My seven yo son has had such a great summer. No problems UNTIL today. The school where his summer camp is called and apparently he was inappropriately touching another boy (private parts) on the bus yesterday. The boy's parents came to the school today and were quite concerned (as I am!) I guess when the boy told him to stop, my son did but now we have to go in and see the director, the teacher, and Jacob. There was talk of suspension, but they decided against it. I am mortified by this behavior. Is this normal for boys this age? Is this ADHD? Do I need to contact his behavioral md? I have no experience in dealing with this. I am panicked and don't know how to proceed. ANY suggestions???????
My 5 yr old ds was suspended from kindergarten for inappropriately touching a girl..... I think it is the impulsivity of adhd. He was probably curious and because of the impulsivity could not control his urge to find out for himself. This was before meds and did not happen after meds,. But impulsiveness continues to be a problem.
I really do not think it is as unusual as we think, people just don't talk about it.....I remember being curious about boys when I was around 4 or 5. And my older son went through a curious stage at that age. The only diff. is that it was not at school........
We just went over what parts of the body are private areas (bathing suit areas) and not to touch there. Also gave him permission to ASK us if he had questions. We were advised by counselor not to go into detail or show even age appropriate book at this time because ds is very immature and impulsive.......He also has ovsessive tendencies.....
I believe your son will come through this ok. Get advice and then do what your mothers heart tells you is best. But don't focus on it too much.
< =text/>_popupControl(); Well, I think it's pretty typical behavior, but with certain behaviors and words having become such hot button issues in our culture, I think people fly WAY off the handle and over-react. If you just reinforce what's appropriate and what's not, your child will get it and be okay. Next time he's going on the bus or really going anywhere without you, just give a simple reminder to keep his hands to himself. Focussing too much on "private areas" and such will only keep the incident fresh in his mind and could cause some sort of stigma, IMO.I would mention this to his Behavioral MD. But, remind your son when people say stop-- to stop any type of annoying behaviour. I agree this is a hot topic and is often blown way out of proportion. Sometimes I wonder where all the sane folks have gone. Focus on what is appropriate behaviour. My son is into poking people and it drives me up the wall. I try very hard to be calm and composed when I tell why it bothers me, over and over and over. (I have nerve damage in the arm he likes to poke and it causes me pain.) I do know part of my son's problem is that we are doing a med break of a sort (still meds, just a lower dose).
Good luck.