Am I overreacting? Do I micromanage? | ADHD Information

I'd ask your son how he thinks the other kids think of him.  He could consider himself a class clown, and he might be trying to be "goofy."  It could be he is fine with it, and if he is, and he's not getting in trouble at school, let it go.  But if he says he thinks relationships are strained, then you could go from there to help him with his social skills.

Good luck!

OK, DS went up on his Daytrana meds about 2 weeks ago. He is doing
fine with school - passing all tests, completing assignments, etc. The
teacher has not said anything to me and said that he is fine in the
classroom. I, however, see that he is not as calm as I would like him to be
in the mornings. I resorted to letting him go into school in the mornings
alone without walking him in. When I do, it upsets me if he is goofy.
Today, I had to go in to drop something off at the office. Had a nice chat
with his teacher about a different issue and I reinforced to her to let me
know if any issues arise that I need to be aware of. Fine. Go to office and
walk past his classroom. There are 2 kids in his class in the hallway. One
girl tells me that she thinks my ds is going into her locker (next to his), I
don't think he would honestly. The other boy says "yeah ds is crazy" - ds
said something silly to another girl in the class (silly really). I see ds in
class acting silly with another boy (teacher not in room).

Should I just let all this go and stop micromanaging every little thing the
boy does? I am sure the teacher would tell me if there was a problem.
She knows that I don't want ds alienating or pissing off anyone of his
classmates (big fear of mine). He seems happy after school and seems to
play on the playground with other kids. I am ready to rethink his meds
now. He also has anxiety which is up. Should I just let all this go and wait
to see if there is a problem? My gut says that he is an 8 year old boy and
just needs to work things out for himself. As long as the school work is
getting done, then who cares.

What do you all think? I think I need to change my expectations of my ds
or have a better outlook. I am expecting meds to make him into a non-
ADHD kid and that is not going to happen. I just need a reality check and
some good advice.sounds to me like you've already given yourself great advice . Remember too, Daytrana takes a really, really long time to "kick in". A good 2 hours, so unless you're putting it on 2 hours before he wakes up, you're getting unmedicated in the mornings. IMO if teacher is fine, he's happy and fine, I'd leave it alone. There are SO many times we all need to intervene. I think you do come to that point too where you have to start thinking what's symtpoms to relieve and what's just my child's personality. That's HARD to do when you're using meds, we're always lookng to "correct" behaviors we feel inappropriate. Well, 8 year old boys are inapproriate and silly and goofy, ADHD, non ADHD, medicated, not medicated..............ALL of them . Enjoy him..............Thanks Diane. I do put the patch on at 4:30 am so it should be working well
before 8:00 school start. He is just an 8 year old boy I guess. I have to stop
doing this to myself! I appreciate any advice.

I share your fear and guess what...we have to let it go!  

 

My son can be very goofy and it concerns me too. Nobody wants their child to be viewed as "weird", "crazy", "odd" etc  I hear things he does/says all the time and I cringe over what his peers must think. But I have learned to let some stuff go. I have explained to him that although he may want to be the class clown if the other kids are not laughing or are making fun of him because of what he did or said it means that he is not being funny he is behaving unacceptably. Try explaining that to him. At this age there is such a fine line between funny and just ridiculous. However if he is playing with others and is not sulking by himself then I would say he is doing good. My ds is making friends in his new school so I am thankful for that and like to  think he must just have moments of being goofy.

 

As for the reality check…well something that I find puts me in my place if I am having a “this just is not fair" day.

 

I am thankful that my child is here to be who he is and to behave the way he does. I get to kiss, hug and hold my child everyday and there are parents out there that are not as fortunate as I am.