I am a 22/m from wi who has been in treatment for over a decade with no progress, after going through the same degree program 3 times trying to get in i decide that with tihs broken brain it just wasnt possible. I am now presently working at a gas station and will probably work there for awhile. I do however believe i will save enough money in 5 months to move out of my parents house which is a plus except for the fact that i have no drivers license and probably wont get one so its along wwalk to work. & nbsp;
Oh but a plus side to this sh*tty job is i dont get drug tested, that is going to enable me to keep going.
And at least you have a plan. It may not be what you totally wanted but it's better than just being negative and saying that you'll always be at your parents house forever and that you'll never get anywhere. And you're able to see a positive about your job. (However, if you are doing drugs, I would encourage you to seek other outlets.)
GBFE6
I'm new here. Frankly, after 37 years of all kinds of fits and starts in life I'm finally coming to grips with the fact that ADD is real, it's not just an excuse, and I really do have it....big time.
I failed out of college once, quit college a second time, and didn't finish my degree until I was 35. Even when I finished, I didn't return to study Business Administration (which is what I majored in the first time) but in Political Science. I already had a job, and didn't need the degree to advance there, but only to satisfy the past failure and to keep doors open for me in the future. I enjoy politics, so that major was a breeze for me because I LIKED the material.
Did you enjoy what you studied when you were in school? If not, then from my experience that could be a reason you failed. If you like history, for example, then go major in history. Don't let people stop you by saying "what are you going to do with a degree in history?" The answer is you'll do more with a degree in that than you will with no degree at all. I think people like us must focus on things that interest us.
You mentioned drug testing. Are you using drugs? I was a heavy pot smoker back then. It offered me some form of escapism, and having your mind wander while high was not nearly as painful, and could even be rewarding. The long term effects, however, are not good. Mentally escaping from a bad situation, like failing in school, isn't good in the long run. It causes you to avoid recognizing all the negative outcomes that your present behavior is causing.
I guess alot of us can relate to that. As for me, when I was in high school, I knew that further schooling was definatly not for me. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do but I knew that a college was not going to be the answer. A few years ago a friend and I realized that we loved cars and decided to go to a trade school. Both of us have ADHD and in the long run, she dropped out and I stayed and graduated with a 3.8 avg and couldn't be happier. I really needed the time off to think of what I really wanted to do, and after I figured it out I ran with it. Unfortuately I'm not in the field I want to be in right now...but I definatly learned so much and do my OWN work and WILL be getting my licences when I can find a job that matches or exceedes my salary, and thats the only thing thats stopping me from my dreams. When you are ready, you will follow your dreams. It only took me 8 years, but you have to realize that we have an illness, and you can not let that be a wrench in your wheels (no pun intended lol). We have to be strong and find that hobby or interest that will make you florish. I always knew that I loved cars I just needed to believe that I can do it, and I did...and so can you!! Good luck!!
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