son and anger issues | ADHD Information
4myson,
Here is a question to ask yourself, What if my child was not adhd and still had this behavior? What would I do? Often the fact that our kiddies have adhd colors our own thinking in how to manage or disappline them.
You were not wrong in asking him to give up his drink. You could have explained that you need him to give his drink to another and that there was one in the car for him. And, then thanked him for being such a help. [just an example] He needs to learn that throwing a fit is not going to get him what he wants. If it was at all possible, the should havebeen removed from the situation for a time out .
Is the other child just annoying or is he bullying? Bullying should not be tolerated. If he was just annoying, you can teach you child ways to diffusethe situation. Have you ever heard of social stories? They are used often for those on the spectrum. The work realy well for younger children, too.
your not the only one with the child pushing and butting in line it's happened so much that my son doesn't want to school but my son if someone accidently bumps him walking by he blows and this little boy knows this.4myson.
Remember that if all else fails, there is always mother's little helper....duct tape! lol! Just kidding!
grannyf Fran,
Don't think I haven't though about it. LOL!
thanks granny fran...I appreciate your suggestions...I did try what you suggested on Saturday...but oh, my...it just didn't go like I thought.
as for the other child...I can't quite get a feel on it. I don't think there is bullying going on. I think it is two boys that are just too similar in a lot of ways...I've seen this other boy and know that he doesn't understand space...but gosh...my son doesn't always either
I'm going to look into the "social stories" thing you have brought up...it sounds interesting...
again thank you for your time and especially for your lead off question...I thought about this today and I think you have hit it on the nail...I need to reflect some about my ways of discipline....I love that little toot...and I'm determined to find the right way to help him and me survive the next 12+ years. 
My son was just student of the month. From January until April he received a sticker for every day. Received his reward last Monday and then on Thursday got in trouble in fine arts class for saying something inappropriate with several others. Not sure the teacher was really on top of things like she should of been, but none the less it happened. Sad thing is he didn't even know what he was saying was a bad word. He just thought it was funny and repeated what the other kids said. Several of them omitted their papaw's or dad's used the word. He wouldn't know this word as he lives with me and I most definitely wouldn't use this word / "b...." Now, it is possible he has heard his dad say this word as this is one of the reasons I left our marriage. My son was 3 at the time. He is now 6.
Friday was good at school.
Saturday my son had a episode where he got extremly upset because I asked him to give up the drink he had in his hand. We were short one drink for a friend after the game. I had more in the car but this was just the easiest route. For me, that is. Anyhow...it was a disaster. Took me a while to calm him down. He threw things at me in the car etc. Should I have offered to go get a drink from the car for this child? Was expecting too much from my son? Was I wrong for asking him to do this?
Today at school he pushed a child in line because the kid was "annoying" him and cutting in line. This is a kid that my son has told me on several occasions is annoying and that he won't leave him alone. I know my child isn't perfect but I know first hand that this child is like this as I observed it myself at a school function. No excuse, for my son to push, but YIKES, how do you get a 6 year old to shrug this off?
Why is he doing this?
What do you think I should do?
He is in play therapy and he takes meds (we increased 5mg in late Sept.)