New To This Board-Son Being bullied | ADHD Information

At the school my kids go Telling is not an opition my daughter had to stop a fight with this one boy and my son while the supervisors watched and I went right up there and I complained because my son and this boy was getting into it all last year they were separated this year in the classroom but they still have lunches and recesses together. 

 

Can they honestly do something in the middle school I was bullied all through school and I'll be Darned if my kids will  I'm not putting up with that BS. Just because they are different doesn't mean it gives the other kids a right  to pick on them  or other kids like them

Thank you for all the replies, I appreciate it. At his middle school the kids
are assigned to a counselor by last name. As luck would have it, it
appears that another boy (witness) reported the incidents to his
counselor and this counselor reported it to my sons counselor. Since the
bully and my son have the same counselor, she pulled them both aside at
lunch and talked to them yesterday. At first the kid denied calling names
and pushing my son, but then when the counselor told him the
information had been reported to another counselor, he came clean about
the name calling only.

She told them they don't have to be friends, but since they have common
friends they need to be civil to each other. We'll see if it works. I obtained
a referral for a therapist that works primarily with ADD/ADHD kids to see
if that helps. I told him that even though it's unfortunate that his friend
turned on him because of the bully, to move on and hang with the true
friends that he does have, and that maybe in time his friend will see the
truth, and if he doesn't that is his loss.

If a few of his friends have told you could you give their names to the school so they can be questioned.  I think you will get faster and better results with witnesses telling rather than your son. 

Bullying is NEVER to be accepted! You need to talk with your son and have him tell the teacher when this occurs. If the teacher does nothing or can't stop the bullying then you need to go up to the principal and tell him he needs to exert his authority. If this doesn't work call the authorities or go to the school board. My eldest son was bullied unmercifully. I had a conversation with him and told him if he ever felt like hurting himself and couldn't talk to me about it, to leave me a note that said, "I want to hurt myself."

He did and I went up to the school and told the principal if he did not stop the bullying I would call the authorities. I showed him the note. The principal pulled the boys and teachers out of the classrooms and told them if they said or did one bad thing to my son they were expelled. My son never had a problem again.

I know too many children who committed suicide because of bullying and feeling so isolated. I was a crisis counselor for the state of Florida and it was hideous. I will never stand for my child or another being bullied.

Randy

Is it happening at school? If so, can't the school help?

I wonder if the child is approached and asked to tell the truth about who is the one doing the bullying, would he confess. He obvioulsy doesn't want to get in trouble and since it stopped but started again, he doesn't like your son, but who cares. We just want the bullying to stop.

It really stinks that his friend turned on him, but since there was already a history with this other child, you would think that the adults would get it, it has started again! The child is a child but should be reminded as to who was bullying who and he has known your son for all these years as his friend and he is not a bully.

I would try to have the school get involved and at least "watch" this boy, I wouldn't trust the other boy, he is a trouble maker, as well as liar!!

My son 10, was bullyed by 1 person in particular, and always blaming my son who would get in trouble. I demanded that they be seperated into thier own classes and had the school check on the yard and in fact it was the other boy doing the bullying. His parents have pulled him out of the school and things are much better now.I'm new to this board. My son is 11 yrs old and in 6th grade. He was dx'd
w/ADHD in 1st grade. This year he started middle school, and although
he has had teasing issues in the past, nothing like it's been in middle
school.

Several of the issues have resolved themselves, and one of the boys is
now even his friend. However, there is one boy who constantly bullies my
son, he is the cousin of one of my sons longtime friends. After speaking
to the parents, the bullying stopped for a few weeks, but has recently
started up again. My son finally had enough and began to call the boy
names back. This is hard because my son feels bad about being bullied
and that this boy who has been his friend for years has turned on him. A
few of his friends have told us that this boy is the instigator, but he is
telling his parents and cousin that my son is the one who is doing this.

Any input is appreciated!