Son hates sports. | ADHD Information

My son does very poorly at team sports, and does not like anything really aerobic. Jessica N39908.3633912037

My son 10, is involved with the boy scouts, takes guitar lessons and we are looking for hoseback riding lessons. My mother complains all the time Look at Michael Phellps! My son hates sports and he is his own person. I feel he has a well rounded life and does LOT"S of activities with Boy scouts. I do not feel I should push my son to go to baseball as he kicks dirt and follows buterflies around the field. THIS IS NOT FOR HIM. I wish my mom would get off my back!

anyone else with good suggestions other than sports? I have heard fencing is good, and we did Tae Kwon Do for 3 years. He likes rock climbing and outdoor activities, that's one of the reasons he likes Boy Scouts so much!

It sounds to me like your son is getting a well rounded experience.  Sports are not for everyone!  I think scouting is great because you get to do so many different things.  I am all about exposing my kids to a lot of different things so that they can "find" their thing.  If your son is in scouts and takes music lessons it sounds like he is "involved" and it sounds like he has tried other things so he knows what he likes and doesn't like.  I would just keep trying different things like you are currently doing and see what "fits".  Some things we have tried are cooking lessons and we had a really good kids art program where I used to live.  Both of my boys loved it. (Kidz Art it was called).  Don't let your mom get to you (easier said than done!).  Sports are not for everyone!  Oh yeah, hase he tried acting?Sounds just like my son (who does not have ADHD, by the way), well, except for the horseback riding. He has never been into sports. At all. Not all boys have to like sports!
We looked into fencing too, but there was nothing in the area. He did enjoy archery for a while. And he and his friends hacky-sack sometimes. That probably wouldn't count as a sport as far as your mother is concerned though.
I agree that it sounds like your son has a well-rounded life. I do worry sometimes that my son isn't active enough. He did martial arts for a while too, and boy scouts, but isn't into any organized physical activity right now. Your son is, though, so nothing to worry about. Plus the outdoor activities can last a lifetime, whereas football and baseball usually don't.
My older son is NOT the sportsy-kind, in fact, he's a pretty laid-back, mellow kid with very few interests, which bothers me to some extent but I can't PUSH him to do something just because every other kid is! He struggles every day doing what's expected of him, behaving how he's supposed to that when he gets home, he relaxes and I'm okay with that.

my younger son is the sportsy kid. Wrestling AND soccer right now and he loves them both.

To me, it sounds like your son is well-rounded and thats all that matters!
My son plays so that he is included with the boys. I know his favorite thing in the world is the computer/video games, but he does play. He also likes to go and see the pro's live, especially the patriots. Otherwise it is a battle to get him to practice!! Thank you all for putting this in perspective for me. He is well rounded and likes different things than most. He loves Marine Biology and They just invited him to join a gifted program for enviromental issues. but his lifes plan is to be a wrestler he is 10 and 65 lbs. I don't think WWE is going to take him soon. We are touring the school (otherwise no way) and check out this special program. I really appreciate how you gals and guys, help to put things where they belong, I am not going to listen to my mom and I am not going to push him to do sports anymore.My son is 7 and we have not had so much success with sports either.  Before he was diagnosed we tried soccer-a complete mess.  He was paying more attention to what was going on over on the other fields than his own game.  We also tried karate when he was in preK, no luck there either.  We tried tennis as well. 

After we got the diagnosis, things started making sense to me.  We signed him up for boy scouts this year and he really enjoyed that.  The other thing we are having success with is a boys tumbling class at our local recreation center.  The instructor is really motivating and the boys seem to have a lot of fun.  He encourages the boys to try and focus on what they are doing.  My son seems to really like it and looks forward to it every week.  I wish it was a twice a week class....

I am pretty sure they do, I will have to look into that.  That sounds like a good idea!  Thanks cali1234! 

Neither of my kids are sports guys. They are just not into it.  Just like your son, we are a scouting family.  I mentioned Tae Kwon Do to my son, and he had a fit-he doesn't want to "get hurt".  I had him in swimming lessons, but he's so nervous he never did well.  Do you know what-I don't care!  Branden will be his own person, with or without sports.  Scouting allows him to hang with the other boys. 

 

As for your mother-you know your son better than she does. Conventional wisdom is that boys do sports, but if our kids were conventional, we would not be on this board. You do what is best for your son.  Your mother raised her kids, now it's your turn.  You are a good mother-don't let your mom tell you any different just because your son does not like sports.

JMHO

I can't help but laugh...... 

Before he was diagnosed, back in preschool, we signed my son up for soccer.  I felt sorry for the bigger kids on the team, because my son didn't do anything to help them out, that is for sure.  While he was the youngest there, he was also the one that had NO interest in the ball either!  He just ran around the field, off in his own little world.

At least he got some exercise out of it! 

Tried flag football this past season.  Ha ha, not much better.   Bad idea!  He was all over the place!  Just running around, doing his own thing!  Practices were a nightmare! 

I think we are going to hold off on anymore sports until HE brings it up!

I still like to make suggestions like a week or two of activities that he likes like beach activities, surfing and rock wall climbing and other more one on one type activity, once in a while he says yes. right now horses are his passion but I am having troubly finding some one within our price range..

Oh I wish I could suggest the beach!!  Used to live by one out in California, now live in the Midwest, so the beach suggestion is unfortunately not an option anymore! 

My son does like to run around outside, and ride his bike, but when it comes to an organized sport, he just doesn't do well.  Has a little trouble playing well with other kids still.  I think that will get better with medicine and time.  At least I hope! 

Some activities are so pricey, I know.  I have heard that horse back riding runs pretty high!

have you thought about sports more like tennis, wrestling or something like that where they are more focused on individual winning, rather than a team sport like soccer?

I have thought about wrestling, as well as karate.  I have heard that karate brings with it discipline. 

I do think I am going to wait a little while though, until we get his behavior on track, then if he asks about something we may try it. 

We did the swimming lessons too, I thought they would be good for him, more for safety than anything else, and all he wanted to do is play with the guy that was trying to teach him.  In fact when the lessons were over they said he didn't "pass", and that he would need to repeat the beginner class next time.

He is just not into anything like that.  Period.  He would much rather just do his own thing right now, and I am not real concerned about it either.  We have bigger issues to deal with, such as behavior at school.  Until that gets better we won't be even discussing any "extra" activities.

My son loved swimming, it actually relaxed him. I had him in private lessons with a teacher who was a college swimmer and senior at the age of 19, as well as adhd'er himself!!

We did swimming lessons a lot before meds and then for a few summers during meds. He would still sometimes show off looking to make friends but it didn't work most times. He really likes football and baseball.

Meds really changed my son's behavior, he could now control his impulsiveness. Other than that, he is shy

Oh my...  my son is the opposite of shy.    He talks to strangers (when he's with mom or dad that is)...  He tells strangers all the time if he likes something they are wearing.  I think it's cute.  He is not the type though that would go anywhere with one.  Whew! 

I guess I will stick to waiting until the behavior/impulsiveness gets better, and then when he asks about sports or an activity we will look into it.

Do they have 4-H where you live? I'm not sure if it's just a midwest thing. I thought it was just about farming and agriculture, but once I looked into it more, it sounds like it might be great for my son who is almost 7. They do projects with Legos, and a lot of science projects. Maybe that's an idea?Wyatt wants to go to college too but I am very afraid it may not happen.  I will keep encouraging him to do whatever he wants to do and I'll pray for the best.  I just hope one day my mother will accept him for who he is. He is happy without sports.  For now I will let him keep handling her.  He's seems to have a knack for it. ha haBranden has declared that he wants to be the President of the United States!   Nothing like aiming high!  I told him that he had better concentrate and do well in school if that is his goal.Wyatt's mom- Jake is happy doing his thing with biy scouts and the guitar right now. He is doing great at all activities but wants to be a wwe wrestler when he grows up AAAKKKKK! I hope that changes soon. he does want to go to college and I told him he needs to focus more on schoolwork than tv games and computer. those are the enemy here in our house, they suck the brain right out of his head. [QUOTE=Wyatt's Mom] Wyatt was on the floor in the living room playing wiht Legos and my mother told him he needed to go outside and "be active".  He very innocently told her "no I'm ok but you can go".  [/QUOTE]

Spamula I think our mothers are related!  Last weekend she was over and the other kids were outside riding scooter and bike (first weekend we've actually seen dirt and tar through the snow).  Wyatt was on the floor in the living room playing wiht Legos and my mother told him he needed to go outside and "be active".  He very innocently told her "no I'm ok but you can go".  It was a riot!!!  He is who he is.  Mason will be a star at baseball and Wyatt will build and paint.  The bottom line is...is your son happy?