What happened?? | ADHD Information

Our ds, as some of you know, went all summer without meds and we were so proud that he did so well...

Now, he's in first grade. Things were going awesome and then the last two weeks happened. We started noticing a difference at home-his attitude and energy (Bursts way UP) and lack of impulse control. Then, the notes started coming in hot and heavy! His school and teachers are awesome and they adore him, so I know their concern is genuine.  BUT WHAT HAPPENED? Why did he do so well this summer and now, in a more structured and challenging environment, is he seemingly going backwards???

I know there are worse things than having to go back on meds but still...I was so badly looking forward to him being med free...Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.

this is really really common. Lots of kids do fine when they are "doing what they want". Not having to focus for schoolwork and do "boring" activites are fine. Now he's back in a high stress environment, lots of pressure, 6 hours of having to focus and hold it together. It's not really that surprising. It's nice to know you cna do med breaks and only use meds during school if that is what you opt to do. We can't even do that, my daughter really needs her meds all the time.My son used to be great at home, but as soon as I opened the front door, things changed. I used to wonder why? It was as if I had him caged in at home and he became free once we left the house. I now have realized for some time that he is overstimulated outside our home. Plain and simple. You couldn't have a better screenname - I love my boys, which you do, that is why you care and it breaks your heart! You are an awesome mom.Diane, I always value your opinion!! I know you're right that it isn't that surprising so why is myheart so sad?  No, really, I understand that, too. None of us like to HAVE to medicate. However, 'having to' actually makes the decision easier. I see he NEEdS it.  I was just wishful thinking...and I guess there's no harm in that.Bethann, your statement makes a lot of sense, too. Thank you for taking time to ease my heart today.

Thank you both so much.  He got another bad note yesterday and I just dismissed it because-well, there's not much we can do to help him until we have our dr appt (next Monday!)

I was considering having our dr give us a referral to have a brain scan...However, dh is upset about the money (because like it or not, it is an issue) and he asked "Okay, so what do they do after they see where the misfiring his happening...What will they do with the brain scan?"  Um... I don't know?  Do you?

< =text/>_popupControl(); When our whole adhd journey started, we didn't think anything was going on because he was so...him at home. We expressed this to the dr., who assured us that this (ie, fine behavior at home when he was doing what he wanted but lots of difficulty at school doing what he needed to do) was actually a pretty significant sign that something WAS going on. Luckily, and I'm sure that it will change soon 'cause he's just hit a growth spurt with lots of baby teeth falling out and pants too short, we have hit on a dosage of Focalin XR that does the trick for most of the day at school and wears off without rebound by about supper. So, he gets the benefits at school and we still have our "normal" boy at home.  

I like that explaination that your doctor gave, I'm pretty anxious to meet with our's and see what he has to say, too. 

I don't want to sound whiney ... You know?  There are so many parents sitting in hospitals with their children receiving chemo or life-threatening surgeries. I am trying a 'new method' of thinking and one of the things is to try and keep things in perspective!  we love our ds and he has his struggles, but God is good and there is a plan...It's better than anything I could've came up with so I'm just going to lean on that!   And in the meantime, I'll come here to get reassurance (THANK YOU ALL) and to offer it, too.  I'm so glad I found this website...

it's SO disappointing, that's why you feel that way. It is completely justified. When he's fourteen (like my daughter) we just accept the disappointments a little more, but I still whine when things happen..................a LOT . We just start to half expect it. I wait every day to hear there's an issue with my 6 y.o. at school and the kid isnt diagnosed with ADHD, but I'm still half expecting there to be issues..................I had the same kind of issue with my son. He just turned 9 in August. We don't do meds right now because of all the side effects and we've tried numerous meds and just need to wait. Anyway, all summer he was in daycare for 3 days a week - no notes home, no "talks" about his behavior. He had fun and everything went well. It gave me a new perspective on my son after a stressful school year.

My son is a great kid and I don't need to be upset with him because the teacher had problems with him - he can actually do well.

Then, school began and the first two weeks were so good that I thought for sure the teacher wouldn't need to do a behavior chart this year. Well, then the "honeymoon phase" was over and it's back to having some issues. He just hit a kid last week and got an in-school suspension kind of thing. The hit wasn't out of anger - just a really poor choice.

I also have him taking the Omega 3-6-9, and zinc each day and he is doing better at paying attention, and trying to give him protein for breakfast. It's helped some!

Sure isn't easy having an ADHD kid, but they are such a joy too because they have a different outlook and personality than "regular" kids! Just know you've got company!

I'm a newbie but not I had to change my name because I lost my password. my screen name used to be CMRsmom 

 

 

I love my sons, what kind of issues is he having if the teachers are sending notes home? if you don't mind me asking.  My boys have to sit up in front with the teacher.

oh I hear you on the extremes My DOS does the same exact thing if he gets bumped he thinks they are doing it on purpose and slugs them and I know he can't do that but it's mostly at recess. Is there like a resourse room where he can go and do his work there. does he have a class room aid? Most ADHDers don't have Control over there body there a teacher they should know that.  Is the teacher working with you. I don't know I think the teachers that my kids had last year is Medication is the answer and it shouldn't be.  My youngest sons teacher which he is in the 1st grade too. Tells him eyes on me. so he'll stop what he's not supposed to be doing and he also sits in the front just throwing a suggestion out. Tweetysmom, thank you because it is such a comfort to have company in this 'house'

He is up front with his teacher. He is having trouble staying on task. He's having trouble sitting still and keeping his chatter down to a minimum (he's a talker, but he gets it honestly ha ha). He is also making impulse decisions- like hitting his friends not out of anger but out of excitement and quick judgement (or lack there of).  He's in such a hurry to turn his homework in that he's making mistakes a LOT. He's interrupting others around him...He has no control over his body (this comment made by the teacher.)

You know, a lot of this sounds so general. But you know how our ADHDers are, they take it to extremes!