Food Hoarding | ADHD Information

I told her that these dosages aren't high enough to develope an adddiction.  But that didn't make a difference to her.  I think their refusal to even entertain the idea that their son could be ADD/ADHD stems from the fact that the school tested her son without her permission.  She feels like it was an attempt by the school to label her child so that they didn't have to deal with him "just acting like a boy."  She thinks that it's all a bunch of baloney and that it's not legitimate.  Just a bunch of teachers who don't want to do their job.

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It is frustrating to hear her refuse to accept there is anything different with her son.  I know there are things she can do to help him without medication (she is VERY clear that she does not want him "popping pills").  To just allow him to flounder and struggle through is very irresponsible.  But nothing I say will make an impact. 

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She is clearly in denial. Does she think kids with asthma or diabetes are popping pills? How is this different from her child's need? This parent makes me so mad because she is looking down on the rest of us that do medicate our children. She has no understanding of his needs and can't be bothered to find out. The real sadness here is the damage she has done and will continue doing by not address his medical need. I just hope he doesn't develop a comorbidity.

actually, I've heard from other parents of adhd kids that hoarding is a common behaviour.  my son hoards toys and clothing on his bed, and my friend's dd hoards food and money in hers.  Plus her dd also does the exact thing with the homework.

For now, we have to do a small bit of enabling with our ds to get it turned in;  I just have to check his backpack on Monday afternoons when I pick him up:  If it's in there, we trot back to his classroom so he can turn it in then and there.

i wont' always be able to do that for/with him...hopefully we can write something about that into a 504/IEP for him, if the school ever gets around to doing the evaluation....

Hope that helps!
[QUOTE=Yme!]I have to disagree with syl06.  It is a MAJOR symptom of this to misplace homework.  If the parents are doing nothing: they are abusing their kid.  Would you ignore any other ailment?  Jeez this angers me. [/QUOTE]

oh yes the homework part is common in ADHD kids sorry din't specify, if he does not have ADHD then he's just being irrisposible about the homework.
I have to disagree with syl06.  It is a MAJOR symptom of this to misplace homework.  If the parents are doing nothing: they are abusing their kid.  Would you ignore any other ailment?  Jeez this angers me.

 

The food hoarding could be anything from Impulsiveness to anxiety.

The schools cannot test for ADHD, so chances are he was tested for Ld's instead.( it is a medical diagnosis, not an educational one) ADHD is not really a borderline thing, like Diabetes, you are or you aren't. My best advice would be for them to see a Neuropsychologist, or Child Psychologist for an evaluation.

if they suspect ADHD and are doing nothing about it, they are not doing there son a favor, i doubt food hording has anything to do with ADHD but like edbson said, impulsiveness, anxiety, ocd!

and if he's doing his homework and not handing it in, then he needs to learn to be more responsible!

His mom tells me he is not forgetting the homework.  He HAS the homework with him at school, and for some inexplicable reason, he does not turn it in.  He is failing math and yet scoring very high on the standardized tests. 

It is frustrating to hear her refuse to accept there is anything different with her son.  I know there are things she can do to help him without medication (she is VERY clear that she does not want him "popping pills").  To just allow him to flounder and struggle through is very irresponsible.  But nothing I say will make an impact. 

I am curious to see what everyone thinks of this:

My friend has a 14 year old son that was tested years ago and showed to be borderline ADD/ADHD.  She and her husband were angry with the school for testing him without their knowledge or consent.  They chose to do nothing.  And I mean NOTHING.

Fast forward and now he is 14 years old.  She tells me that he hoards food in his room and "always has."  He's not binging, just hiding it so he can have it all to himself.  He has a history of poor performance at school.  Apparently he never turns in homework.  She says he DOES the work but doesn't hand it in - even when asked directly by the teacher - he says he doesn't have it. 

What do you make of this?