Just wants to talk to others | ADHD Information
I know how you feel! Welcome!Thanks! I already feel less lonely just reading about every one elses trials and knowing that there are more people out there dealing with this too.hi and welcome
we're all here for the same things..................to ask advice, give advice or just vent!
I have an 8 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD last year. I'm looking for support and advice about this issue with others who are also dealing with this. We have no one around us that really understand what we are going through. All our friends and family with children the same age just don't get it.
There are so many issues we are dealing with right now. Stuff like; Medication not working, our son wanting to go to a new school because he has no friends at the one he has, and friction with family life. I would really like to hear from people who just want to vent and talk. Maybe make a new friend. Thanks.
Welcome to the board! I know the feeling of not having friends and family who can understand what it is like to parent an ADHD child. I also know the toll it can take on the entire family.
You will find support here, a wealth of resources, tips, advice, and just a shoulder to cry or lean on when you need it. This board has been a godsend of information and support for me since I found it - hopefully it will be for you too.
Welcome! =)
Hi, I too have an 8 yr old son who was diagnosed within the past 2 years. It has been a process. A brand new world where my family is just learning the ropes. Most important is to find a support system. I was lucky to have a friend from my past whose son had already travelled the road. SHe was key in telling me things like "accept the fact that your kid will be a guinea pig until you find the right medication". Deciding who to tell what is something your family should agree on. Know that there are many many families in your situation. If possible, read as much as you can (library books, magazines, message boards). Your job is to give your son the tools he needs to be a success. It is a demanding, thankless, and frustrating task. I remind myself that my kid did not ask to be born like 'this'. I cringe when other parents question my decisions, when they don't know what my home life is like. Too bad. But I am also here to tell you that there will be days when the sun shines and your son surprises you. When you will be proud of him and his efforts. I try to remember those days when my son's meds have worn off and he is disrupting the household. As for friends, I find my son gravitates towards other boys similar to him. He has made some pals at his new school, but no "best pal". Social clues are hard for him. We did move and put him in a new school where no one knew he repeated kindergarten, which helped. Last Christmas break, I had a big playdate where I invited 10 boys from his class to come over and play. Ulterior motive was to prompt other parents to invite MY kid over some time. So far, we only had one mother schedule a return playdate, but it is a start. I hope that you become a regular visitor to this site, it has helped me tremendously. Also the board about meds, since it is so darn tricky to find the right combo (My son takes Focalin XR and clonidine, plus Occupational therapy to help his sensory disorder). There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You are already on your way.Welcome!!
We all know how lonely it can be so you have deffinately come to the right spot.
Thank you for all your warm welcomes!
To Trixila , you really have helped.
My son also has some sensory issues as well. He was almost three when he was diagnosed. Silly me I thought that was going to be the only thing we would have to deal with. I am just discovering that there are many different medication option our pediatrician didn't tell us about. Needless to say I will be making an appointment with a new pediatrician who specializes in children with adhd. So hopeful we will get the medication issue resolved. Please wish us luck.
Hi bubbybuns8, I think you have come to the right place on this board. These other people are great and have been supportive of me since I've joined.bubbybuns8,
Welcome! I too have a son, who is now 11 (in 2 weeks) who was diagnosed just shy of 5, medicated just shy of 7, and has sensory integration as well as speech delay.
Social stinks, I don't have any advice except you are NOT alone.
Are there other schools that he could go to in your district? I know those who did move their children to let them get a new start. Kids are mean, cruel, but so aren't their parents. They never forget.
Is he on meds, if so, are they working?
Hang in there, and especially hang around here 
Keep us posted on how he and you are doing!!
Welcome. I'm new here too and love reading about other people and their responses to dealing with their child.My son is 8 and was diagnosed about a year ago, but has had so many other issues (sensory integration disorder, anxiety, OCD) that this is just another.
I recommend that rather than focusing on the pediatrician, that you find a good child psychologist to handle the medicine. I would not leave it to my pediatrician to deal with that stuff. It is definitely a complex matter, as many people with adhd also have a plethora of other mental health issues. We found a good one and she has been a blessing. You want someone who deals with these kids and their medical issues all day everyday to handle the medication.
We're all in this together!
My son is not being medicated at the moment. We were having issues with the last one and haven't gotten back in to see his doctor yet. his last medication made him such a monster that I have actually enjoyed him better unmedicated these last 5 days. How long that will last who's to say.
We have thought about a child psychologist, but we don't have any where we live. The closest one is 3 hours away. Not really an option when we have 2 other children and jobs and things. He will be seeing a behavioral health specialest later this month though. We have also considered switching him to a different school, but we don't really want to until we get his medication and behavior more under control. We just don't want to have the same problems follow him to a new school. That won't help him.
Thanks to every one for your support and advice.
Hi bubbybuns8 welcome. I to have a son who is now 9 that has ADHD. He started meds back when he was in Kidnergarden. My son is extremly smart, he has always been A honor roll, he meets all reading points, ect....We decied to take him off meds for the summer. The bad thing is , is that he is NON stop. but in all reality it is never a dull moment, and him being as smart as he is we never know what is going to come poping out of his mouth next. That keeps the humor up. Its hard to find the right meds and or med combination. Before school got out my son was on Strattera 40mg, Concerta 90mg, and trazadone 25mg (at night). We have kept him on the strattera for the summer, because by the time it gets out his system we would have to start it back up atleast a month before school starts to get it back in to his system. We found that the concerta straterra comb. works we only uped his meds once the whole school year were the year before we uped his meds 3 times. And a perk is when he does start back on concerta we can start back down on a lowere doage for it has been out of his system for the past 8-9 weeks. I am fortunate enough to work in the cafeteria at my sons and school and get 1 on 1 with his teachers. That to is very important is to have a good comunication with the teacher. It helps when they are aware of ways to help keep your child focused, what have you. What works for us is if finishes his work before others, all of his teachers have aloud him to have his word search books. It keeps him busy and focused. I have rambled enough. Again welcome and I am sure you will get alot of info from this Board!!