These children develop a negative attitude due to all the negative feedback they receive from society in general. They start to become what they are told they are. The frustration and anger are a result of low self esteem and that's why I always state that the earlier the interventions begin, the better the outcome. Many play the wait and see card but during those most formative years of the child's life, without effective treatment the child is getting repeatedly bashed emotionally. The results can be irreversible damage to the child's self esteem. The child doesn't enjoy being angry, frustrated, being isolated by peers and constantly being rejected and put down.
There are 3 subtypes for an ADHD diagnosis and one of them being Inattentive ADHD. Because the child isn't bouncing around (HYPERACTIVE) doesn't mean the child doesn't have ADHD. An Inattentive diagnosis is very often hard to spot and many times overlooked so the child is perceived as just lazy and spaced out.
Hormonal changes further exacerbate the problems but again, the child doesn't choose to live in such a state of turmoil all the time. The entire family unit is affected as well and the best and only way to get through these years and help the child achieve their personal best is by getting effective treatment, educating yourself as a parent about ADHD and the treatments for it, picking and choosing your battles and lastly, trying to maintain a sense of humor. The child should never feel that they have to be the best. Parents must encourage the child to strive to be their personal best. Compliments should be given when earned as otherwise the child falls into a false sense of security. While all their achievements should be rewarded, they have to also be prepared for the real world.
Always remind yourself as a parent that you are doing your best and by on going education, you are able to make the most informed decisions for your child. These children, like any other child are not perfect so not everything they do that is considered unacceptable needs to be considered an adhd moment. Children will be children and parents are only human. The point is that as I stated above, continue to educate yourself and pick and choose your battles. All parents who come here looking for support and advice are good, loving parents. Hugs to all and hang in there
Luvmykids0239935.3927199074Yes, my 6 yo daughter gets like this. I load her up with compliments constantly, and with high doses of omega-3 as well for those mood issues.My son has anxiety and mood swings when he is doing homework and coming off the meds. It is usually not too bad but this week has been for some reason. DS is 10.5 years old. His attitude has been very negative about himself and saying things he doesn't mean but says to piss me off. He is at that age where changes hormonal and otherwise are hard for him to deal with.Just a general observation, but my son seems to get such a negative attitude when he feels inadequate (ie baseball, or homework) he will say things like "i'm no good, i will never be able to do it, etc...". You know i wonder at times how many behaviors i excuse b/c he has ADHD and how many are legitamite. You know i wonder sometimes how he carries such weight on his shoulder if life is always a mixture of such extremes. DO you guys feel in general the frustration and negativity is quite common w/ ADHD kids?I see the same thing in my 7 year old son. After school, he is so negative, doesn't want to do homework, no one likes him, he doesn't want to go to baseball anymore, he hates to read, he hates his teacher, everything. And no matter what I say, nothing seems to help him. I know his medication is probably wearing off, and he's probably tired and hungry (from not eating his lunch, but of course, all he wants to eat is carbs and sugary food when he comes home - we're working on that).
Anyway, yes, I see frustration and negativity in my son. He didn't really go through this last year, but he was only half day kindergarten too, so being in school all day may be a part of the problem. I also see extreme silliness and literally bouncing off the walls (and whoever is near him) in the morning before school.
Kathy
My son was incredibly frustrated before the school got it together and