Thanks for replying, i like your advice, I am attending a meeting ata local support ADHD group monday 4th august, then I have a meeting with my Gp the following monday, because its hard to say what I want in words, I have written a letter that the Gp can read about my experiences, so , hoping this is the begining of getting my life sorted, and I can meet some like minded others for support.
Hayley
Hi, I just feel lonely at the moment, am nearly 30 and just know I have ADD, had it all my life, but do others find it hard to find someone that really understands you. I feel like there is no one who knows the difficulties I go through, I dont feel like I can speak to my doctor, I want so bad to be diagnosed but does anyone know somewhere in the uk that has an ADD specialist to help.
I am woried sick about my memory, I just forget everything at work and I just miss important details, find it hard to follow conversations, daydream all the time, which I can't snap out off, have very low self esteem and feel inadequate and that my brain is wired differently to everyone I meet. I dont think 'normally', i get obsessed my things , spending hours, been on this internet for 2 hours so far, just messing around,
I dont want to be in self pity mode but I just need some support,
thank you
Hayley x
I have all of these too and have been diagnosed with ADHD. One thing that has tremendously helped me was working on myself. I started learning about social psychology, and now I find it easier to notice myself doing things more in the act... but I still can't control my outbursts and many other problems haha. All in all, it has helped me in my personal and academic lives more than anything else i've tried.Forgot to mention something, because my mind was wondering hahaha... When I begun understanding social psychology it changed my life for the better for one main reason: my mind wondered in the direction of analyzing my own and the person(s) I'm communicating with's body language. Because I have become particularly interested in this field my mind focuses on that instead of something way off of the conversation. By the way, body language is estimated to send about 65% of the information in a conversation, voice tonality is about 20% and the actual words are about 5% (these are numbers from many sources).I really understand how you feel about not having friends to talk to about it. When trying to explain, its really frustrating when you try and say that something is a massive problem to you, like concentration at work, and people say 'thats just like everyone, you just get on with it'. Very frustrating!!
I think this message board has helped me immensly. I can discuss the stupid things that irritate me and everyone else is discussing the things that irritate them and asking how to cope with things that are supposed to be easy.
I've not got the confidence to go to a face to face support group, but I find that this site covers most of the areas that I need to cover. i've never seen anyone else wiith ADHD (except one guy who I didn't know had it, but I remember thinking we were similar in the way we presented ourselves) and it irritates me most when people say 'you'd never know by looking at you' (!?!??!) Shall I grow an extra head??? Shall i tattoo myself?!!
I think generally people get used to you and when you get diagnosed, it becomes something other people need to get used to as much as you. When i get diagnosed, I jumped straight into research and have never really stopped as I find it really really interesting. My friends and family thought I was a hypocondriac and was enjoying being officially ADHD but once they saw me pull myself together, people are becoming more aware that I needed a bit of help in the first place
sorry, i'm banging on a bit...
In conclusion, stick to sites like these, ADHD helpgroups and research for yourself. Friends and family will get talking about it when they are confortable about it and can see it helps!
Hi, R- Yes, I think studying something that can help you understand yourself and others simultaneously is very beneficial. I know when I get properly diagnosed, I will definately start helping fellow ADHD suffers, anxiety, depression, on forums and at events, we adhd lot are special , we need understanding and acknowledgement that this is a 'real' disorder and that others are suffering in silence (if your not the hyperactive type- causing obvious trouble), so, its useful to hear that helps you.
Eatme, you brought a smile to my face and in fact I haven't been smiling alot lately since discovering I have ADHD and despite no diagnosis(100%it fits me beautifully), the shall I tatoo it to my forehead, yes, in an ideal world, it would be great to have a flashing sign, I have ADHD' , so stop saying to me things like ''Oh I forget things too', ' don't laugh because I need to write everything down, don't look at me in bewildement, when I have just repeated the same mistake in which I was told about 3 times before!! Don't say your a bright girl I know you can do this, ahhhhhhhh!! I have jumped straight into loking at adhd, but opposite to you it has got be so depressed that I took a week of work, through the shock of finding out this could be me, so now the doctor says I must stop sitting on the net for hours all day, so, am writing to you then got to go, and find another interest otherwise I'll sit here all day, hopefully when the meds kick in, life will be wonderful and bye bye internet , well for a while anyway!
I am waiting to be referred to an specialist ADHD clinic, I have been pretty depressed lately and my gp has been very understanding,thou it means trying yet another antipressant ZOLOFT, anyone else know this?
so as you say this forum is great for support and I noted you live in the UK, I am on www.aaad.org.uk its specifically for adults only in the uk, its very good, I reccomend this site to those in the UK.
Anyway, I want to say so much but can't express myself, can't find the words my normal problem lol!