Yme!,
I agree completely. How much easier life would be for our kids with a setup like that! I wish I was more of an 'activator'... I have a vision for a new approach to education for kids with ADHD, and I would gladly lobby for someone who would take this to the top to affect real change. Only that person, sadly, isn't me. I'm more of a strategist and maximizer (I took an assessment test at work that gives you your top five strengths, that's where the terms come from)... I'm good at seeing the big picture, finding options and solutions, and enhancing other people's work, but I'm not the person with the machete blazing a trail through the thicket. Maybe I should find out who my Congress person or Representative is and see if there is any interest...?
Response to the above posts:Yme!,
Your ideas are great. I especially like the second language requirement - I'm German (lived in Germany until I was 21, English is my second language), and completed all my formal education there... Elementary School, High chool and University. One of the great things Germany does is give kids (and their parents) a choice of school after the first four elementary school years: you may go on to "Gymnasium", which is kind of like a prep school for University... it has very high academic standards and three foreign languages are required (English is the first and mandatory, then you get to pick your second and third foreign languages from French, Spanish, Latin, Greek, etc...). If Gymnasium isn't right for you you can either go to "Realschule", which prepares students for so-called "white collar" jobs - your accountants, secretaries, office workers, etc. The third option you have after elementary school is the "Hauptschule", which prepares students for careers in "blue collar" jobs... people who like working with their hands, like construction workers, pipe fitters, wood carvers, etc.
You may think that it would be pretty hard for a 10-year-old to make a decision that early, but you always have the option of transferring between the different school systems... if you start out in the Hauptschule, but you realize that you'd like to go to university, you can transfer to the Gymnasium anytime; this works in all directions.
I have found that the German model is so much better than the US model. Drop out rates are almost null, and you have much happier students - you may not be that good with your head, but perhaps you do amazing stuff with car engines... well, you can still be an honor student in the Hauptschule and have a great career in the automotive industry. The American model seems to set students up for failure. If I could afford it my son would be going to a boarding school in Germany, trust me.
Oh, and education in Germany is always free. You never pay for tuition or books, etc, not even at the university level. I got my BA degree for exactly
Hey, Madam Secretary of Education - I know you looked at the German model, because you've got a case study on your website - how 'bout implementing it pronto?!?
I would love it if someday I am able to create either a private school for kids with ADHD, or help in pushing the model we have now to be more flexible. How differently abled children are supposed to learn with one rigid plan is beyond me!



I have been reading this topic and it is very interesting. As far as wishing your dc was born 100 years in the future, I often wished my dd was born 200 years in the past.
She wouldn't have worried about spelling. She could have learned all the domestic things she loves - embrodery, sewing, knitting, etc. She would have just fit in so well. Of course, that is assuming we were still in middle class America. 
Just my $.02,
it can be smart, BUT not everyone has computers. I know it seems everyone does, but really not everyone has computers in their home. Those parents certainly wouldnt think it fair their kids had to go the library and wait their turn to get at the computer to do homework. It's the wave fo the future, I agree and would work GREAT for our kids, but playing devils advoate here, it wouldnt work for ALL kids.Here is my two cents.
Me, me, me!!!!!!!!!! 
Okay, is it just me or is everything Yme! wrote smart, easily do-able, and probably a lot less expensive than buying books and more environmentally friendly than killing trees? Where's the downside??
I actually plan to enroll my son in an Online HS. I think it will be a big relief for everybody...
I sent an email to the school counselor today asking about my idea and giving him more info on my child. He is falling behind due to missing assignments. So, they want him to spend one lunch period per week in the library working on catching up. I know the counselor thinks he has come up with a great idea-but I think taking my hyperactive child away from the one period where he can wiggle away from him is not a good idea.

Yme!,
Good for you! One thing I want to point out, however, is that losing ANY recess/lunch/PE time has the exact opposite effect on our kids. They MUST be able to release energy physically... there are so many reasons for this... let me see if I can put 'em all together:
1. The H in ADHD stands for "Hyperactive". Clearly, keeping them tied to their desks even LONGER is not a good idea. In order to get some of that fussing and fiddling energy out of their systems (which, I'm sure, his teachers would appreciate during class time), they HAVE TO be able to run around and howl and do whatever it is they do. The more they move around during recess, the calmer and more focused they are in class.
2. There's great new book out on this subject - it's called "Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain" (by John Ratey, see http://www.amazon.com/Spark-Revolutionary-Science-Exercise-B rain/dp/0316113506). Here is an excerpt of the summary: "Filled with amazing case studies (such as the revolutionary fitness program in Naperville, Illinois, which has put this school district of 19,000 kids first in the world of science test scores), SPARK is the first book to explore comprehensively the connection between exercise and the brain." Basically, they increased the recess time at this school district, which they filled with a lot of physical activity and games, and - lo and behold! - test scores for these kids, which were dismal to start with, shot through the roof! Frankly, instead of having your child spend recess time catching up on assignments that don't amount to a hill of beans even a week later, they should turn ALL their kids loose much more often! I think your child's counselor needs to catch up on some reading... 
3. Making your kid stay behind when all the other kids get to socialize and play does two things: a) it demonstrates to his classmates that he is "different", and we all know what that means - Lord of the Flies, anyone? b) the message they're sending to your child is that he is being punished for not being able to perform at their dumb one-size-fits-all standard, which affects his self-esteem and will make him even less likely to want to work harder. I mean, come on - this is Psych 101 stuff! What kind of counselor doesn't see the connection between performance and motivation?? If you're bad at something, you're not gonna wanna do it. The inverse is true, as well - if you're good at something, you'll wanna do it all the time! Think, people!!
There's more, I'm sure, but I think this will give you some ammo with your child's counselor - don't give in to idiocy! Just because something has been done the same way for decades doesn't mean it's a good idea. A quick anecdote: my son was learning to write persuasive essays. He hated it, because he hates writing (poor motor function) and was bored to death by the subject matters. Trying to get him to cough up a couple of meager, legible paragraphs was like spending 100 years in hell. Then, one day the assigned topic was -this is almost too perfect- "Recess - Do students really need it?". The essay my son wrote that evening (in a little over 30 minutes) could have been lifted off the Op-Ed pages of the NYT! He was so excited and focused while he was writing it, and came up with incredible, out-of-the-box arguments for recess. When he first handed it to me I was speechless. Then I started bawling. He knew all along how to write a persuasive essay, knew it probably from the first time the teacher presented it to the class, but until that day the topics just didn't interest him. But recess was close to his heart, and he even asked if he could send it to the school board so all kids could benefit. He was convinced that, faced with his essay, the board couldn't help but immediately implement recess after every class. The point being, if you make assignments a punishment you may never see how brilliant your kid can be, because he won't want to even try.
Ok, I'm pretty sure my message privileges are gonna be revoked soon if I keep posting these monster messages. 
Good luck to you, Yme!, and keep fighting the good fight!! 
Most of them get eaten by the invisible monster that seems to follow him around!


(so he will have to use the desktop permanently).

I've been thinking about this for a while... Our kids need a whole new kind of education (see my earlier post further up), and I believe that eventually people will wise up and see them as the incredible assets they could be to society, but when is this going to happen? I keep coming back to this quote (from the 60's, I think) - You have to be the change you are waiting for (or something like it). But how? I don't have any credentials that would make me an authority on the subject, and I wouldn't even know whom to talk to about this. All I know is that investing in these kids by providing a special kind of educational program would in the end pay off for everyone... there's a healthy ROI in this!!
Anybody got an in with Ms. Spelling, our Secretary of Education?
My school system now has school notes - the teachers put the assignments on websites. This has helped my son - but even when he looks up the assignment on the website and actually does it - he still forgets to hand it in.
Oh - I hear you on the backpack.
He is allowed to type his assignments on the computer which sometimes gets him to actually do the work.
paperless would be great. Our textbooks have online hel sites, which is somewhat helpful. My ds forgot books regularly in middle school. In high school now, he does not have a locker (not enough). He is glad! he forgets what his assignments are, though...never writes them down. Says he can't remember from the time the teacher says it till he can get out a planner and write! 
Especially in middle school, these traits were treated as discipline problems that they could just shame an dpunish out of the kids. it didn't work with mine....
I often wish my son (13, ADHD/AS) and I were born 100 years later... I am certain that in the year 2108 people will look back at our education system and weep. By not providing an educational environment for our extraordinary kids we are continuously flushing our most precious assets down the toilet! The paradigm shift is happening right now - the "D" will no longer stand for "deficit" and "disorder", but for "difference". Once everyone is on board doctors will congratulate parents on their child's diagnosis of ADHD. The schools will cherry-pick these children and set them up with a whole different approach to education... I'm imagining paperless free-learning settings, where the main focus is to expose these kids to all kinds of different interests, and, once they've found their passion, to support and harness their incredible gifts of creativity, out-of-the-box thinking, hyperfocusing, etc.
It's these children that will invent new technologies to stop Global Warming, to cure AIDS or Cancer, to solve World Hunger... I could go on. Our kids' talents are currently squandered in the most shameful way. I, for one, am just trying to get my son through school - grades be damned. He is currently failing two of his classes, in one of which he had the highest score the district has ever seen on our state's standardized test. What's wrong with this picture?? It used to make me mad, now it just makes me laugh. I have a brilliant kid having to deal with small, small minds over ridiculously worthless issues.
I can only encourage all parents to become visionaries for their children - we have incredible treasures on our hands... I for one will help my son find his passion and support him all the way in his pursuit of it; and if his passion is laying bricks or fitting pipes, more power to him!
Ah, I'm ranting and raving again. One last point - one of you wonderful parents has a tagline that reads something like "Don't sweat the small stuff - and it's ALL small stuff!". Take this to heart and live it. :)
I hear you Tina. Before my 5yo son was diagnosed ADHD and I would complain to my mom about what a handful he was, she would always say, "Yes, but I know he's going to do somethign very special some day. You can just tell." I so agree that these kids are special. My hyper/impuslive child is bright beyond his years, curious and a ton of fun. I just sometimes wish others would look at these kids the same way we do! When we told his preschool teacher that some of his acting up might be because he was smart and thus bored, she kind of dismissed it. Then when they did reading tests she commented to us that she was so surprised to find how well he coudl read. Duh!!! We told you that! Here's to a better future!I awoke with a start this morning with what I thought was kind of a brilliant idea. My son is in middle school and he has been really struggling with remembering to bring home textbooks-outright losing them, and also handouts in class, etc.lots of kids go "paperless" in their IEP's in older grades. It's a GREAT tool. Laptops so the kids can have everything with them electronically at all times.
For schools not able/willing to have it on-line, a second set of text books at home has been very helpful to us!
Sounds great to me! Something you can do right now is have an extra set of text books put into the 504 or IEP. My son is in middle school and has this. When I requested it I stated that since he brought home more work than most students, his backpack was just too heavy. We weighed it once and it was 35 pounds and he only weighs 65 pounds. (He is in orchestra so he has some extra binders.) He is unusually underweight, but I think how heavy the back pack is could be a factor for a lot of kids. Before we had this, I made a lot of trips back to school for fogotten text books!
Absolutely!! I remember the first year of middle school I requested that I have a set of text books for home, and the teacher told me no!! Luckily, I had a supportive counselor on my side as well as my sons. That set at home made life a lot easier. I've received copies of textbooks on CD too. It can be done.
I will always remember the semester my son had a teacher who wouldn't let my son turn in an assignment "early". I thought this was ridulous and I was furious!
This same teacher emailed me about how my DS would lose assignments. This particular time she noted he had done it, but it wasn't due until the next week. So I asked if he could turn it in ... we both knew that by the time the due date rolled around, that assignment would be missing. To me, she was setting him up to fail rather than encouraging his efforts. Her policy was that she didn't accept early assignments from anyone so no exceptions were given.
Well .... as a special ed teacher, I know different. You MUST advocate for your child. NOONE else will!!