Wyatt hasn't had an accident in almost a month. He's doing GREAT off meds but the neighbor's son is still calling him poopy boy and pee boy. I have discussed this with his mother before and he is not doing it around the adults (obviously). I am hearing it from not only my kids but other neighborhood kids. My youngest, who is a year younger, is having a pool party tomorrow for his b-day. He hangs around with this boy alot and usually invites him to everything but he refuses to invite him now becausue he wants Wyatt to "have fun too". (He made me cry when he told me, bless his heart) I agreed, but this morning I am having second thoughts. I don't feel right about it. Do I go to the mom today and talk to her again and invite the boy anyway? I can't talk to my boys about it because they are at their dad's until the party tomorrow. Or..do I leave it alone and talk to her after and tell her why? Do I not say a word? It would be much easier on ALL of us if he didn't come.
That's a tough one since the boy lives in the neighborhood. However, if your youngest son, who is having the birthday, doesn't want the boy at his party, I think I would leave it at that. It's his birthday and bless his heart for caring for his brother's feelings! He sounds like a great kid! I guess if I were close to the other mother, I would call and explain. If not, I wouldn't, but if she asks I would give an honest answer. And maybe the name-calling boy will learn that there can be unwanted consequences to mean behavior.In my opinion, if someone is bullying your son - and that is what name calling is - he needs to learn that there are consequences to that kind of behavior. And maybe missing out on a pool party that everyone else in the neighborhood is going to be talking about will show him that treating people poorly might not be the best option. Sometimes it takes learning a hard lesson, not just being told that a behavior should stop, to make someone change.
Hope the party is a blast! And kudos to your younger son for caring about his brother's feelings!
Ok, so I am not exactly "close" to the mother but I guess close enough to call and explain as you suggested. I acted like a kid and hung up once (chicken) then called again. She wasn't surprised and wasn't upset either. She said she sees it and doesn't know what to do about it. He does it to other kids too. He's ok 1 on 1 but if there is another kid in the mix he's a jerk. She has talked to him about it. I was listening to her and thinking she should punish him somehow if she knows he's doing it. Anyway, thanks for the responses. It's overcast this morning and may rain so it looks like I may end up with 20 kids in the house! UGH!!!!!!! and...I didn't plan any inside activities so wish me luck!Yikes! 20 kids in the house?! I'd go online and look up some activities fast! Maybe some old-fashioned games like duck-duck gray duck, pin the tail on the donkey and that sort of thing? Maybe popcorn and a movie?