I’ve come to realize a problem in my life | ADHD Information

Ummm.... Hello McFly!
I think this is how most people work.
Routines and surrounding yourself with good influences is the only real way to stay healthy, motivated, and focused... you have to find it for yourself... God knows I'm still struggling with that one.
Yes, this is pretty typical although I know a few people with that natural (and sickening) inner-drive that manage to do tons of things on their own with no support, input or thoughts from anyone else.  I find that if we look at them as freask of nature all feels better.  I think it's a little natural to slack on things you want to do for yourself, I too do it, I think they call it people pleasing and it's hard to work around.  I have no idea how to help becuase I've been starting my workout routine (and have the home gym to prove it) for years and yet I still sleep in and am too tired after work.  Let us know how you do, or keep us posted on any innovative ideas.Yeah... I think its a lack of inner drive.  Pleasing other people has a more visible effect than doing something I should and want to do (like working out on a regular basis) to please myself.  It may also be a lack of motivation too, which im not really sure how to change.   I'm leaning towards the lack of immediate effect + lack of motivation... I need to figure out how to change that, any advice would be welcome.

I’ve come to realize a problem in my life.  I’m a very dependable person… for other people.  When other people need me and expect things of me it’s easy for me to get things done and be reliable.  However, when it comes to being able to depend on myself that is where I fail.  Whether it be something like saying I’m working to start working out 3 times a week, or I’m going to start doing yoga again, it might happen for a short period of time, but ultimately will not succeed to the level I would like it to.  However, if I had someone to do yoga with me, or to  work out with, since they are depending on me to do it with them that is when I can do it and succeed in that aspect. 

Another example would be homework, if the homework assigned needs to be turned in I will make sure it gets done and turned in, however, if the homework is not collected there is a very small chance I will do it. 

This is very problematic for me, and a catch 22 in itself.  The catch 22 of my life is I function much better when I can depend on someone, yet there seem to be very few out there I can actually depend on.  I guess doesn’t matter if I can depend on the person or the person is depending on me, either way if there’s that expectation outside of myself that gives me the drive to get things done.