New to this board. My son was diagnosed with ADD a couple months ago. He just turned 8. I have always known there is something different with him. We thought Central or Language Processing as a possibliity. He is not hyperactive at all, hes actually opposite (although he can get out of control now and again but nothing big)
Hes never been capable of holding much of a conversation with anyone. He's always saying "Im not sure, I dont know... Umm.. well..." He is always drifiting off at school and home. His teacher says he misses so much of whats going on in school, etc. He has to be told several times what to do and then often STILL doesnt do it. We put him on meds and he is like a regular kid. He can tell us things, he can get his words out. Before it was like it was all up in his head but he didn't quite know who to tell us.
My only gripe is this. I am so sensitive to people who comment on putting kids on meds. THey say "oh I'd NEVER put my kids on meds" or "Im against meds for kids... and etc" If they had my child I think theyd be singing a different tune. I dont tell everyone but sometimes it does come up and I feel like I have to defend those of us who need to do this for our children.
I guess I should just be happy its working for him. He remind me of the movie Awakenings where they have the patients who dont respond to anyone, dont talk and then they put them on dopemine and they get better. Its not quite as extreem as that with my son but with meds that person that is in there is able to get out and be a "regular kid". THanks for letting me vent. I hope I make sense.
You don't have to tell them when it comes up. I volunteer nothing. My time is too valuable to respond to that level of ignorance. They need to do their own homework. I've done mine. My mother and closest friend are in this pot. After spending years trying to convince them, I finally stopped talking to them about it. When they bring it up I say my child is doing GREAT! No more problems. How amazing. And they smile and say "see, he outgrew it!"You should not have to justify anything to anyone ever! Let them rot. I will not talk to my Mother because her views on my son and what should be done. None of relatives except my brother knows and that is because he takes him on trips with his daughters, his cousins. He is very no big deal about it. Other peoples opinions shouldn't matter to you and there is a lable with this but just ignore it and Advocate for your child, or pay for one. That is the best you can do. You are the mother and you know what is best. don't worry about others.I am new to this site, and I have had the same problem, as I'm guessing most of us have. Half the people think medicating a child is awful out of ignorance, some of them know somebody who didn't get medication and "turned out just fine", and there's the few that actually had a personal and positive experience with meds. I struggled with the thought of medicating my son (7 years old), especially because he doesn't (in my opinion) have a extreme case of ADHD. But his school work and social skills were suffering. I talked with one mom at work and found out her son, now in his 20's had ADHD and it sounds exactly like your child. And it was her experience that encouraged me to give it a try.
I do think that once you've made your decision to put your child on meds, it's best not to even talk to others about it, unless you have that special understanding person. It feels a little isolating to not talk about something so important and prevelant in your (and your child's) life, but hopefully this message board will help.
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