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I'd screen out a bunch of TV shows, and give a time out for every time it happens.

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Oh cool--You found it ommas. I was wondering where it went! Now I can keep the link cuz there is no search engine here. I agree, i would treat it like any other unacceptable behavior. Although
my son is only 4, bad words have concesequences. If he says one, i will
tell him its innapropriate to use that word and I dont want to hear him say
it again. That would be his first warning. If he says it either to test me or
because he says it, he will get something taken away. Not a huge
punishment but enough to make him realize its important to follow my
rules. I will take away M&M's after he eats (he LOVES his M&M's) a toy
truck or car he loves, game time like the DS, or ill take away his bathtub
colors. (he has these pellets that turn the tub water different colors. He
loves them but doesnt get them all the time)

So his punishments arent huge, but he will be upset about it. It does
seem to curb his foul mouth. But then again, he is only 4/5 years old.

Good luck and stick to your guns!Is this what the child is calling other people? Or what she is saying about herself?

Kids often call names because they lack the skill to express how hurt/angry they are, effectively. That skill is learned.

You can try asking, "Calling X 'an idiot' hurt his feelings. You don't like to be called names. What are you angry at X about?"

See if the child comes back with, "He took my toy so I am mad."

"Well then, why not say, "You took my toy and I feel mad about it?" [reframing, teaching clear  speech/expectations, expressing feelings]

If you can, take the child over, let her say that THEN apologize for calling names.

Ignoring it may not be working [this is a guess, I wasn't there] because the child needs to confront for a sense of justice when she's been unfairly treated.

Teaching her to confront the problem directly, might solve some of it?

My DS (8) is saying words that I don't care for: stupid, idiot, sh*tty, liar, and ignoring it does not seem to be working. His teacher is still not sure what to do. any suggestions? I heard something about a leaning marble something??? any suggestions would be great.

 

Marie

ds 8, PDD/NOS, ADHD, OCD, Odd

My dd says the same things. She is 6. Every time I hear an inappropriate
word, she goes to her room or has some other consequence. I treat it like
hitting or any other unacceptable behavior. I think she picks these words up
from TV (which is very limited because even cartoons can be awful) and
other kids at school. Most times my dd is trying to get a reaction out of me,
so I try to stay cool.   It's hard. I don't think she says these things at school.    

I'm not much help, I know! Just know you are not alone.