Hi, Stystrng. Have so been in the same boat with my 5-year-old son. My husband and I are finally at a place where we say our son is who he is and good or bad (depending on the day,) that's just the way it goes. I am so tired of judgments from kids and especially parents. Parents are the worst!!! I'm now in a place where I do not care what other people think anymore. If they're bothered, that's their problem, not mine. I'm done over-explaining and over-anlayzing my child's behavior. He is a kid and he's going to make mistakes. As an adult raising kids, sometimes I feel like I'm back in school again with the parents. Too many people are trying to make their kids what they were not -- popular, pretty or whatever. Just let them be kids! Like you said above, I've adopted the mantra that my child isn't perfect, but neither is theirs!
BTW Wyatt's mom, loved the nose-picker story. Cracked me up.
I know it is really difficult when others are critical of our children- either overtly or covertly. And yes, even though I love my son dearly, he has embarrassed me any number of times over the years. And no, none of us is perfect and neither are our children. BUT- you can be proactive while supporting your daughter. If you see any adult being, acting or looking disapprovingly at her- tell her your daughter is NOW doing very well and how happy she would be for encouragement. DON'T tell them what her dx is: if they ask, just tell them it is an ongoing condition which is why she needs ongoing unconditional acceptance and encouragement.
Usually, the adult will appologize and be nice after that.
Randy
So there is a little boy who stopped playing with my DS at the pool. I think it hurt DS feelings but the beauty of ADHD is that he is to busy bouncing to care sometimes. Well we started with a new psychologist yesterday and guess who was in the waiting room?!I WOULD JUST LIKE TO SAY THAT I DONT GET WHAT MAKES OUR CHILDREN SO UNDESIREABLE WITH OTHER CHILDREN I DONT GET TO ME SHE PLAYS LIKE EVERY OTHER 4 YEAR OLD I GUESS IT IS JUST SOMETHING WE WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH BUT MY GOD YOU KNOW NOT ONLY THAT BUT HOW ADULTS LOOK AT HER WHEN SHE IS EXICTED AND TALKS FAST OR JUST RESPONDS TO THEM IN A SILLY FASHION WHO CARES REALLY DO THE LOOKS REALLY NEED TO BE MADE IT HURTS MY FEELINGS AND I CANT HELP BUT WONDER IF MY DAUGHTER PICKS UP ON IT SHE IS NOT STUPID SHE JUST A LITTLE GIRL EVEN MY HUSBAND ACTS LIKE HEW IS EMBARRESSED OF HER IN PUBLIC SOMETIMES I KNOW HE LOVES HER DEEPLY BUT I STILL SEE IT FROM TIME TO TIME THE WHOLE SEGRAGATED FEELING MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM AND START REMINDING PEOPLE THAT THEIR CHILDREN ARE NOT PERFECT EITHER AND NEITHER ARE THEY
I know exactly how you feel. do you think we are just sensitive to their diagnosis' and think everybody else knows????
I remember dreading the park. sure wish I could go back to when he was little and enjoy him more
I was so hung up on what others thought and trying to get help and worrying, what a mess it was back then.
we all deal with the social dilema, even those with out adhd, but ours get it worse. just keep their self esteem high and there house a safe place for them and just love them up!!
Wyatt is a little goofy and once at the park a mother was watching him and kind of rolling her eyes. Her son is a cutie but is a constant nose picker. I wasn't too mature about it. She never said a word but when i noticed "the look" I very snottily said, "at least he's not a nose picker" and walked away. I know that was wrong but I was pretty mad. The thing is...i am not even 100% sure she was thinking anything that bad. I was just sensitive that day.