Our daughter who is 3.5 was diagnosed with severe ADHD. Psychiatrist saw her for 10 minutes, is that enough time?
Anyways, she has begun to hit people, our newborn baby, her 7 year old sister, and her mother. The sister and the baby she hits unprovoked.
She has recently begun spitting on our tables and floor and she now spits on her hands and spreads it all over the windows and doors. Previously it was vasoline, gel, peanut butter, hummus you name it. But we have been very good at not letting her get into those things, now it is spit...
I have been reading about behaviour and ADHD and trying very hard to give her lots of advance warnings. But I cannot even complete my sentence before she goes into a frenzy. I will suggest that after 30 more minutes the TV is going off and she can choose one toy to play with. Once she hears "tv off", she goes nuts..so I have stopped mentioning anything to her. My wife says I am atagonizing her. I guess it seems I am only bothering her.
I have resorted to just staying away and leaving her alone because anything you say or do it annoying to Becky. She gets very upset over very simple things and it becomes a major event. Including my wife who says just leave her your making her angry.
But I dont think that is right. I have asked that she must follow some rules. For example I have asked that she not eat her food with her hands anymore, she is 3.5. But she gets mad if I try to teach her any table manners, and of course she has fits and it disrupts everyone including my wife. So I have to just let her do whatever she wants.
Is this all normal for ADHD? and should she just be left alone to prevent her from getting angry? somehow I do not think this is correct.
She is also very descriptive and imaginative, which is great. Left to her own devices she can create wonderful stories of all the things in the backyard or what have you. But any communication that is outside of her own choice bears the response "I dont know."
Yesterday after she punched the baby, and too two swings at her sister, in the span of 10 minutes she was asked to go to the corner. She had a massive fit and was then asked to go to her bedroom by herself. She told us she hated mommy and daddy and that her house was evil. She said it was unfair. Of course this is all in her screaming babble, but nonetheless audible.
She also seems to be upset and angry the majority of the time. Is that normal for ADHD? Becky is happiest if she was left all by herself with no interruptions from anything she is doing, good or bad.
Ramda39749.4465046296I know this may be a long reach, but any bipolar, depression in the family gene line?
they can diagnose children with bipolar now.
Just wondering
Her mother is Bipolar. Unmedicated. So it is a very thin line each day due to her own frustration levels. The father is not existent, and I am not sure of his family history.
My wife tells me that they would not know if she was bipolar until atleast age 12 or so. But I was reading about early onset bipolar.
Is there something that should be done? She is getting extremely defiant. Her tantrums just seem to get worse as she gets older, and she is getting stronger and smarter.
I would take her to a childrens hospital for a full neuropsych evaluation. A ten minute visit, nor anyone on this board would be able to know what's going on. 3.5 is such a tough, tough age anyway and it seems there are quite a few issues going on. The new baby, the Dad not around, her own struggles, Mom's struggles....etc.,etc.You need a complete evaluation, but even so she may be too young for a really accurate diagnosis.
I would go to a pediatric neuropcychologist. She needs an evaluation with that family history. It is all genetic, passed down in the genes, you do NOT come down with it or catch it. You are born with it.
Yes they are diagnosing children and they are living healthy lives once diagnosed and receive correct treatment!