Invited to a pool party | ADHD Information

As long as he can swim, I think it's OK to let him go. Maybe you can drop
them off and then check in on your younger son after 1-2 hours and see
how he's doing. I worry about my ds (8) the same as you do. I don't think
we will ever stop worrying really, but we do have to let go a little and let
them live and learn.I think that 7 is too young to go to a pool party without supervision. Perhaps you can call the mom giving the party and offer to come and help 'watch' the pool. Here, all the parents come to all the parties and it is fun socializing plus we can keep an eye on our children.I agree with Randy that 7 is way to young to go to a pool party unsupervised. Also, while playdates may work out because its more of a one on one situation (not too much stimuli), with so many children and older ones as well, your child might get over stimulated and overwhelmed. If your able to go with your son to the pool party to keep an eye out so that you can intervene if necessary by all means let him join the party and have fun.My son and his older brother have been invited to a back to school pool party on Friday.  It is at a friend of my older son's house.   I am nervous to let my younger son attend without my supervision, just in case anything happens and he becomes upset or something else.  I don't know that anything would happen but I don't know for certain that it wouldn't either.  When does the protective mommy in me let loose a little bit and let him see if he'd really be ok?   Maybe I'm just worried for nothing.  He's had a few playdates that have seemed to go well, no meltdowns or arguing or anything.  I think if I'm going to be totally honest here I'm worried that if he does have a meltdown, then it will reflect poorly on my other child and he won't be invited back over to play with his friend.  I haven't RSVP'd to the party yet b/c I just don't know what to do.  UGH!!How old is your yongest? He's 7.

Jon went to a swim party a few weeks ago. Brother and sister were invited and we stayed also (husband and myself). It was interesting that the little boy who just turned 7 got so stressed that Jon took him by the hand and into the house to play quietly with him in his room. After a half hour, when the cake was served, the little boy and Jon rejoined the party. Jon did not want to swim or participate in the games. He enjoyed looking on and interacting one-on-one with several children.

Oh- I wrote this to say that the gmother of the birthday boy was really inappropriate by telling him (birthday boy) that he needed to get out of the bedroom and entertain his guests and he was ruining the party for the mom! I told the gmother that he was a little stressed and overwhelmed and he needed some quiet time.

randyjim39680.9696990741My older son wouldn't have a problem with me there.  The party won't be unsupervised either.  The last party my son attended there had a lot of adults there supervising the swimming activities.  I've decided to let him go and we'll all have a discussion about what it means to be a good guest at someone's house so that we all know the rules.  If there is any issue at all, I can be there to get him within 5-10 min of receiving the call.  I'll keep you posted. Thanks for the advice.

maybe if u feel uncomfortable with the younger brother going u can arrange for him and another friend to get together and do something fun while the older brother is gone. i would be nervous to let him go. but i am also very over protective and worry alot about pools or the beach b/c other parents are usually pretty laid back unless they have an adhder of their own. or like randy said maybe u could go but i dont know if the older son would have a prob with his mom being there.

kim

Just wanted to give a follow up to this question.  The boys went to the pool party and had a wonderful time.  The parents told me ds ate a lot (which is good since he hardly ate all day after meds) and was a great kid to have over.  I'm glad I let him go and that he had a great experience.  He told me it was awesome!!

So glad it went well! I, like you, find it difficult to let go, but sometimes that's the best choice. Yea! :)