My husband was out of town and I honestly thought that DS2 would be excited to see the projects on display and that would hold his attention but I think that we got there too early and had to wait so my fault for the timing.
Once we got home and I had time to speak with DS1 about his brother's behavior I did tell him that he doesn't behave like that to make him mad or to upset him but that sometimes it is difficult for him to control his behavior and emotions. Not that I was excusing his behavior at all (in fact he had to come home and go right to bed) but just trying to explain it as best I could.
Next time I will know better and see if I can get a sitter or someone else to watch the younger 2 so that I can focus on the older one.
It seems to be a rather impulsive week for DS2 so maybe he isn't getting enough sleep. I'll try getting him to bed earlier next week to see if that helps him (and me!! )
My son has been very impulsive recently (more so than usual & more than I feel like I can tolerate). Some of the better examples include - putting a handful of change in his soup while waiting for it to cool, peeing on the side of my neighbors house (in full view of everyone) b/c he waited too long and didn't ask if he could go inside to use the bathroom, being very loud when he needs to use a softer voice and then last night climbing at inappropriate times and yelling at me during a school function. The last one really did me in. We went to a school event for ds1 at 7:00. DS2 & DS3 (who is 2) were nutty all evening. I tried several times to talk to them quietly and calmly about their behavior but no real changes. I told them they had to hold my hand in the hallway since they wouldn't stop running around and climbing where they shouldn't. Of course they didn't want to do that so DS2 starts screaming that I'm hurting him and then the baby started copying his big brother & yelling it too! How embarrasing!!! We didn't stay long at DS1s event b/c of the behavior of the other 2 and DS1 was devastated and cried. If I had given a half dose of meds after school would it have lasted long enough to get us through the evening activity or would it have worn off by 7? I am just struggling with why he seems more impulsive within the last week or so. Maybe it is me and I don't have the same tolerance i used to. I don't know. I feel like I am yelling at him everyday for some reason and I know that is not fair to him as he can't always control his body. Any suggestions?I too stuggle with a attention seeking child. MY Darling Niece. she's 2.7 years older than my DD almost 6. Sometimes i plat tricks on her to distract her. in stead of saying shhhh I give her a sucker. other times i give someone else a sucker for some silly hing they do and like a moth. she hones in my attention im giving others she'' goas far as knocking suckers out of other kids hands if she doesnt get one "opps" then he loudness of screaming gets all parents involved.
so my trick is to have a silly contest on how can catch a favorite rubber ball i keep in my tool belt- pocket. previously the kids argue over it. last moth it was a little doll hats. so after its all said and done i pick up those small toys and put them in the car. Attention seeking kids like to do small jobs or tasks that they recieve praise for.so i get attention with the toys but then send her on a mission.at just the right time i give out a sucker or treat or a can of soda that keeps her Quiet , or occupied , or something in her hands that she wouldnt dare let go of. with her hands full she's less likley to grab things that I have to correct her about.when I time it right i can praise her for praising the other kids . Theyre not adhd but attention seeking behavoir is betwween 80 & 90 of behavior.sometimes like the coins thing above there are natrual consequincesso when they also get negative attention (a scolding or yelled at) they tend to keep on doing impulsive things for attention. even just to divert attention a sibling is getting.something on he order of cleaning the coins and time out until its done time out rules vary , IM a believer in time out but it has to be consistent .trying to explain to my DD thats time to be quiet never works .
since i do the time out thing wih
1 finger 2 fingers 3 fingers which means disciple is going to happen nowi can usually just get her attention with putting
1 finger as she see's it. i put it to my mouth SHHHH FOLLOWED BY A QUICK 2 fingerthis works for me but only because thats what im consistent with.I can only imagine having three and doing it alone . that's just an uphill battle hats off to you .Its nice to have an alternaive parents to run interference . when a sibling is center stage. sometimes parents of playmates can take turns in a back hall keeping things smoother.once it become an all out hyper outburst though its like everything else .
hand gestures .
minimize stimuless by using calm voice convince them somewhere esle is where they want to be . Ice cream out side followed by what parents do best!!!!!!!creative outlet goes a long way when attention is given to it. thats why put things on the refridgerator .. i use gold star stickers for hings i encourage .I have admit it though . i have used princess stickers on my niece.a small book from the dollar store for quiet when it mattered . the shiny unicorn ones that they usually argue over.again its something equivalent to a distraction appears to be attention. it takes her eyes off what she's targeting. it requires no speaking and keeps her hands busy . also praising her for being quiet if if she's not .attention seeking kids like praise so if you tell them why thier getting praise . they tend to do just what youve suggested.
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I see this one all the timea crying child being told to stop crying or the parent do do something the child will cry about. youll be grounded . you wont get. ill spank you outside!control battles with children is like playing tug of war.as long as youre arguing with them theyre in control.drop the rope tell them when theyre ready to talk calmly they can come back from time out.from point of view im rightbut as we all know if someone disagrees it does no good to square off and become defensive.its better to listen to why they disagree.but with kids its tricky. when you explore thier point of view they expect you finnaly see thier side. but they get over ruled . heres where the suggestion comes in. instead of disagreing offer a positve out come and move on . understand what approachability
hmmmm i think im going off topic .
impulsiveness isnt allways bad but it does get alot of attention.
Luvmykids0239918.5740393519Is it sleep related? My son's ADHD behaviors are really exaggerated with lack of sleep.
SOMETHING I TRIED TO INSTILL
in teens that i know are always tired at school.
i ask them .
if its 1130 now and i wake you up at 6am how many hours of sleep are going to get. 6 1/2 hmm isay you know that youre suppossed to get 12-10 hrs on school nights right?
the next day i try to catch them when thier grumpy and irritated and bring it back up. good sleep helps you focuss cause yur mnd was rested!
they always roll thier eyes at me .
but later i try to let them know when hier out of school they need get sleep on work nights for the same reason.
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then i go into more depth about sleep deprivation and how it makes everything harder to do .
if im lucky they connect thier adhd impulses and sleep deprivation as a poor combination .
I gave up on the talk about sleep with my son - it wasn't his fault, it was the