Meltdown Day here. | ADHD Information
We have done that once, since he has been on medication, and it hasn't happened again!! It was in the beginning, and the school called not even 2 hrs into the day. I had to leave work and go take him his meds! Ever since then I have never forgot, it's just a morning habit.
Good luck finding a good school too. I wouldn't want to send my son to a school like you were describing, that is for sure. I know about the minority thing, I used to live in California too, and that certainly seems to be the case. My DS 10.5 is having a huge meltdown day today. It started from the minute he woke up this am and has continued through the day. It is driving the family apart. He doesn't seem to care how we feel of what we want. ONLY JAKE. His father has offered him a family night out at his favorite restaurant. We will see when he gets home in 1 hour. Jake is thoroghly attacked verbally the whole family and pretends that nothing has ever happened. AARRGGHH!!How are things going Spamula? This is indeed a very stressful situation for all concerned. You mentioned in your post about Jake having an inhaler. Does he have asthma?
The thing with children is that disoerder or not, they will do what works to get what they want. While some behaviors are not a choice they make, some are and they are smart enough to know that if they wear the family down they will get their way. When Jake verbally attacks the family and makes unreasonable demands are you imposing consequences? Sometimes we re so exhausted that we just give in which only enables the bad behavior. I'm not saying your doing that but its perfectly normal to throw the towel in sometimes due to sheer exhaustion.. It seems that some behavior modification and knowing there will be serious consequences might tone down such demanding behavior. I hope things have quieted down. Take a deep breath mom and know you are doing the very best that you can.
Well it seems as though unstructured time to play on video games and computer is all my son wants for his life. Yesterday, he had been good for about 2 hours and I took him to the local mall where he was concerned that he could get some clothers on my big discount. he picked out his own t-shirts and baseball hats. even a jacket and some books (about wrestlers) but all in all it was a nice day. Dad came home from his firetruck party we all went in the jacuzzi and then I went to bed. Now I am up at 4am and I always find myself here I hope for a good school day as well.I'm with Jake, I want unstructured playtime ONLY too .
You know, I really find when my kids cannot BE NICE, sending them alone to their room with ZERO attention from me works like magic. I refuse to interact with them until the speak nicely. I even make them ask over and over until they use an appropriate tone. I even still do this my 14 year old. If they can't be nice they stay alone. I've told them I won't be talked to that way and although I can't make them be nice, I do not have to tolerate them being disrepectful.
Hope you have a better day
that is what we do here. jake will get sent to his room with no computer or games until he can come out and discuss it more respectfully.I sit here at 5:15 1/2 hour from waking him up and I get nervous like what kind of day is this going to be. plus it is big homework night and Boy scouts tonight. Homework is going to suck today. He is melting down and says he can't do homework. ay yay yay yay ya why all of the sudden meldowns? maybe with the increased dose he is crashing harder. He has no complaints. Sometime I wonder if he is bipolar.
Although I am told he is much better in class than before and is grasping the material he just is too burnt out for homework.
The stress is coming back at me , Is this puberty or what?
probably both. I always found with a dose increase, the harder the rebound. 10.5 is very likely to be the beginning of puberty.Puberty? I don't know if I could live with that OMG! that monster known as puberty I dread it so god was I bad during that time I mean Horrible. I don't want for Jake to be where I ended up at 12. Runnaway from home living on the streets and begging for food. Not where I want my son to go.no way. he's got such a supportive Mom....................he's a lucky boy.
There's one positive about puberty, they come out better on the other side 
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no way. he's got such a supportive Mom....................he's a lucky boy.
There's one positive about puberty, they come out better on the other side .
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Ditto Diane! Just wanted to add that this holds true in conjunction with effective treatment . Thanks for pointing out the positives as it helps Mom grin and bear the days of puberty
Sounds like my Jacob..... just fine on the weekends when he can play his nintendo ds for hours at a time!! He is so content when he has that in his hands! I wish he could focus at school like he does with that thing!
OMG! Jake forgot to take his pills yesterday and could not function at all. when he got home he was a complete mess. That won't happen again. I dread this morning waking him up in 45 min. [QUOTE=spamula]I kind of screwed things up here sorry. I am interested why did yopu change the school, what was different about it?[/QUOTE]
Sorry, I wasn't very clear. I only mentioned choosing a school because you had mentioned that your son was freaked out when talking about different choices for middle school.
We changed schools when my daughter started middle school. She could have gone to our local public middle school or she could have gone to the charter school that her older brother and her neighborhood friend go to. It is a "college prep" charter school for grades 6-12 with accelerated academics and a very good reputation academically. However it has pretty much nothing as far as arts are concerned and my daughter loves music, drama, dance, and art. It also would have been tough for my daughter academically and my gut feeling was that socially and otherwise, it just wasn't right for her.
So instead we chose an arts-oriented charter school, also for grades 6-12 and we couldn't be happier. My daughter LOVES this school and has made friends with wonderful, creative girls. Every day she gets to do drama, voice (singing), and art in addition to her academic classes. The academic teachers also use some creative teaching techniques. My daughter is doing well academically and was even chosen as a member of the National Junior Honor Society, something I had never imagined for her.
I do believe that finding the right school can make all the difference. I think if your child has a passion for something, it's important to pursue it. And also follow your gut instincts when choosing a school. I think I remember reading somewhere, Spamula, that your son might go to a gifted program centering on marine biology?? Or am I confused?
We are fortunate that the state we live in has numerous tuition-free charter schools and that we're able to take advantage of this.
I screwed up a quote and it posted funny. my son is just starting to look at schools we have our name in many charter schools, 1 magnet ,you are only allow to apply to one, and we checked out a program for gifted kids at our home school. we were the only white people on campus and they had armed gaurds and metal detectors. not for us. The marine biology is awesome but is only 9-12 we need something closer by our beaches we have many.Tis one is far down the beach for us to drive. There is nothing in the Valley where I live that has more hands on schooling, compared to the book stuff. they are all for minority. It seems as though here where we live outside LA white is the minority. Can't get in anywhereI hope you're able to find the right fit for your son.
We're lucky that it's not so difficult where we live. Although I do a lot of driving. My daughter's school is a 20 minute drive (one way in good traffic), and my son's is 5 miles in the opposite direction. Also, my daughter's school is not in the nicest area and some of the kids who go there are pretty freaky looking. I'm sure some people would think I'm nuts for making this choice, but like I said, we couldn't be happier. I hope you're able to find a good choice for your son!
inspired bymusic, so glad you found a school that is the right fit for your daughter. I also had found the best setting possible for my daughter and it was the best decision I ever made. Finding the right program and school for our kids can be difficult and not all alternative programs are the right fit. I hope you can find a school that is conducive to your sons needs. He really needs a break and needs to feel good about himself.
Sam E39904.270775463Well we had a family night out and went to dinner. I went to bed when we got home, Jake played with toys, and Mark covered up his firetruck. This morning, The "King" has demanded breakfast in bed and is being rude again. I can't take another day of this! What the heck is wrong with him? He was sick pretty bad for a few days now, didn;t get enoughsleep the night before but today no excuses! Now he has eaten in bed and he is demanding I bring his meds to him, I noticed he was coughing so lod he couldn't breathe so I got his inhalers as well and gave him the whole mess, and now he wants to listen to Ipod(2new songs)WHoo Hoo.
I want him to get out of bed and get moving around here he has chores to do as well.
spamula39901.2981597222Well we had a meeting with my son and his teacher last night to discuss homework and OMG what came out of his desk. 1. all his homework and classwork scrunched in and lowered his grades, 2. trash. 3 pencils tons unsharpened, and oh yeah books. we completely were put off of the amount of junk and good homework (too late to turn in). Now we have to have a desk cleaning/meeting with his teacher every week. AARRGGHH! We also discussed middle schools and my son went bezerk totally. he only wants to go where his friend are going but that might not be where we get in. He was very unhappy and explained to him it for his good just like he and dad went to different scout meetings to pick a troop for Jake we were picking a school best for Jake. boy was that a rotten face, He also went to his first real boy scout meeting in his new troop last night. I have yet to hear how that went.Yep, he needs organization help. I heard Sylvan is giving 2 hours free -don't know the details - maybe some formal and direct organizational
training might help?they are supposed to be doing it at school, another part of the 504 they aren't doing. I will be cheching out that sylvan suggestion, or I will find someone who teaches it we have a great ADHD clinic near my home yet my insurance won't pay and I can't afford it without the insurace. There are many people in these parts that do this sort of thing, He also needs social skills training. It all costs so much money!!!! This is not fair. this is a chronic condition and do not cover a thing. My insurance only considers learning disorders and he has none.In my opinion, a good teacher would routinely (weekly) have a system for kids sorting out their desks and would give a child extra help if they needed it. Kids learn organization when their teachers are organized and have systems in place for this sort of thing IMO. I also believe that your son should get credit for the homework he completed. If the teacher were more organized, it probably would have been turned in closer to on time. Your son is being penalized for symptoms of ADHD.
Hopefully the middle school your son attends next year will be a much better fit for him and they will provide the support he needs. And of course you are ready to make sure that 504 is enforced!
(When my daughter was in 5th grade, she went through a phase where she thought she wanted to go to the same school that her friends was going. We're SO glad she didn't go there. It wouldn't have suited her at all whereas she loves the school we chose and is doing great there.)
QUOTE=inspiredbymusic]In my opinion, a good teacher would routinely (weekly) have a system for kids sorting out their desks and would give a child extra help if they needed it. Kids learn organization when their teachers are organized and have systems in place for this sort of thing IMO. I also believe that your son should get credit for the homework he completed. If the teacher were more organized, it probably would have been turned in closer to on time. Your son is being penalized for symptoms of ADHD.
Hopefully the middle school your son attends next year will be a much better fit for him and they will provide the support he needs. And of course you are ready to make sure that 504 is enforced!
(When my daughter was in 5th grade, she went through a phase where she thought she wanted to go to the same school that her friends was going. We're SO glad she didn't go there. It wouldn't have suited her at all whereas she loves the school we chose and is doing great there.)
[/QUOTE] I kind of screwed things up here sorry. I am interested why did yopu change the school, what was different about it?