Anyone have their child in Therapy | ADHD Information

Hi again after reading your last post I went to your ariginal post. I am sorry that we got off the subject some. It is just motherly concern. None the less back to your original question. I think that behavioral therapy would be great. My 8 yr old jd, sees an ot twice weekly, a skills trainer once weekly, and a play therapist once weekly. He also sees his pedi, and his psych, cardiologist and nuero monthly. If your insurance doesn't cover these services, texana/mhmra does a sliding scale as well as depelchins childrens center. I am not sur what state you live in but I am sure that has to be some programs there to help your son. Therapy will be very benefical to your child. Good luck.

Please keep us posted Missya!  We really care!

 

Firstly, if your child has ADHD, they have an impulsiveness problem which can show up by the first thing one thinks about being what is said/done.  THEY DO NOT HAVE THE FILTER YOU OR I DO.

Have you ever felt like you wanted to die?  Have you ever felt sexual feelings?  He doesn't have the ability to think before he acts.

HOWEVER, something to consider: sexual abuse.  These are also signs of that as well.  My friend's daughter actually was abused by the husband of her good friend when they went to the store for just a short time. (They left the kids behind with him.)

I don't mean to freak you out.  It could be a number of things.

I will also say this: my son, who I am sure hasn't been sexually abused, also acts very sexual at times and says he hates himself, wants to die, etc. when he doesn't get his way or is very upset.  So, in my experience, a mostly happy kid says these things when he is upset as well.  He also used to hit his head against the wall as hard as he could with rage at times. 

Long story short: see both a psychiatrist and also a counselor to get meds correct and to develop skills to help him.  Know you always have an ear here.
I think that it is great that you are concerned for your child. Just because a child has sexual type behavior it doesn't mean he was abused. That is just the first thing that comes to a parents mind when talking about a child so young expressing sexual interest. Since you know for sure he has never been abused just run this behavior through your dr. I also know that kids tend to do what feels good to themselves. To a child discovering their body this is normal. It is just some behaviors that get all parents freaked out. As long as his actions are limited to himself. And he is not offending others he should be fine. Express to him that he should keep his hands to himself. And not speak inappropriately towards other children or adults. Adhd kids have mood swings too. My son has both so I can understand your concern totally. Good luck and keep us posted.

Thank you all so much !!! I am so glad there are people out there that really care !!!

I understand that someone's first impression is that the child has been abused. This is not the case for my son. He was portraying sexual behaviors before he even went to daycare or someone watched him. And it's not all the time. It's just something that worries me. I just love him so much & I want him to do well.

I was trying to get people's opinions about what they thought.

   

missya - I think you have received great information from everyone.

I don't know about behavioral therapy - my son's psychiatrist specializes in ADHD but I think it's more talk therapy.

We don't know you or what specific sexual behavior your son is showing so please ask a professional.  A red light that something is not right, is a child imitating behaviors that they would not know at that age. 

It probably is that your son just may be having trouble controlling his impulses; please ask a professional.  I had a neighbor who's young son went around hugging people all the time.  It did cause problems because he had no friends because the kids didn't want to be touched and hugged all the time.  He was in kindergarten so I guess he was 5 or 6? There was nothing  bad going on in his family, he just couldn't control himself. 

On a humorous note about boys and their privates " I had a friend who's son, when he was in the bath, put cheerios on his erect private part"  Ofcourse, this is not sexual - interesting storage system.

 

missya- can you explain what you mean when you say he has always been very sexual?  My son is 5 and does a very unusual thing to fall asleep- it appears very similar to mastrubation- he puts his hands between his legs (over his clothes) and for lack of a better description- humps the bed with a tremendous amount of energy.  He does this until he falls asleep.  I was very concerned about this "sexual" behavior.  However- we have just uncovered that he has sensory issues and this self stimulation is a part of that.  Are you in Maryland (you mention KK) I am in MD and if you like you could PM me - I could tell you about my son's doctory... 

Hi Kidsin space.

I will PM you

 

Thanks

 

I'm a bit confused. You said you were trying to get your son into therapy but you said he sees a psychiatrist at Kennedy  Krieger?

I would make an apt. with the psychiatrist by myself and talk to him/her about your concerns. I'd pay for it out of pocket if I had to.

Could it be the medications?

If you can't get anymore sessions because of the insurance, maybe the Dr. can figure something else - a sliding fee scale - or creative billing?

6 year olds should not be sexual.  It's normal for them to be curious and play "Dr." and all that but if you feel his behaviour is not age appropriate talk with a professional.

I agree with your concern for the sexual behavior that is happening.

I am sorry to hve to even ask this, but I can onlyu wonder if there could have ever been a chance that he was molested? Daycare, babysitter, etc? I am so sorry to have to ask it, I am only trying to help.

I also think he needs more of an official diagnosis from a pediatric neurologist. Call your local Children's hospital, ask your pediatrician. A pediatrician does NOT specialize in this area.

We went to Children's hospital and was diagnosed by a pediatric neurologist. The evaluation takes a while, but is harmless.

We also do NOT use a pediatrician to prescribe meds. Again, our ped. actually referred us to a speciliast of that. He told us himself that he does not specialize in the area. We go to a psychopharmacologist who is a psychiatrist and writes prescriptions. He is a world of knowledge about all the meds to chose from and what may needed to be added to make the day even better. They can address sleep and eating problems, etc.

I wish you all the best in the world.

Please post any questions or concerns. WE are all here for you!!

 The therapy I am talking about is behavior therapy.

He is just too interested in sexual things. He's not trying to have sex. He doesn't even know what that means.

 

 

Hi Bethann

It's ok - No he has never been molested. And he does see a psychiatrist & has been diagnosed with ADHD in 2005.

The more I read about different things, It almost sounds like he could be bipolar.

We are going back to Kennedy Krieger on Friday for his appt. I will talk more with her about what's been going on.

Thank You

 

Who prescribed the medicine?

Talk to the pediatrician to determine if the behaviours are normal or not.  I started with my pediatrican when I felt there were problems with my son. Not the same as yours - but he was the first person I spoke with.

Boys do tend to "like their private parts".  When you say touching girls, is it in a sexual way?

If he is showing sexual behaviour I'd be concerned because 6 year olds are not sexual.  Where do you think he is learning this behaviour? TV?  An older sibling?

If the pediatrician or even your dr. feels this is not normal for his age, I'd look for a psychologist or even a psychiatrist - because the psychiatrist could manage the meds.

Is there a school psychologist you could talk to?

Take the 5 sessions your insurance covers.  Then, if it is determined more therapy is needed, you'll figure something out.

Go with our gut feeling.  9 times out of 10 it is right.

Good luck.

I started with the peditrician & she referred me to Kennedy Kreiger & he sees a psychiatrist there who perscribes the medicine.

We monitor his tv, video games, & is not around the older siblings that much.

Yes he is very sexual - He always has been . He has never seen anything sexual at home. I do not know where he gets it from.

 

Hi all

I need help. Has anyone else out there experienced their ADHD child expressing sexual tendicies, violent out burst. My son is always referring to his privates, & has also tried to touch girls in school. He is very impulsive which I know has to do with the ADHD. I am just so worried about him. He has even said he wants to kill himself at times. He is only 6 years old. I have been trying to get him in therapy but my insurance will only cover 5 sessions. He in currently on Concerta 36 mg. He was on Medadate 30 mg. He is a lovable child most of the time. He will out of the blue just tell me how much he loves me all the time. But as soon as he doesn't get his way about something that's when he breaks down. He will not listen at all. He is having a lot of problems in school with his behavior that's why we switched medicine.  

Any advise would be appreciated