She gets me so mad!!! | ADHD Information

Have you sat down and talked with her about it?
No,not really

also don't think you should be in charge of grounding her. Instead, leave the majority of disciplining to your parents and maybe she will feel less resentful.
It's kind of hard because our parents are doctors at a hospital so they get called in a lot. Hi
i have a sister who has adhd. She's in middle school and im in high school. She has this attitude that i could just slap her for. Everything has to be her way and if i dont do EXACTLY what she wants she will hit me and yell and i mean yell. And if "moommy or daddy" is not home and i watch her and i punsih her she yells for mommy and daddy. Oh yeah , if i punish her she crys saying im so sorry dont ground me and then she will go into her room , lock the door and cry. I really cant take this. Shes hurting me and doesn't care...god i love her she doesnt see that...what can i do???       

Hey Cheerchicka

The tough part about ADHD is that it feels like you're in a parellel universe to everyone else, in your own little bubble. Sometimes you get so frustrated you take it out on others without taking their feelings into consideration. I'm 21 and have just been diagnosed, so if she has as well I can understand the feelings of anger and frustration.

Have you sat down and talked with her about it? No distractions, just you and her. Maybe you could try to actually bond with her by doing something she enjoys. Emphasise that you are meeting her halfway and that it's a team effort. I also don't think you should be in charge of grounding her. Instead, leave the majority of disciplining to your parents and maybe she will feel less resentful. She will feel you are working in unison when your parents aren't home, not one bossing the other one around.

I'm sure she has her unique and special good points. Try your best to focus on these, and let her know you're there for her to talk to, both as a sister and a friend. I know it means the world to me that my family wants to see me well. Good luck!

 

Kill her with kindness. When my little bro & I used to fight, I started holding back my anger, temporarily letting him be the boss. Let the parents deal with that part later. If they really got bugged by me not punishing him, they would have just got a sitter.

Now we're closer that we are to our parents. It's funny how sibling rivalry works. Just give it patience and offer her food or play a game and let her win. Anyways, hope my advice isn't total crap. Good luck, Cheerchica.
Many children with ADHD have poor impulse control and difficulty handling anger and frustration - this makes them more likely to be oppositional.  Add to this the prominance of sibbling rivalry and you have the makings for a disaster.  I hope your sister is medicated, and I hope you recognize her problem as an illness and pick your battles and forgive when possible.  Your parents might need someone else to watch her or some other arrangement for when they are gone (if that is possible) - if not try to avoid situations where you may trigger her yet at the same time keep an eye open on her.

Hi, im on the opposite end of this pole. Im 14 with ADHD. I have a younger sister too. She does not have ADHD. She doesnt understand it either and goes around mocking me for my medication. In the morning if i do something she doesnt like or rather anything if she's feeling spiteful "Have you had your pills? I dont think you have! Im gonna tell mom!" is what she says.

I am very clumsy, and i am very aggressive. No one believes me when i say i cant help it. When she aggrivates me it makes me exhausted just to not hit her. The few friends i have, have gotten in the way of my "moments" more often than not and it really upsets me. If i hurt someone, behave in an unpleasant way, or am not able to control myself. Believe me when i say she cares...i know. It is just very hard to show it.

I disagree with getting someone to watch your sister when they are gone. It is a frustrating thing and doesnt help. Keep your eyes open to her just dont try and instruct her. Do you know what medication she is on?

yeah, ritalin

Ritalin...is it working? Does she get the side effects?