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Welcome AJsmama Your child is getting what is called transient tics. Some children on stimulant medication may get these tics if they have a propensity towards tic disorder. However, the meds don't cause tic disorder and once you stop the meds the tics normally go away. As suggested, contact your child's doctor asap and alert him or her about the tics. What type of doctor is treating your childs symptoms? Unless your child is under the care of a specialist for ADHD and med management, pediatricians do not have the knowledge or expertise with regard to med management and ADHD. Please let us know how things are going.

Hello everyone :)

My name is Kristen and this is the first time I have been on this forum.  My son is eight years old, and was diagnosed with ADHD when he started the second grade.

I guess the main reason I joined this forum is to try and realize that there are many parents out there who are struggling with this like I am.  I struggle because I feel like I can't help him enough, I struggle with the lack of patience I have for his disability, and I struggle with the fact that I feel like I never can have a peaceful day...no time for myself to just relax and not worry.

Andrew is a wonderful kid.  Smart, so funny, full of life, and over all a very happy kid.  But, school is hard, and keeping him on track is hard, and sometimes I just don't know how to handle it!

I think the worst part right now is that the meds he is taking are giving him "tics".  They are getting worse lately and it hurts so bad to see him suffer with them.  What do you do?  Can't stop the ADHD meds, but do we just watch him suffer?  Who knows..

Anyway...just wanted to meet some parents who might have insight..and maybe I can give some of mine too..when I have it!

 

This is a great place - it was a godsend when I was just starting out on
my journey.

As far as the meds go - there are 3 main classes of drugs, and multiple
types of medications under each class. I would definitely get in touch
with your son's doctor as soon as possible to report the tics, especially
since they're getting worse. He could need the dosage adjusted or he
might need a different drug. And if school is still hard, that's another red
flag that something's not right with the drug.

What are you doing to help him out? My son has problems with
transitions, so we have routines in place. He also responds to goals
rather than discipline, so we come up with goals together.

What specifically do you have the biggest problems with? It's very
possible that someone reading will have the perfect piece of advice to
help you out.

Best of luck!

wow

i wish my mom cared enough too

seek support

feel like she could help

trying to keep me on track

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being consistent.

you will worry     thats what good caring parents do.

the meds   thats between parents and doctors.

but keeping a med journal    helps you  see trends and tendencies.

what i mean by consistent is

 

know  youre own baseline  attitude.   If  you  arnt up to an evening   of " struggling "  then  an evening to yourself    is needed too.

your health and peace of mind  is as important as his , and as a partent   if youre tense  kids sense it .  i think its human nature   to sense   when someone is is stressed  .

i ramble too much  so ill try to get to my point.

his routine may need a break from you.  and you from him.

ok ok   that sounds bad    but   im certian   that most  struggling parents do need  help  from other care givers  - alternates 

this gives towards   routine  and  leads to quality time.

i know  the "on track " you worry  -  i agree  are very important

reduces many "emotional" issues with frustration  staying on track.  

but 

also important that   a calm fresh parents  ready to handle things.

-I sigh -

there are times  i i know if my  DW (darling wife)  and   DD (darling daughter)

 could just  seperate  things wouldnt be  soooooooo

so  one night a week   i take my dd to girl scouts   and let her do   gil things

then i demand my cave time    house to my self  to do my   CAVE things.

but that

pushes  my DW  out     . so she goes to where she enjoys  adult  friends gather.

the next day were back on track.

getting other parents to help out   with picking up and dropping off is another form  of alternate.

my DD see's  expectatioons  that other parents have  for tier children.

when were all together again  there ssualy a little limits testing by DD   but since mom and I are fresh   we back eachother up united .  "back to dong homework right after school .  then review by mom  after dinner.

well thats what we do.

we give attention  or praise for stroong efforts

rewards for milestones

help when needed  if appreciated or appropriate.

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to change things up   .I go to a mc donalds play ground  to do school work.

no rewards there .  if she doesnt do it on her own  then we leave early.

 I always get into those funny conversations with other parents but what else is there to do. beside stuff our faces.

mean while  moms getting a fresh serving of   CAVETIME   home alone  by  time we come home  DD  IS READY FOR MOM  . since me and mom  are on the same  page and united about DD homework  .  a fresh mom  is hard  to beat.

 

so i get what you mean about needing to relax  .   wihout it i would be  "mean daddy"  ohh i hate it when she says that.  but    its usually just for  control and attention.---------

 

opps i did  go on and onn again.

 

time and space are very importan to young and old adhd alike.  well cant speak for all  ADDers. 

after i tell DD something   I give her a few minutes to think about what i said. 

to process it

I also step back  and create space  for her to calm down in   .  a litle time  and space till shes calmer then  i help her get started. 

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good night  

welcome to this board

I concur - I give myself timeouts whenever I need them. And when I'm in a
timeout it's the same as when my son is - I go to my room and shut the
door until I'm completely in control again. Doesn't happen that often, but
I'm really glad I have the option.