His teacher said this to him, i’m shocked | ADHD Information

My son's (age 6) first appt is tomorrow with the Dr.  He has been seeing a therapist for about 3 mos now. 

His teacher has now about his evaluation, as I have been giving her updates.  Well my son knew nothing about having a dr. appt tomorrow.  I mentioned it to him at dinner and he said: Mrs. teacher was right and I was wrong.  I said what???? He said Mrs. teacher said: "I HOPE you have a dr. appt tomorrow, so you can get some help". I was floored.

Now this teacher and I have had some minor disagreements, but things have been much better.  I feel she was out of line to say something like this to my son.  I made him sit is a chair and demostrate the conversation for me and exactly where she was in the class room.  He said he first thought she was talking to "joe" the kid that sits next to him.

Yes, my son has struggled with his behavior...if he could keep his mouth shut he would get smiley faces everyday.  He is a BIG CHATTER BOX...and is a bit hyper. 

Do you think I should say something to her or the school personal about this or let it go? 

I would be livid. I would call the principal and demand an explanation.
That type of remark is so disrespectful to her student it should absolutely
be addressed.

Calling her out will actually help her. It will make the administration
aware of a problem in her classroom. It will fast track you for getting any
changes for your son. And obviously she needs some help in her
classroom - if she's saying such flippant things to her kids she's on the
verge of burnout. Really, I bet she's still kicking herself for saying it.

I must give you some advice as a person who, believe me, went through it
with the school like you wouldn't believe. Try to be calm when you talk to
the principal. If you aren't angry or emotion but are still forceful when
you say you want it looked into, you will be taken more seriously. And
the point isn't to make you feel better, the point is to make sure your son
has a good school experience.

Vent here. We know what you're going through. It sounds like you're
about to go into battle with the school. That's okay - you can do it.
You've got to stick up for your son.

And, just to let you know, last year my son had a horrible year. I was sick
the beginning of this year thinking I would have to go through it all again.
But his IEP is in place and more or less they've followed it and I got his
new snarky teacher in line just about immediately to make sure she knew
what to look for and this year he's done great. It's worth it to go to
battle, because that's the only way to win the war.

I'm sorry you're getting hit with both these big things at once - new
doctor's orders and having to take on the school. At least you're getting
it over with. Best of luck!

What that teacher said is wrong.  no doubt.  that was not her place.

personally I would want to ream her out.  however, I hold myself back because I don't want to be 'that' mom.  You know the one who complains about everything.  don't get me wrong, I would make my thoughts known.  Teachers are a tight night clan and you don't want to turn on one b/c then you are turning on more possibly.  I found out that what I was sharing with my DD teacher she was also sharing with her gym teacher.  I now realize she was doing this b/c my daughter has many issues in gym but I told her she should have asked me first.  I talk to the teacher directly first before taking it over his/her head.  I think they would appreciate that more.  you don't want to become 'that mom' the teachers grumble about when you come walking down the hall so to speak.

I would tell her that you hadn't told your son yet and the reasons why.  She will likley put the pieces together and see her error.  If I would have called my DD teacher on everything dumb comment she made the two of us would be bitter enemies by now.  Instead she is actually very fond of my daughter and truthfully is helpful towards her in a way the gym teacher cannot be.  (my DD is 5 so in SK)

Why not just send a brief note to her asking that she respect your son's privacy regarding medical issues. Jessica N39857.8704861111Wait a minute, I think not sharing medical history with the teacher is the
wrong way to go. A very real example - I started medicating my son this
week and he had a bad reaction to it and if I hadn't told them about the
medication they would have suspended him (I was told that directly by the
vice principal). Keeping the school in the loop is absolutely necessary.

But seriously, that teacher needs some help to make a slip up like that. I'd
talk to the principal and I'd do it quickly - if you wait you will either get
more angry or you won't be taken seriously for not calling immediately.

Thank you for your concerns.

I did speak with her this morning and she truely has his best interest at heart.  She knows that he has great potential and has stated so.

I agree with keeping the teachers/school adviced, they have child 6 hours of the day for 5days a week.  I would definately want them to be cautious of his behavior, it he was to have a reaction.

I explained to her that I am scared and nervous about giving him medication.  She shared with me some success stories of prior kids going on medication, which I appreciated...but, I still a bit nervous. 

The Dr. prescribed dexedrine 1/2 tab once a day.  She is very conservative and didn't want to give him a long lasting stimulant, until we see how he reacts...she said it's better to go with a short acting stim at first...at least, that is her feelings about medication.   I was in complete agreement.  Better to get out of system in 4 to 6 hrs. vs. 8 to 12 hrs, if he has a bad reaction...

YES!!!

This "teacher" needs to know that your son is going to come home and tell! The principal also needs to know that she is saying such cruel things to 6 year olds. I might also send a note or have a meeting with the superintendant as well as the principal.

You mention that you had problems in the past but has gotten better with her, well she still has some problems. She actually needs help and I hope she has a doctors appointment ASAP.

CAll the school and speak with the principal and let that person know you will got to the superintendant as well. Don't let them get away with this! 

You need to make sure you document things like this.  I had my son's teacher tell me, and everyone at his IEP meeting, that she thinks my six year old is racist because he does not want to play with the little girl who sits next to him.  Needless to say I was shocked and saddened that she would even think to judge a child like that and with out anything real to back it up.