wish my friends understood | ADHD Information

just wanted to sound off really.ive been to get together tonite and one saturday.both bithday parties for close friends.children invited.my son has adhd and gets really really hungry when meds wear off.he gorges.its hard to watch but he NEEDS to eat.the problem is my friends dont seem to understand.i have to tried to explain it to them but they just dont get it.both times i took sons supply of food with us as i knew he was going to be hungry after a certain time.i even took him outside so the other kids dint feel like they were missing ot.the host of the party wasnt happy.said it wasnt fair on the other kids and that i shouldnt give in to him and that its very rude to bring my on food.the same thing happened tonight.im really upset and so is my son.these are really close friends and i suppose im shocked and hurt.it makes me feel like not taking him to peoples houses.sorry for moaning but needed to get it off my chest as ive no one to discuss it with.You provided what your son needed and it sounds like you did it in as unobtrusive way possible.  Just as their children's needs come first with them, your son's needs come first with you.  If they don't understand that, then they don't sound very much like friends.  You did the right thing.
Holy cow, if I was you, I would be so frustrated.  That's the great thing about this board. We are all in this together. You may have to educate your pals.  Our lives can be so very different from other families.  Our kids look normal but in our case we have limit certain activities b/c my son just cannot 'handle it'.  You did everything right.  It can be a delicate balance between your child's privacy and your friend's perception of the situation.  Sounds like you were proactive but it still wasn't enough.  I'm sure that you learned from these experiences, the hard way.  Number one is your son, protect him as best you can.  People may not understand or accept your choices (in this case to medicate and the side effects) but they have to respect them. 

The blue words are another way for the advertiser's to adverstise.  roll your curser over one and there is a popup if it isn't blocked.  Mine aren't all the way blocked because of games I play and they pop up saying to go here for more info on whatever the word is about. 

hope this goes through, my computer has been playing up.protein shakes sound like a good idea.ive also heard people on the forum talk about a breakfast cereal called carnation or something.what is it? i dont think we have it here in england.thanks for everyones help

< =text/>_popupControl(); I totally understand. The same thing happens to my son. Most of the time when supper is served, he's not hungry yet, but about 45 minutes later, he's ready to eat the wallpaper!!  Sometimes we get the stink eye about not forcing him to eat supper when it's served, but these people have never seen him power puke because he's being made to fill up when he's not hungry. I ignore it and say things like, "Well, I guess it's better to only eat when you're hungry" or "You know, I don't always feel like eating on schedule, either." I always take along snacks that I know he'll eat (whenever we get an invite I always respond with a "what can I bring?" If the answer is nothing, I always say I'll bring snacks 'cause my son is a grazer), enough for a party bowl, and make myself at home putting them out. I think because I act like I'm supposed to be doing it, no one ever questions it!! I like to bring cheese and sausage with crackers because they tend to fill him up faster. It can make a party expensive, but at least we can go out AND I get a say in what he'll eat.

 

(Okay, I just reread my post and don't understand why sauage is in blue and underlined. This just started happening today. Can anyone tell my what I did?)

(And now it isn't. I'm going crazy.)

< =text/>_popupControl();BPQW39699.4846412037Why not just have him eat a protein shake before he goes -- hungry or not.I feel your pain Abbey, I run into similiar situations with my own family even. My son is exactly the same way about eating, doesn't eat all day, then goes crazy all night right up until bedtime. I too bring all of his food and drinks wherever we go.

I did not realize what a judgemental society we lived in truly until I saw my own friends and family react to my son's disorder and how I handle it. I rarely spend time with any of those people now and it is very isolating.

Hang in there, and don't ever feel badly for being your child's advocate. I'm trying to grow a thicker skin and I've actually told my friends and family, not in the moment, but in later conversation, without pointing out their behavior outright, that it's unfortunate people cannot understand what our lives are like.

I think it's unfortunate that so many people cannot have compassion for these poor children, who, through no fault of their own, are fighting a battle every day that they don't understand. My son is a hero to me for going through this, and I am grateful this is all he's dealing with, could be a whole lot worse.
thankyou so much for your kind replys.it is so hurtful that friends and family dont understand what my son is going through.i suppose i just have to think that they dont live in my sons world.and yes,mzdebra i do feel isolated and its hard.but im going to be there every step of the way for him through good and bad.thanks for the support.it really helps.