Just needing a shoulder | ADHD Information

Hang in there...make sure and hand out lots of hugs and encouragement...It's good for everyone's soul that is involved!   You know, it's all so complex and these kids just want to be KIDS!!  So hang in there and give him some 'oh, no biggie' comments because we can't make everything a big deal. I found, for me, that's where my frustration and YELLING came in. YUCK. So, lately, I've been picking my battles and saying "Oh, okay, that's no biggie" and the other day ds walks in and says "Mom, I spilled my drink" and he was cringing and I looked at him (he'd been HYPER all day!!) and smiled and he said "Oh, I'll just clean it up. No biggie, right mom?" And I said with a sigh of relief "You're right, no biggie." He was cleaning it up and when he finished he yelled to me, in the laundry room, "See, MOM, no biggie!"    God love him.  But you know, I felt better, too. Just choose some battles and let others go to the "No biggie" pile.

I was so ticked off when I got 50 odd pages of half completed work from my son's teacher last year!

I would ask the teacher to email you the homework and uncompleted class work(most have access to scanners).

You didn't say if you have an IEP?  I'd get one, or a 504, or some document from the principal that allows for ammended work for your son.  He should either have different work, or, even better, make it okay for him to not complete the work.  Maybe you could have the teacher send home incomplete work so you can check with him yourself to see that he understands it.

As far as getting him to do the homework - as you know, yelling doesn't cut it.  I bribe my son a lot.   Little things, like I'll let him watch a half hour of cartoons if he gets it done.  I also let him do it in his most comfortable place in the house, which usually means his bed.  I'll sit with him while he does it.  And he concentrates on the work better, believe it or not, when I read a book to him.  Sounds insane, but it must take up some of that extra brainwave activity following a story while he's doing math problems.  TV (obviously) doesn't work, and music doesn't work as well, either - he wants to get up and dance.  And, if he's not working, I stop reading.  It might be weird, but it works.

Good luck!

Marching music quietly in the background is helping us.

Hello! I am new to this group, after the advice of our doctor I am posting to find some much needed support and words of advice!