresis. This has been going on, well it'll be a year in June. He's to the point now he holds and holds it, then he finally just has a b.m. in his pants. He even came home last week and said that a little boy asked him if he pooped in his pants. I feel so bad for him, but omg i'm losing it. I don't know what to do with him. He will NOT even try to poop in the toilet not at all. I spoke with the urologist about it, the neurologist about it, pediatrician and everyone says its a behavioral thing.... Ok so wtf do I do to help him? Besides just get more and more frustrated. It's horrible it stinks, he smells, I feel so bad for him. I don't know what to do anymore.
Please don't misunderstand this. I love my son more then my own life. I just can't take much more of this. This is a daily occurrence. He NEVER uses the toilet anymore. I couldnt' tell you the last time he did. We can't even go to the store or a friends house or anything for fear he will do it. They called me to come get him from school friday because he had it all over his clothes on the outside even. I want so desperately to help him, but I don't know how at this point.
We have tried miralax, magnesium citrate, enemas high fiber foods, you name it. Nothing is working. He's only constipated because he keeps holding it.
Please can anyone help me? Where do I go next? Do you think if I call the psychiatrist/psychologist and let them know about this it would help us get in faster? Or should I ask his doctor if he can help us get him seen faster?