Gave the K teacher a heart attack? | ADHD Information

This sounds way to stressful....she's in kindergarten for Pete's sake.

Jessica N39908.3996990741

My dd had trouble in K as well. She would constantly pull "keys" for behavior, and when I would ask the teacher why, a lot of times it was for things like holding hands. Hello!!!!! Half the problems kids have now is that they are not taught to socialize! I am speaking not only as a mother, but as an educator as well. I teach 2nd grade, and I do not have my kids pull for hugging, etc. I do tell them they need to keep their hands to themselves, but I look the other way at times like recess. I figure as long as the other person doesn't object, and it's just a quick friendly hug or holding hands/arms, what the hey.

 Thankfully after K, she had some really great teachers. In 1st, her teacher didn't care that she sat in the floor and put her work in her seat. the teacher told me as long as my dd was working and not bothering anyone else, she could do what she liked.  

I feel for your situation, it's really frustrating. When my son was in
Kindergarten, he had a teacher that clearly didn't care for him. We had
lots of meeting, but she never had any solutions for us, she looked to us
for solutions. Every day he would come home with a "sad" note, and by
mid year, began to really dislike school. We stuck it out and by the
beginning of first grade he was dx'd ADHD and his 1st grade teacher was
much more patient and understanding.

My son is now in 6th grade (middle school) and what I've learned in all of
these years is that the teacher(s) that your child has are VERY important.
If you have a 504 plan in place, I've learned that you have a lot more
"leverage" on picking your child teachers. Don't give up, and just know
you have this board to vent on. The parents on this board truly
understand!

Nancy

Thanks - I feel better.

I have had other issues with this teacher. My dd still sucks her fingers. She says the other kids say "Eww, gross, she't putting her fingers in her mouth and touching things." So, she makes her get up and go wash her hands. I told her I thought she was giving the other children way too much power, that they need to be taught to be less rude.

My dd was so embarrassed by the event, she refused to take to school the chew tube recommended by the OT. So, I made her several stretchy beaded necklaces that she can take to chew on. I also sent in handwipes to keep by her side so that all she has to do is wash her hands before she touches things again.

Besides - we are talking kindergarten here - how many of theose kids aren't sitting at their tables with their fingers up their noses????

I'd sit down with the administration, teacher, and counselor at the school (all at the same time). If they are on the up and up then they will work with you and your daughter, not against.   I'm educator and we often do this with our parents.  We believe it takes a team to help children.

The teacher has issues and obviously she needs help as it is interferring with her work.  I'm not attacking the teacher but feel that she must take care of herself in order to take care of children in a learning environment.  Just like as parents we must maintain our health if we are going to be any good for our children.

You obviously have some background in the area of behavior mangement.  Stick with what you know is right and insist they work with you.  Throw the research in their face.    I know this doesn't sound professional on my part as an educator,  but I can tell you that sometimes the research behind things is all it takes to get administrators and teachers on board.  Of course this needs to be done in a pleasant manner.  Going in with the attack mode is not going to get any of us anywhere.   Hope this makes sense. 

Your daughter deserves to be treated with respect and dignity.  She may have ad/hd or other related things but that doesn't mean she should be ignored or treated unfairly.  The teacher needs to sit down and think about what she is doing that might not be working with the children she is working with.  She needs to reflect on what she can do to change her techniques for the betterment of the children she works with.  She might find that if she changes some of her ways things might be less stressful for her in the long run. 

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I wouldn't feel guilty if I were you. I don't think you caused the issues he/she may be having.  If hypertension and heart problems exist..they existed before your child and your email.  Now, could frustration and guilt over his/her performance play a part..yes..but in my opinion that's them and not you. 

 

I would have been angry too...the teacher isnt' concerned about how best to work with your child..the teacher wants your child to fit inside the box...and can't cope because she doesn't.  That's the teacher's problem...you are working towards diagnosis and have offered tools they can work with....that they choose not to or don't want to is unfair to your child and should be adddressed in an IEP.  Just my opinion.

 

hope things work out quickly.

hugs

Vicky

maybe the teacher hasn't been feeling well either. Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt................and then go above her head.

Tell them you've addressed their concerns and had her evaluated and she has ADHD so what do they plan to do to help her learn?

I am an EMT and can tell you with certainty that if the teacher had never had heart problems/hypertension in the past, then you certainly didn't give them to her. I had to do a lot of threatening to report the school to the state in order to move things along here and get my son an IEP.  If the school continues to resist, do as much research as you can on the laws pertaining to children with disabilities and the no child left behind act. ADHD *is* a disability, but it is the "red headed step child" in the eyes of most schools and government officials, or at least that's been my experience here in SC. 

So, met with the teacher at the beginning of the year due to lots of notes home regarding dd "applying" herself in kindergarten. Lots of complaints form the teacher re dd couldn't keep her hands off of other kids, hugs too much,  blah, blah, blah.

As a nurse specializing in teaching behavior change for lifestyle management, I offered assistance with a reward system. Teacher said she didn't like to/did not have time to/ work out reward systems for all of her kids. I said I have a plan at home and works wonders, never have beahvior problems at home, and have never had complaints form preschool, day camps, etc. Also - at home my child can read and do whatever is asked of her. I will admit - she gets distracted the minute I walk away and can't do a thing by herself.

Next meeting - lots of complaints and could not pin the teacher down to a behavior modification plan. In the meantime, dd is going downhill - not liking school, complaining of stomach aches, saying she is stupid, blah blah blah

Talked to the teacher, said I would do an ADHD eval. Still, knowing the eval is going on - plus that we had started OT - all homework coming home with lots of notes from teacher re carelessness, not motivated, etc, ad nauseum.

Went and did the ADHD eval and it is positive. PLUS - the teacher indicated OPPOSITIONAL behavior  - what???  I am only hearing about this now????First of all, what child is not a bit oppositional at times? Plus, I have a dd with ADHD adopted at age 5 and ODD when not on ADHD meds - NEVER see such an animal in my younger dd. The only thing I am starting to see is the beginnings of a happy, bright child

SO - I am !!! Sent an e-mail to the teacher, guidance counselor, principal and Asst Prinicipal outlining the above and saying an immediate plan needed to be put into place to do something about all of this or else I want my child moved to another classroom. I let them all know that I know, from experience that oppositional behavior is caused froma child perceiving he/she is being treated unfairly. grrrrrrrrrrr.

I am about to get oppositional.

SO - found out today the teacher was in the ED last night and being evalauted for severe hypertensio and possible heart problems. 

 

 

 

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