Son 12 lacks attachments | ADHD Information

I am new here, a grandma but have many years experiencing the human condition if nothing else. Your son sounds like a jewel. Maybe we watch too much TV, too much media in our lives. Your son isn't a geek, but geeky kids are cool and very sound often. Not all people are blonde quaterbacks dating the cheerleader.

I was blessed to have been in a family that promoted the arts and was surrounded by (and sought out) people with similar tastes. I would just venture here that he is wonderful and perfect in his own beautiful way. Lets forget Hannah Montana or whoever. You have done a beautiful job.

I think, anyway. If he doesn't want his mother intervening - perhaps that is something you have done a smidge much. And....I just realized through my preteen granddaughter that the messaging is the new calling on the phone thing - it's a brave new world.

Respectfully

Thanks for such a nice note. It's funny but I do remember not wanting my mother to intervene either except sometimes when I wished she would...My son seems to get on well with his classmates and teachers say he is well liked. But he never gets invited anywhere and other kids turn down his offers. His class is just 25 kids so there aren't a lot of choices. Also, he doesn't want his mother intervening on his behalf. But he seems lonely, spends a lot of time playing his guitar and with his computer. He does talk with classmates over messaging and is great at sports so plays after school. When I listen to him with other kids he seems a little awkward but otherwise okay. He's very handsome (OK biased but really parents always say, he's good at sports and good looking blah blah blah.) How do we teach this stuff? Any insight much appreciated. williemom,
Since you feel your son is lonely, maybe you could look into some activities outside of school where he might be able to meet with some other kids who share his interests? I know you said he plays sports after school, and I would think that would be a great way to make some friends, but are there any sports clubs/teams in the community where maybe he could meet a different group of kids? How about the guitar-playing? Maybe he could find a few kids that would like to try to form a band? (I know the problem with this for my son is that he and all his friends play guitar and none of them play any other instruments...) Maybe there are summer music programs around your area where he could take part and meet some other kids?
Also, even though you said other kids have turned down his offers, I would encourage him to keep trying.  A lot of kids and families these days are so busy with all kinds of activities that it's hard for them to find time to get together with friends even though they may want to, so I would try not to take it personally and just keep trying.
Good luck!
I do know the parents quite well but it's kind of hard to say, "hey how come you never invite my did over?" I do invite other kids and take them places when they accept, but it just never seems to be reciprocated. My son tells me two boys are having a joint birthday party (even though my son's birthday is also the same week) but they didn't invite him to have his birthday too. I'm sure he'll be invited with the other classmates but still. I think it's true people are busy and honestly most of them are so self centered they're just oblivious.:( < =text/>_popupControl(); Maybe you could get involved without it seeming like intervention. Do you know any of the parents of other kids in his class? Maybe if you get to know them, they will encourage their kids to have him over. Don't specifically say this to them, of course (that would be intervening!), but if they see that you are okay, then they will know that your house is an okay place for their kids, too. When my oldest was younger, he wasn't allowed to go to a house where I didn't know the parents. Maybe start planning things where your son will be bored unless he brings a friend, like going to a movie or a day trip to a water park or amusement park. Other kids are more likely to want to go to those places than to someone's house to watch tv. Just suggestions. Good luck!