I have problems ajusting to situations but this one is scary.

At this time or every other springs I look at opening my backyard which is big,lots of flowers, garden and a pool.. I  look at it and it scares me. It look like a giant chore. I cant see it all at once.. I get anxious, discourage..

My wife just enjoys it, relaxes..

It drives me crazy..

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I got tired of having to tend to so much in my yard, so I cut down most of the bushes and relandscaped the front of my house with low maintenance things. I can certianly relate to it being overwhelming.

Maybe try minimizing the upkeep on your yard.

If your wife doesn't like that idea, then let here maintain it. I'm not saying she is, but If she expects you to enjoy something because she does then she is being unrealistic.

Or you could do like me and kick your wife out, divorce her, and then mow down everything she planted. I don't recommend that be the first thing you try though. LOL

I like when the sprinklers turn on, but thats cos it's fun and often results in a warter fight!

I grow sunflowers every year and leav the rest to my Garden loving boyfriend!

I love getting the first bits done, but I have to be in the right mood. Also, going to the garden centre allows you to spend money without planning to! Lots of fun!

Vinton, I get the kind of anxiety you describe when I look inside my garage, but not when I look at my yard!  Our yard and gardens are always a source of ideas and inspiration for me... however fleeting they may be. 

Come to think of it, just describing my gardening activities probably typifies all of my adhd traits.  Like my creating new flower bed, then losing interest after the first year and creating a new one somewhere else...leaving my poor wife feeling the need to tend those I've abandoned!  Then there's the 25' X 60' vegetable garden--which I'm always late in getting planted (procrastination), which I enjoy and admire for a time (often getting really elaborate with row designs, companion planting--hyperfocus type stuff, then I get sidetracked with other summer pursuits and struggle against the weeds the rest of the summer...only to forget to harvest things when they're ready and find that they've gone by!  Same pattern, year after year! 

I've always admired the picture perfect yard and gardens of others, so unlike my own.  But you know what, I've come to realize that what I admire in otherss' yards doesn't mean I'll only be happy if mine looks the same.  I've come to understand and accept that it's more important (and compatible) for me to have a yard and garden that's always going to be in need of attention, attention I haven't provided because I'm having more fun doing something else.  In order to preserve domestic tranquility, that "something else" does not include creating new flower beds!