What esle can I do? | ADHD Information

 

Hi could do with any advise please no mtter how little.

I spent most of last night in tears. My 8 year old had a major outburst she has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and a small amount of Autisim.

To be honest I'm not sure what caused last nights outburst but it was huge she tries to restrain me and actually hurt me a little. We are waiting to see another medical person but I'm not sure who to be honest waiting to hear . She is not on med's at the moment but now I wounder if I should have said yes.

She gets disciplined for things and although this can cause problems she will accept whatever we decide  but it's when she has these outbursts I just don't no what to do.

If I talk she screams if I don't say anything she grabs me. I feel  like I can't do anything apart from just stand there and let her finish. Afterwards she needs lots of reasurance andI know she can't help it .

 

How do you cope ?

It sounds like you are dealing with a lot!

May I ask, why no meds for her? I think they could really help what is going on!!

IS she on an IEP/504? If there is autism in the diagnosis, she would definetly qualify.

How much is school helping?

 

 

My husband and myself were not so keen to put her on the med's but to be honest I wished I had said could we please maybe try.

As for IEP/504 this is all new to me. I'm hoping to get a copy of the doctors letter when he comes back from his holidays. I meet with the school next week tofind out whats whats . To be honest not sure how this will go.

I wounder if it's possible to contact her doctor and ask if we could maybe try meds?

 

 

It is you and your husband's decision. If the child has been diagnosed by a doctor, then you most certainly can try meds.

Let us know if we can help.

As far as school, you need to put in writing a letter that you are requesting that your child be evaluated for an IEP - Individual Education Plan. Feel free to bring it to the school personally, but you need to put it in writing, not a phone call. They have X number of business days to complete it, mark your calendar, they sometimes tell you things delay them, but it is the law, they need to follow it!!

My son periodically has tantrums - especially if he's off schedule, like he
stays ups a few hours too late at night - and I just let him burn it out of him.
Unless he's hurting someone, it will end on it's own, and I try not to react.
I'll talk to him after it.

My son went 2.5 years without medicine. I tried everything to keep him in
control. It was a huge amount of work, but it was worth it. And I absolutely
have different standards for him than I would a non-ADHD kid. I pick my
battles and make sure he can function in society at least to my minimum
standards.

Triggers

 

 

 

 

 

start keeping a journal  .

keep track of what shes like with and without meds

with and without outbursts.

 

keep a an eye on triggers.

 

sometimes  the only time i can get my DD to stop hroughing a fit  is to tell her  "NO"

"NO" IS A TRIGGER WORD   for her.

so sometimes i see a fit coming     i get her to a place where she's isolated  and in a safe place and  say  "NO" 

other triggers i see from time to time.

unfair

attention

calling her a name

peer pressure to be defiant

 

triggers are  unique to each individule.

i know alot of my own and  seek alternative to avoid them.

 so know her triggers and   discussing them with her  will help on some emotional levels

what ive seen over time is   a the need for attention  .

a child gets close to the triggers  for attention  .

so removing he triggers from thier environments  is 1 way

yet picking  a trigger  to cope with  in a theraputic environment  is also

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