My son’s teacher is peeing me off | ADHD Information

Ranbel,

Go to the Principal and see if this is exceptable behavior of this certain teacher because I don't think it is if a child is disrupting the class then he needs a chill out not separated from the class all day long he's in kindergarten he needs interaction with kids not looking at a blank screen heck if I had to face a wall all day I would be disruptive too.  Good luck to you.

document all of this.

 Even the phone calls. Follow that up with a written note (keep a copy) or email (even better) stating you've left voice mail to set up a meeting to discuss, such and such. No way to prove you left voice mail. Follow up every phone conversation with a note or email just overviewing what was discussed. THEN save every note. Take notes at your meeting also, and follow that up with a thank you note overviewing what your plan is..................

I hope everything works out. I think that not giving the kids a chance to earn time back is too strict for K. As far as walking laps, give me a break! I don't even make my 2nd graders walk laps. I have a policy of if they pull 1 card, they lose 5 min. recess, 2 cards = 10 min., and 3 cards = 15 min. plus a phone call. Not many of them make it this far, and we start over every day. At the end of the week, I try to have some kind of incentive for them. Good luck, and keep us posted!

I  agree that it is not fair for your son to be placed where he cannot see the screen. However, sometimes simply talking to the teacher can remedy the situation. You do not want to automatically jump over her head to the principal, as this would possibly cause friction between you and the teacher, which could then be passed on to your son. I saying this not only as the mother of an ADHD child, but also as a teacher myself. There are teachers out there who will let bad feelings between themselves and a parent get in the way of their relationship with your child.

  My suggestion is that you go to the teacher and ask if it is possible for your son to sit where he can see the screen at least while it is in use. Let her know you don't object to him being separated, but you do object to him being in a situation where he can't see. I would also suggest that you try to approach her as calmly as possible. If you come in angry, she will automatically be put on the defensive and will be less likely to listen.

My own child had trouble in K. Before her meds, she would decide that she was a ballerina and begin twirling around the room. She would interrupt class over silly things. However, she would alos get in trouble for things that I felt were nonsense, such as holdong hands with another child.

Please let us know how everything goes!

I was going to talk with his teacher this morning but she was late.  So, when I got home I call the school and discussed with the person on the phone that I have an issue with my sons teacher.  She suggested that I meet with the teacher first and if my issues are not resolved then to meet with the principal.

So, I have left a message on her voice mail that I need to have a conference with her asap.  I want to give her the opportunity for her and I to resolve this issue without going over her head.  I am concerned that she may take it out on my son. 

By my son having to sit and face the wall and having trouble seeing the screen is unacceptable behavior to me.  As a matter of fact this week, he brought home a smiley face, but still had to walk laps at recess.  If their coconut gets moved down the tree to the straight or frowny face they have to walk laps instead of playing.  I feel he has been tagged as being "bad" therefore, she automatically had him walk laps.  He does get more straight and frowny faces than smiley, but him not getting to play with a smiley and her overlooking that and making him walk is not sending him a good signal.

She is very strict.  The kids do not have an opportunity to move their coconuts back up the tree once the have been moved.  So, if your coconut has been moved early in the AM, why bother to behave, there is no incentive to be good.

I am so sad for my son and angry with his teacher right now.  But, I am going to keep my cool for my son's sake.

Thanks for listening.

 

 

 

My son has pretty much always had his desk very close to the teacher (he is in third grade now).  Starting in second grade, he has had an empty desk right next to his designated as his 'study desk'.  When he moves over, it is a signal that he is there to concentrate.  No other kid has this arrangement, and he is not traumatized by it.  He also started meds in second grade.  Yeah, you may have to educate his teacher on what works best for your son.  I have always tried to emphasize to his teachers that we have to work as a team to help him succeed (no point in ticking them off)  Also reminding her that my son really wants to please her, and his behavior is not related to her personally.  I have also pushed for my son to have the most experienced teacher available for his homeroom.  The list is endless and as your son continues his academics, you will learn that there is alot of help out there and many things that will make his day easier.

What the teacher is doing to your son is also "peeing" me off!!

This is unacceptable!! You need to march up to the school, call a meeting with the principal included. Your son is being set up for labeling by both the staff and the other children!  

There are so many other things that can be done to help you son, if the teacher really wants to! That seems to be the problem with these teachers. some want to help, others don't!

ADHD didn't just arrive, it has been around since man began. There is no excuse for these schools to not help our children.

Please call or go up in person and try to meet immediately. This is breaking my heart what they are doing to your son. He is obviously not going to learn if he can't seen the projector!!

My son is 5 and in kgarten.  Well, due to his behavior he has been serparted from the other students and sits alone at a table.  I can uderstand seperating him, I don't have an issue with that.  My issue is: He faces the wall and the projector screen is on the same wall, which I just witnessed this week. 

When I asked her if he is able to see the screen, her reply was: he  can see it, if he leans over...ok, I was pissed.  It's bad enough that he has to face a blank wall at his desk, but to not have the same opportunity to see the screen as the other kids do, is not acceptable.

I find this hard to believe that this is acceptable behavior by a teacher in school.  I plan to talk with the guiedance counselor tomarrow.  If there are any teachers on this board, please give me your opinion.

He is currently going thru testing for ADHD, but it not on any meds yet.

Welcome to the wonderful world of schools and ADHD. I truly think most teachers mean well, but when it comes to ADHD, many of them just don't think through what they're doing. Our son also is on kindergarten and we've had to fight for him every step of the way. Just do your best to be your child's advocate, educate yourself and express your opinion when you think things need to be changed. If I were you, I'd research tips on ADHD in the classroom and share those with the teacher. Someone once posted a tipsheet on the boards that was titled something like, "What ADHD Kids Wish Their Teachers Knew." That has some great info. Good luck to you!!! :)Why don't you just go in one morning or after school and explain that unfortunately the desk placement is putting your son at an academic disadvantage and you would like to move it. Then jump forward to discussing where it will be moved to.

Just remember to keep checking that the teacher is doing the right thing.  Sometimes they don't like to give up control of the classroom.  But having the principal on your "side" is going to be a great help in the process.

I am so happy reading your update!!!

Good job. Your hard work paid off.  I hope the principal spoke w/ the teacher alone, if you know what I mean because what she did is unacceptable.

You did the right thing. Be prepared that this may be your job until he graduates high school. Stay on top of his teachers and try to keep him talking with you about any incidents.

Keep up the great work momma!! ( and there are more mothers with our type of kids, like your principal - who would have thought!! - than we all realize!!)

Regards!!

Thanks everyone for your support and encourgement.

I have a appt next week with a different dr. to a nurocognative evaluation.  His ped. said it is more of an extensive test.  Since the first pysch I took him to did absolutly nothing with my son.  Only spoke with me and watched him play with his car and diagnoised him with adhd and tics. 

I am hoping for better results from this new facility. 

Again, thank you.

Great! I'm so glad things are working out for someone!

Thank God!  That's awesome that things went so well.  It's such a struggle to create a good working relationship with the school sometimes.

 

Vicky

UPDATE:
Had conference today and it went pretty well.  The principal was very nice and understanding.  She herself has a son that is ADHD and can sympathize with me as a parent.

She ask the teacher to relocate him in the class and try to move him back with the other kids. 

The nine weeks just ended and he has all "S"s except for conduct he as a "U"...I was a bit disappointed, but I understand.   She also said to not make his behavior sheet a priority everyday.  We are going to try this for 2 weeks and meet again.  The teacher is going to break his day in half with his coconuts.  So, he will come home with to faces each day (smiley, straight, frowny)...work on an incentive plan for him. 

I explained to her that hw is going thru testing for ADHD.  I also told her that the Psych dr. diagnoised him with ADHD and Tics and had no interaction with him whatsoever.  The TICS, no way.  He was playing with his car and making motor noises and the dr. said that was not normal..so I am on the hunt for a 2nd opinion.  The principal said to try giving him caffine.  If he is ADHD it will calm him down, if not it will make him hyper.  So, we are giving him a Mountain Dew as we speak.  She did this with her son for a while before putting him on meds.  She said it does work, so we'll see.

Thank you everyone for your concerns for my son.  He is adopted and very dear to my heart and I don't want him being shunned in class or mistreated. 

The principal said if he does in fact have ADHD, they have to follow a different discipilinary plan for these kids.  Not that they are treated differently, but the teachers have to dicipline differently, because in is not of their control.  I feel like I have the principal on my side, because she experienced the same with her son.

 

I have an appt with the teacher an asst. principal tomarrow.  I hope things go well. 

I will let you guys know after tomarrow.  Wish my son and myself luck.  I hope I don't get too upset and cry or get mad...

Thanks for listening, I love this website, it is nice to hav someone to talk to and listen when you need to just vent about something.

I know what you mean. Good luck, and just taake a deep breath and count to ten when you find yourself losing your cool!