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oldest son 8 got suspended from school for saying things I know he did not say because we don't say it in our house and he broke down crying when he saw me and when he does something wrong he stutters and shuts down all together and I know it's His word against the other little boy, the other little boy didn't get suspended for Not that I'm playing devil's advocate, but my son definitely acts differently
and talks differently at school than at home.

I would get in touch with the principal, and his special ed contact, and if
they won't help you, call the superintendent. Find out who witnessed the
conversation and talk to that person directly. If there were no witnesses,
make the superintendent explain why they would suspend based on a kid's
reporting, since that is not a reliable source.

I would also request a special ed meeting, IEP or 504, whatever you've got,
to talk about what the school needs to do to keep your son from feeling so
attacked he had to talk in such a way.It's hearsay. No adult heard it. Jessica N39838.4248726852

Hi

I was very surprised as a mum to finally observe my son without him knowing in his school environment, he was behaving so different to at home, he was swearing and saying things that he NEVER dares to say at home.

I was not there so no idea where the truth lies, but as hard as it may be it may be worth considering that in the school environmnent with different pressures he may act a bit different.

Hope you sort it all out, did a teacher observe the words spoken or did the school just take one child's word against another?

Let us know how you get on.

 

There's also the disability angle.  I'm not sure of all the rules, but if his behavior was due to a disability (in this case, ADHD-related impulsivity), they can't suspend him for it, right?  If so, you could take the approach w/ the school that not only are they suspending the child based on hearsay, but they also can't legally suspend him for behavior related to a disability.

Does the school know he has ADHD?  Is there official record of it w/ them, like an IEP or something?  Obviously they'd have to know he has ADHD to have the argument that you can't suspend for a disability-related behavior (again, assuming I'm accurate on this).

Does your child have any problems w/ this boy who claims he said something awful?  Why on earth would a child make up something so terrible?  If they have a history of not getting along, that makes it even more questionable to believe what the boy says about your child.

I can't believe an 8 year old would be suspended for swearing once or am I missing something?

This happened to Will also.  He said, "shut it" to another kid and his teacher thought he said something else.  I knew he had never heard that word before so I told her it was a misunderstanding.  Come to find out, some other boy had been tricking him into saying other words a few days before, so when she heard this, I assume she just thought it was another word he picked up.  I got to the bottom of it pretty fast...He has a lot of problems but swearing was not one of them.

Good luck, I'm afraid I'd have to go postal on someone....