Imagination and Story Telling

I need some advise on how to handle. My ds has an active imagination and likes to tell stories that are not true. Don't know if it is just for the shock value sometimes or if he just doesn't think. I just got an email from his 1st grade teacher yesterday. See Below...

"I just wanted to let you know about a little “incident” that took place at lunch yesterday. Apparently Chris told several of those seated around him that his “father didn’t like his grandfather and so he shot him and he’s dead”…I guess he even went on to describe the “holes” in him. This was disturbing to the kids that heard it and so I was informed…the assistant principal talked with Chris today and he now understands that he can’t make up stories like that and that it is inappropriate to do so. The situation has been taken care of here at school and is resolved, but I thought you would like to know so that you can reinforce the idea that Chris should not use his imagination to create such disturbing stories."

Was just wandering if anyone else had issues with telling disturbing stories that are not true and how you handle it.

I haven't had an issue with this personally, but my daughter has had two different friends at different times who made up stories. One was back in preschool. This girl often told stories about a brother even though she was an only child. The other was my daughter's good friend in 5th grade. They are now starting 7th but go to different schools. She likes to make up stuff about celebrities being her cousins and that sort of thing. When we saw her this summer, I asked her about some kids that they both used to go to school with, but that my daughter doesn't see anymore since she switched schools. She made up some really crazy stories. It started out believable but then got wilder and wilder.
I believe it is attention-seeking and could be partially the result of immaturity. My daughter's friend is young for her grade and does seem immature to me. She does other things that are attention-grabbing too.
I don't know how to handle it other than to call them on it when you see it happening, and try to nurture positive ways of getting positive attention. Maybe social skills would help, since they are saying these things to get attention from other kids. Also, maybe finding an outlet for creativity. If your son likes to make up stories, maybe he would like to do some creative writing!

My 11 Year old daughter does this. Not as graphic as you sons But that may be the differance between boys and girls. So far it just stuff like seeing someone and telling me of a converstion she had with this person. and then when I see this person and ask about it thaey don't know what I am talking about. I think she does it just to make her life seem moreintresting.

Also I have been told buy her Dr and couseler that lieing could go along with ADHD.
Melissa

[QUOTE=lbugg73]Was just wandering if anyone else had issues with telling disturbing stories that are not true and how you handle it. [/QUOTE]

yikes!

Jacob makes up stories all of the time---has been getting worse lately. I had no idea that this was adhd related---just thought it was a phase---i'm going to put my foot down on that one.

how do you deal with just lying all the time and not taking resposibilty. my son has adhd and his teacher says yesterday that my son is a liar and she doesn't trust him and school just started and how are they going to be for the rest of the year. i feel alot of it is his disability but i'm not sure. how do i help my son. i don't want to make excuses for him but if it has to do with adhd, how can we and his teachers help him. i'm so close to just homeschooling him. the teachers get so frustrated with him and i feel they give up on him too fast. please help me understand...I know it is part of Her disability but that is one of my pet peeves I just can't stand being lied too. I do what I normally do call her on it. If it is a big lie Then she does get grounded but if it is a liitle lie like not brushing her teeth but she said she did thant I just mkae her do it longer she hates that. She also has a problem with hiding sweets in here room. Well the other day I found old choclate chips in here drawer Well when asked she did tell me the truth so instead of ground her 2 weeks off snacks She just lost them for the day. So if she tell me the truththe punishment is not as harsh as it would have been if she lied. But always cll them on it. don't let them think that they are getting away with it because then it could become worse. Also explain to your childs teacher that this is apart of his didablity and have him call her call him on it too. It is sad to say but I can't trust my daughter either. I question everything she says. And her teachers don't trust her either. But Luckly they don't treat her different that the other kids At school as long as she is on her Med she doesn't have beaviorl issues except making up stories. I think she just does that cause she seeem to think that it will get her friends if she makes her life more interesting. Good luck with your son and you will do what is best for him. Melissa

thanks for the response. i will talk to his teacher and make sure we are on the same plan. i'm doing a behavorial contract with him. we are helping him with the lying. i'm having issues as we speak. i just have to continue to ask him to tell me the truth. i'm there as well that he has lost his honesty with me but i will never give up on him. i do beleive we can teach him with love and discipline that he can change this bad behavior.

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