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tatersmom:

I need to tell you this because I've read a few of your posts and you're obviously, completely overwhelmed. It happens to all of us, sometimes.

I'm not telling you this because you're in any way "bad" or "at fault" or "doing something wrong". I can see you're suffering a great deal and you feel that no one is listening respectfully to your concerns

If you want the situation to improve you MUST get counselling for yourself.

You sound like you're drowning in a difficult, difficult situation and if you don't get some support for yourself, it's not going to get any better. You need someone to listen to YOU and care about YOU.

I can see that you need to live with extended family for very good reasons but you don't have anyone you can completely trust, to vent your frustration to. Someone that can help you manage your own responses to all the chaos in that household.

You need someone who listens to YOU and is on YOUR side to help you manage all this emotion as well as help you negotiate the most productive solutions with the child workers and your family.

Do this for YOU.
MetisRebel~i would love to get counseling for myself..but unfortunatly my insurance doesnt make it easy..its limited coverage and co pays for every visit and we are barely making it as it is..i am on a online support group for the fibro and that helps and i have some very good online friends that have been and are there for me through thick and thin...this is a very difficult situation we are in and im hoping it will change before another year is passed..but until then i am hoping to find some coping straregies that can help get me through some of the worst of it.

Redbanana~the therapist is not through the school district..he didnt qualify for intermediate unit services..is there something else i should be asking for? the lady he sees is through a private behavioral service and they have very few people that work in the county im in so my choice is her or noone supposedly

[QUOTE=tatersmom]MetisRebel~i would love to get counseling for myself..but unfortunatly my insurance doesnt make it easy..its limited coverage and co pays for every visit and we are barely making it as it is..i am on a online support group for the fibro and that helps and i have some very good online friends that have been and are there for me through thick and thin...this is a very difficult situation we are in and im hoping it will change before another year is passed..but until then i am hoping to find some coping straregies that can help get me through some of the worst of it.

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Oh man, I always struggle with all those weird health plans in the US

Does your coverage, cover drs or do you have to pay for each visit, there too?

Is there a CHADD chapter or a free parenting group near you, that you could join?

I'm glad you've got a few people in your corner

Online is a great thing but when it's this overwhelming it's better to have someone who can be physically present.
we get ok medical coverage but counseling is mental health and thats harder to get...ill have to look into and see if there are any CHADD chapters around here..thank you for telling me about that..and yes it would be great to have some friends actually here lolIf the services are through the school system, they need to find a good
match. I would call whoever this woman reports to and say exactly what you
told us. You deserve services and get them and are clearly not getting them.

My sons first SEIT did nothing. I called and told the place that assigned her
to me and told them that i dont want her working with my son. They had to
find me a replacement and they did.

Good luck.i really dont think this lady is doing any good at all..she comes and sits on my couch and plays tic tac toe and "buddies" with puppets and Nate rotely repeats rules back to her when she asks...but i see no changes at all in him..he doesnt throw any of his fits when shes around so she sees what she thinks is improvement..and on top of that shes supposed to be doing 12 hours a month per the psychologists recommendation..its the 3rd week in nov and shes done 4 hours...do i complain if she doesnt get all the hours..especially since i dont want her here to begin with? ive talked to dh and my mom whos been there done that with my brother and sister...i really think were at a point where we need to back up and try to handle things ourself and then when he gets in school if they still think he needs something then start over..this lady is crazy...shes also my sisters mobile therapist...are they supposed to do that..have someone handling 2 family members in the same household? i mean we live behind my parents but still...she interferes when my kids are upstairs with my dad...my dad may have some health issues but he took care of everyones kids when we were growing up all the neices and nephews...he can handle my boys..shes barely borderline rude about my kids being up there when shes there with my sister and we are all getting sick of it...sorry im really rambling here...i guess my Q is would i be totally screwing us if i refused services for awhile..shes just so not a good match and supposedly there is noone else...i dont know what to do