no meletonin fo 12 weeks.help! | ADHD Information

now you see if id said it like that i proberbly would have had success.i feel like a complete whimp.i felt it as soon as we came out of her clinic.its always a fine balancing act with the psychiatrists over here.they hate to be told what to do.they are loathe to put kids on meds here.it takes years and years to get them to take you seriously so in turn i am loathe to rock the boat.sounds stupid doesnt it.dont know if its because of demographics but so many people round here are anti meds.teachers,docs even family.they seem to think a stiff upper lip is all it takes.i wish my son didnt need meds,but the fact is he does.sorry for rambling on its not very often i get to discuss it .i think you are right though i will ring tommorow and ask for an appointment i think its time to get tough.well i will try!thanks for the reply.its good to know someone cares

i wanted to tell u that u can also mention that your son is not going to do well in school if he is staying up until 130 am. mine had stayed up until 11pm some nights and he was so crabby and bad the next day. i can imagine how worn out your son would be after just a few days let alone 3 months. thats not fair at all. maybe tell her u will only give him the melatonin if he is still awake at 10 pm?? that way u can see if its starting to work or u can say u wont give it on the weekends? i def would not have been able to agree to 12 more weeks. that would be an eternity without sleep. i had to go out and buy melatonin about a week ago b/c my son was up late and has to ge tup early to take meds and go to school. i didnt want to put him on anything else b/c i didnt really agree with giving kids meds until recently. well the melatonin works pretty good. i try to wait until 9pm to give it to him b/c i dont want him to have to have it every night but so far he has it on school nights and he goes to sleep within an hour sometimes sooner. he only has 1/4 of a 1mg pill be/c 1/2 gave him nightmares. if they give it to u start off slow. u can always go up. be tough when u call the dr so they will give u what your child needs. u and him should not have to be going through that. 130am is very late! esp when they have school! just remember its for your child and u want what best for him. good luck and let us know how it all turns out!

kim

I suppose it's a bit harder in the UK than here in the US, since over there your doctor isn't making money directly from you, so they may feel less inclined to "appease" you, and similarly you may feel less of a right to assert yourself.

Just keep in mind that you have the right, and the responsibility, to have a say in decisions regarding your health and the health of your son. Doctors aren't there to give you orders. They're there to help you, and it's your duty to let them know how they can best do that.

Good luck, and let us know what happens.  equazcion39689.7005324074went to my sons six weekly check today to see how he was doing on his meds.both my son and i told her about how bad his sleepleness was.before i went i had averaged out what time he was going to sleep.the average is 1.20am.i told them how exhausted i was and my son said he cant stand it any longer.last time i went she said she would discuss melatonin with me but today she said she wanted him to do another 12 weeks on the equasym xl and see if his sleeping settles down when hes back at school.i can tell you now it wont.its been like this since december.here in england you cant just buy melatonin it can only be perscibed by the psychiatrist.i know she is the psychiatrist but until u live like this day in day out you have no idea what its like.even if you are a pychiatrist! You have every right to tell your psychiatrist that you simply don't want to try what she's suggested. This might take a bit of "chutzpah" on your part, but in your case I would tell the psychiatrist that "trying something" that could take 12 more weeks to work is simply not acceptable at this point. If you want to try melatonin instead, say so.

Here are your lines for your next conversation with her:

"I understand that you feel 12 more weeks of Equasym is worth a try, but if you had to endure these sleepless nights along with us, you would probably reconsider making us do this for another 12 weeks. We are both at our wits end and we can no longer stand it. We need to try something different, and we need to do it right now. I'd like to try melatonin. Could you give me some advice on how to go about that?"
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