Following Rules/Limiting Meltdowns | ADHD Information

My son is the same way, and (sorry :( ) but I don't really think that there is any way of avoiding the "spoiled brat scenario" OR making him calm down quicker. When my DS asks for something in the morning that there isn't time for, or is obvioulsy something that he cannot have/do, I tell him no. I remind him of the reason, let him have at his tantrum, and contiunue about the things that I have to do in the morning. Once he realizes that I'm not going to listen to him, or give him what it is that he wants. He usually goes off and finishes the things that he has to do.. albiet grumbling under his breath, but hey.. he's not yelling at me anymore! Another thing I found that helps (sometimes) is to get him out of bed a little earlier than normal.. which isn't a problem for him since he's usually up playing in his room from 5:30am on, and we'll do somethings together that we don't normally have time for in the morning. EX: I'll let him make his sandwich for lunch while I get the rest of it together. Making his sandwich usually takes him about 10 minutes, but it's 10 minutes of something that he wants to do, but I don't let him (usually) because it takes so damned long . His morning is usually better when we do these things.
I had been letting my DS play video games in the am but that fired back at me lately as he has coped a BiG Attitude and has now they have been taken away as of today. He is also on Vyvanse, He was so engrossed with the games he isn't eating, sleeping, or doing anything but play on games. We will see how this morning goes.

WOW!  I had the same issues am & pm.  Am - My husband gives him his meds 1.5 hrs before I need him awake.  In the pm, I was having horrible tantrums everynight over something, lots of screaming, yelling, ugghh, horrible to see that behavior in such a true loving boy.  I spend the summer with a wonderful psychologist that was recommended by a couple of woman from my local CHADD group and it took a few sessions when he saw me alone and I realized that my son did have control of his tantrums.  We upped his Vyvance from 30 to 50 and my husband & I had a long talk with my son and let him watch videos of himself ( I recorded his tantrums from my phone (he could not believe his own behavior and it was truly as if he didn't remember).  After this nice talk, about 3 months ago, we have had no problems.  If took a couple reminders that he could control the tantrums and BIG rewards at the end of the day when we would go over all of the times I know he "controlled" himself. 

 

Best of Luck!

 

OK, I need a bit of advice here. Six-year-old son recently started Vyvanse. Experience has been mostly positive so far. The challenge is usually school day mornings before the med has kicked in. (Takes about an hour and a half.) Anyway, son is usually pretty positive until he doesn't get his way/we set limits. For example, today he wanted to play the Wii and we said no because it was almost time to go and that the Wii is something he can earn as a reward for a good day at school, etc. That led to the whole I-don't-want-to-go-to-school response. When we continued to say no and ignore, it elevated to the I-HATE-school response, followed by school-is-STUPID and SHUT UP, for which we made him relax in timeout as we don't talk like that. Eventually he got out of it and went to school.

Any tips on avoiding the spoiled brat scenario or calming him down a bit quicker? We try not to engage, but that sometimes leads to the use of mean talk by him to escalate the situation. He just gets himself so worked up so quickly even though we tell him to stop, breathe and think or get control of himself. Thanks for any advice on how to get him to be more "agreeable" before the meds kick in.

Thanks all in advance!

 

my daughter is the same way, which is why I wake her an hour before she has to be up to take her meds. She sits up, takes her pill and goes back to sleep. When she does get up, meds are already working...................

Last school year my son was the same way but this year he is much better.  I think one of the things that has really helped is a strict morning schedule.  Sometimes I wonder if it is an age thing or his ADD.   He is 9 years old.  I was not able to give him his meds an earlier or they would not last through homework.

 

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