My DS 8 is so implusive. he will bring home a craft from school and enjoy it for a few hours or a day and the next day he justs rips it apart. and my son and DH bulit a KNex roller coaster the other day and my son was so happy and enjoyed it for a day or two and just yesterday morning for no reason he just took it all apart (took hours to built this) he has always been like this. Just breaks toys or rips up crafts. He does not seem to know why he even does it. UGH!
Marie
DS 8 PDD/NOS, ADHD, SID, OCD, ODD
Yup! Not very often, but it happens. Generally it happens out of frustration. And it doesn't necesserily need to be frustration WITH that particular thing. Whatever is at hand, gets the vent, ya know?
I never know how to manage this with him. He will always make some crazy statement after too, like "I'm NEVER going to do art again" or whatever is related to the item he destroyed...in your example I could hear him saying: "I'm NEVER building anything with Daddy again!!"
All I can say, in my shock is, "Ok." And then add something like, wanna come have a snack or something to take his mind off it...it's probably a horrible approach, but I just totally don't know what to say in those moments.
Does he mind afterwards? He would like Legos as well. My son loves it, besides the computer and games.
Mine builds and rebuilds, doesn't like to take them apart but if they break, he rebuilds them.
Do you think more is going on????
As long as he doesn't get upset with what he has done afterwards, then I wouldn't worry. They are meant for building and rebuilding, as long as no one is getting hurt. Unless there is more going on than we know.
In our case I don't think he does. Or at least he knows enough not to complain about it because it was his doing.
There have been a few more recent times where he's asked about something that was repaired, but the destruction took place so long ago that he likely doesn't remember. One incident involved his piggy bank that he cracked in 2 when he was about 3 & half (we just glued it back together, but the crack is visible)...he's almost 6 now & wanted to know recently if he could get a new one (that wasn't broken). I told him no...and after explaining why he couldn't, he hasn't brought it up again. I have no idea if it bothers him and he just doesn't bring it up though.
I wish I had that problem, my DS 10, saves every little or big, project he has evver made every drawing coloring from 1st grade aarrgghh!with our son, nothing can go unbroken. I cant tell you how many toys he has destroyed because he crashes them or breaks them within a week. Or looses them. Sometimes he gets mad that he broke it and I think to myself "maybe this will teach him to control himself a little better with his toys because he doesn't want them broken" but nope, he still is so rough.