Upset | ADHD Information

 I haven't been on here for a while. Things have been better since my dd has been on a higher dose of Vyvanse. My iissue today is a co-worker who upset her.

 I am a teacher at the same school my dd attends. It just so happens that where I park is right next to another teacher in my grade level. This teacher and I have what you might call a "working" relationship; that is, we speak to each other mainly when it concerns work. Anyway, this morning I pulled into my usual spot and left my dd in the car while I went in to get ready for the day. Apparently she had the car door open when this other teacher pulled into her spot, which caused the teacher to have to pull further over to the side. She then apparently got out of her car and yelled at my dd b/c she had to pull so far over that her car door hit the tree when she got out.

 Please tell me if I am over-reacting to be upset about this. This teacher has no children of her own, but does sometimes transport other children in her car. There have been days when I have had to pull further ower or had to wait for the car door to close so I could pull in. It really upsets me to have my dd in tears! I don't really like confrontations, and don't want to make the working place even more uncomfortable than it is.

Please give me some feedback!

Here's my two cents:
First I think your co-worker acted like an idiot, because all she had to do was roll down her window and nicely ask your daughter to close the door so that she could pull into her space. She then over-reacted to a small incident and took it out on your daughter. Is she normally so snappy with kids??
If I were you I would figure out something to say to the teacher so that she gets the message that she really upset your daughter without accusing the other teacher or making TOO big a deal about it. Since it's not likely to be an everyday, ongoing thing, there's no sense in having a major confrontation. I would say something like, "Gosh, my daughter felt so badly about what happened with your car door. She cried for 20 minutes. She didn't realize that having her door open would cause a problem. It really got her day off to a bad start." Hopefully the teacher would then apologize for yelling at your daughter...
I would then explain to your daughter that sometimes people over-react when they are stressed or in a hurry or do something stupid and they sometimes take out their anger on the wrong person, and to try not to let it upset her too much if this happens.
I don't blame you for being upset. A teacher should not be yelling and making a child cry over something like this!

Thanks for the encouragement. I explained to my daughter that it was wrong of the teacher to yell at her for that, and that it was NOT her fault. It doesn't help that my daughter's not feeling well today, and that she's worrying whether or not she will have any kids show up at her birthday party which is tomorrow.

 This teacher tends to be very short at times. When I first started working here I nearly had my head bitten off because I dared to park in her spot. Another time she had loaned me some papers, and I had forgottenwhere I had placed them when her assistant came to my room and asked for them. I told the assistant I wasn't sure where they were at the moment, but I would find them and send them over as soon as I could. The next thing I knew, this teacher barged into the room, yelled at me in FRONT of my students, and walked out and slammed the door. I was so upset I could barely function after that. I did find her papers shortly after that incident (I had actually put them up so I wouldn't lose them and had forgotten!) and she did apologize for acting that way. She was upset with her assistant that day. However, an apology later did not take away the humiliation of being treated that way in front of students. 

I think the teacher was in the wrong completely! Why take it out on a child? As another poster said she could have asked your daughter to shut the door so she could pull in.Confront the co-worker. Jessica N39908.3831712963

I think that teacher sounds like a complete nut!

I wouldn't want any of my children in her/his class. Something is wrong with her, I honestly believe that. It isn't you or your daughter, it is the teacher!!

What is your relationship with the principal? Perhaps this teacher needs some sensitivity training in terms of dealing with children. My son is only in kindergarten but I am amazed at how many teachers in his school don't seem to even like kids! I know there are great teachers out there who work hard and truly care ... but there also definitely are some bad eggs who are lacking the understanding chip when it comes to kids. Perhaps the principal can address the larger picture of this teacher needing to mellow out a bit in all situations, including the one you described. Good luck!