hi Macsmom: Talk to your pediatrician and have some diagnostic testing for your daughter. all of us have rough times dealing with our adhd children- but- if your dd is dx'd you can have your son and daughter help each other in a lot of good ways. Keep us updated.
randy
My daughter was diagnosed at 11 with ADHD. Her younger brother was terribly impulisve and hyper and was diagnosed at 6. We had no idea that she was too. She was an A grade student and very talkative (never shut up!!) and messy. Always starting projects. So when she started to get anxious I talked to my son's specialist about our daughter seeing his pychologist to work out what was going on. The EEG revealed the disorder was alive and well!!!! Then we gave her concerta and ritalin. No one understood. She was not a bad kid and was bright and successful at school.
She is now in her final year of high school (we live in Australia). Straight A student and in extension classes. She is in debating, band, choir and runs a number of committees. She is off at boarding school as we live in a small town and so the school environment provides the on going stimulation she requires. The meds help her to hyper focus and she is always early with assignments - often annoying teachers with her over organisation. Without meds or for that matter a project to focus on she is a mess. Socially she loves people but more organised things. The whole boy thing is a struggle but going to an all girls school doesn't help. She is an introvert who enjoys social activities. Medication helped with friends, organisation, slowed the talkativeness down as well. When first diagnosed maths was her only weak subject. Testing showed her to be on the 56%. After 6 months on meds it went up to 96%.
Academically , socially and in so many other ways our son struggles.
I too get really angry at times that 2 out of 2 is too many. But at 17 I can see that she has succeeded with ADHD. Diet i and supplements are somethings to look into as well, but for us meds have really made a huge difference.